Loss of libido in women: causes and solutions

Addressing loss of libido in women in a simple, uninhibited, and precise way: that's the whole point of this article! In the lines below, you'll find key and useful information If loss of libido is a topic you want to learn about and take action on! 💬

• “I have less desire”

• “I feel too tired”

• “I feel disconnected from my body.”

• “It’s not my priority.”

• “The less I do it, the less I want to do it.”

If any of these phrases sound familiar, know that you are not alone! There are causes for this, but also solutions! 😘

Loss of libido in women is much more common than we think, but it's still under-addressed. It's shrouded in silence, guilt, false beliefs, or sexist injunctions. As a result, a woman who has less desire is often a woman who doubts herself, her femininity, her relationship... when what she really deserves to understand is what's going on in her body! 💭

At Puissante, we speak the truth. Because a decline in sexual desire is neither inevitable nor shameful. It is a hormonal, emotional, contextual reality, which deserves all our attention, our tenderness and our expertise!

Moreover, we would like to take this opportunity to point out that not all women necessarily “suffer” from experiencing a drop in libido. This decrease or loss of desire can also be experienced in a positive way and with hindsight for some. ✨
In this blog, we discuss some existing solutions for a loss of libido in women, but that doesn't mean that you have to act on it! Here, there's no injunction to find anything, as long as you're coping with the situation.
Just answers to questions, reliable information , and solutions if you need them. 🫶

In short, if you experience a drop/loss of libido and you are coping well : everything is OK!
If you are experiencing a drop/loss of libido and are having a hard time with it, don't worry, because we have some tips and a good dose of solutions. 🛠️

A short intro on how libido works

Yes, it's normal to have less or no sexual desire all the time. Yes, it's normal for libido to fluctuate. depending on periods of life, events, hormones or general condition. And so, no, it's not "abnormal" not to want to!
Female desire is not an “on/off” switch that malfunctions as soon as it drops. It is a living, sensitive, complex emotion/feeling that is often impacted by many invisible factors: stress, fatigue, mental load, alcohol, physical activity, hormones, intimate health, past relationships, contraception, relationship dynamics, or even our relationship with ourselves! 🧠

Libido in women is cyclical, contextual, and multifactorial . Contrary to popular belief, desire does not necessarily work on command, nor as an immediate impulse. It can sometimes come “in response” to physical, visual, bodily, or even imaginary stimulation, and sometimes not respond at all!
It may take time to build, require security, trust, foreplay, or a conducive atmosphere. Therefore, if you are stressed, exhausted, angry, or feel undesirable , chances are your libido won't show up or respond.

Loss of libido is rarely linked to a single factor. It can be the combination of a complex and interdependent physical, emotional, relational, and hormonal context . But the good news is: it can be done , and nothing is ever fixed when it comes to libido.

What are the common causes of loss of libido in women?

After establishing some basic principles, let's take a closer look at the most common causes of a decrease or disappearance of desire in women.

1. Hormones

Hormonal fluctuations play a major role. Decreased estrogen , decreased testosterone , postpartum hormonal imbalance, menopause, hormonal contraception (pill, IUD, etc.). These variations can directly impact arousal, vaginal lubrication, desire, and sexual pleasure.

💬 “After giving birth, I was lost. My body had changed, I no longer wanted sex, and I felt guilty. I discovered it was hormonal, and it freed me.” – Sophie, 36

2. Mental load and stress

Mental load can be a real killer libido. Between work life, personal life, children, emotional burden, anxiety, chronic fatigue... there is often little energy left for desire. Chronic stress elevates cortisol, a hormone that inhibits the production of dopamine and estrogen, and therefore desire. 💡

3. The couple's relationship

A lack of communication, tensions, a lack of trust, a too rigid routine, an imbalance of pleasure between partners, or painful sexual intercourse can gradually extinguish the flame in one of the two partners.
Here, we keep in mind that loss of libido is often a signal, not a problem in itself. ☝️

4. Intimate health and pain

Vaginal dryness, infection, pain during intercourse, chronic yeast infection, or undiagnosed vaginismus can make sex uncomfortable or even painful. The result? The brain anticipates discomfort, and libido disappears as a protective measure. ✋
If you are going through menopause, this vicious circle can become even more prevalent!

5. Contraception

Mentioned above in the “hormones” section, we allow ourselves to add a little layer with contraception, because it can be a full-fledged cause of your decrease in desire! Certain hormonal methods can have an impact on female libido . In particular, the contraceptive pill , which acts on sex hormones, can cause a drop in testosterone, affecting desire. The same goes for certain hormonal IUDs. 📉

6. Mental health

Low morale , anxiety, depression , mental fatigue , low self-esteem ... all these factors affect pleasure and desire. Libido is closely linked to the image you have of yourself, your body, and your sensuality. So don't neglect this important part , which also affects many other aspects of your life!
Mental health must be taken seriously. To be well in your body, well in your mind! ❤️

What are the signs of low libido in women?

• Absence or decrease in desire, excitement
  

• Less interest in sex or petting
  

• Decreased frequency or pleasure of sex
  

• Difficulty reaching orgasm
  

• Irritation, pain, or dryness during intercourse
  

• Gradual disinterest in the couple's sexual life
  

• Feelings of distance or indifference towards sexuality
  
  

💡 Important reminder: not wanting to is not necessarily a problem. The real question is: is it weighing you down? Do you want to regain your libido, to understand, to reconnect?
There is nothing to “improve” if you don’t feel the desire or need to!

 

What solutions are there to regain your libido?

1. Identify the causes 🔍

First and foremost, it's essential to consult a healthcare professional to take stock. A gynecologist, sexologist, or even a general practitioner who listens can help you identify the physiological, hormonal, or psychological causes of your loss of desire. This is especially true if you're pregnant, postpartum, or going through menopause!
This also allows us to rule out any causes that could be related to other problems, a disorder, a dysfunction or an illness.
The idea: to get straight on the right track and not miss anything.
Your health is a priority! 😘

2. Explore natural solutions 🌿

Symptoms do not necessarily mean problems and therefore medication!
At Puissante, we believe in the power of gentle, natural, intimate solutions adapted to women:

• The Libido & Natural Lubrication supplement from Puissante: a treatment of plants and natural extracts formulated to boost desire, improve vaginal lubrication, support hormones, and boost sexual pleasure. Made in France, tested by women, and validated by concrete feedback, this treatment is the perfect option for those who want concrete and rapid results while choosing a respectful and ethical solution!
  

• Herbal medicine (maca, ginseng, tribulus, saffron): Certain plants have a recognized effect on energy, stress, and desire. In herbal tea, they can be an easy option to incorporate into your routine!
  

• Essential oils (ylang-ylang, ginger) in massage or diffusion to stimulate sensuality, arouse desire, and set the mood.
  
  

⚠️ Health Disclaimer : Always seek medical advice from your doctor before starting any treatment, especially if you are on hormone or medication therapy, are already taking medication, or are pregnant or breastfeeding! The idea here is to avoid any additional problems or the onset of other disorders.

3. Take care of yourself (really) 💌

• Reconnect with your body and practice gentle physical activity (dance, yoga, self-massage, breathing, hot baths)

• Sleep more and better (sleep plays a crucial role in sex hormones)

• Reduce alcohol and rebalance your diet

• Reduce stress through gentle techniques (meditation, walking, writing)

• Reconnect with your sensuality without performance (caressing yourself, looking at yourself, rediscovering yourself)

• Read or listen to inspiring content about female sexuality

• Let go of guilt, don't convince yourself that you have a problem. Thought has incredible power! 

4. Work on communication in the couple 🧠

Talking to your partner about your low libido is already a way to take back power. Explain what you feel, what you need, what scares you. Build a pressure-free intimacy with your partner, with moments of tenderness, caresses, games, and shared silences. Because sexuality isn't just about "making love"—it's also about listening, consent, and slowness.
Don't hesitate to reassure your partner if they feel blamed or "at fault". It's real: some women and men have a pleasure/desire > performance relationship that needs to be deconstructed! 🙅♀️

5. Re-enter sexual relations or moments of intimacy, with conditions

Do you feel like we're stating the obvious or that this goes against what we've been saying all along? Be careful, this point should be taken with a grain of salt!
A real observation is that: the less sex you have, the less desire you feel to have sex. The more desire is at a standstill, the more it settles in and strengthens. ⚙️

Sometimes, a good way to revive desire, lust, and pleasure is to reintroduce sexual stimulation, under certain conditions:

• Never force yourself, consent is the basis of pleasure and therefore of desire! Single, in an open relationship, in a couple, married... sexual relations must be born from a sincere and aligned desire of ALL participants. Forcing yourself to please is already abuse!

• Do not set yourself a goal: to enjoy yourself, to last “so long”, to please the other person

• Stop any sexual act if it becomes uncomfortable, painful, psychologically or physically difficult !

If you want to try to get your sexual excitement going again, masturbation can be a very effective and hassle-free option: you decide when it starts, how it turns out, when it ends, and you control everything from A to Z! 😎

The use of vibrators for women to stimulate sexual arousal and create pleasure is also a valuable tool you can rely on. Coco by Puissante is a benchmark in terms of female vibrators: it is generally unanimous in terms of effectiveness. If you don't know where to turn, know that Coco is a safe, reliable option, designed in France by women for women!

And if the interest is really not there: leave yourself alone, you'll try next time.

Sexual activity can take many forms! The format of couple > foreplay > penetration is only a partial and incomplete representation, think about it. 😉

In short, no more sex: yes, but not at any price and under conditions! ☝️

Quick FAQ on loss of libido in women

Does libido ever come back?

Yes. Often, slowly, differently. Libido isn't a straight line. It evolves with the seasons of life. Sometimes it needs a rest. From time to time, it needs a trigger. Occasionally, it returns by surprise, in a moment of relaxation, intimacy, reconnection.
What you need to remember? You can't command it. You tame it. Don't be in too much of a hurry, and above all, Release the pressure to encourage its return. By implementing the tips above, there's no reason why it won't reappear!

When should you see a doctor if you have a loss of libido?

From the moment it concerns you, questions you, or even worries you! Loss of libido can be linked to many factors, caused by many things... your doctor is there to take a neutral and benevolent look at you and your state of health at a given moment. He will be able to make connections, rule out a disorder or give you valuable advice! Don't deprive yourself and don't wait to consult. 😘
There are treatments and natural solutions for many disorders.

⚠️ Never self-diagnose based on simple observation of your symptoms, do not take medication, any treatment, hormonal treatments or even dietary supplements simultaneously and without the advice of your doctor. The absence of medical monitoring can have negative consequences on your health and well-being!

In summary:

• Loss of libido in women is common, multifactorial, and never inevitable.

• It can be related to hormones, stress, contraception, fatigue, relationships or intimate health.

• Solutions exist: medical, natural, relational, emotional.

• Talking is freeing . Women and men can experience a drop in desire. It's normal, natural, and it happens! Talk about it.
  The body responds to listening. Desire is reborn in kindness. 😉
  
  

At Puissante, we encourage you to listen to yourself, to inform yourself, to dare to talk about it. And if you need a gentle, natural boost, check out our Libido & Lubrication treatment. 🌿💗
Formulated to reconcile body, mind and pleasure, it supports those who want to rediscover their momentum, their excitement, their freedom.

Because your libido doesn't define your worth. But understanding it is already taking care of yourself.
Be patient, understanding, and loving with yourself and everything will be fine. ❤️