We're not going to deny it: the female orgasm is a fascinating subject! 🌌
Sometimes shrouded in mystery and taboo, it is nonetheless essential to understanding female sexuality in all its richness and diversity. Knowledge of it not only gives women access to a more fulfilling sex life, but alsoto a higher level of well-being.
Whether you're a woman or a man, we urge you to open up to this subject with curiosity and kindness. Good news: it starts here and now!
Here's our complete guide to understanding sexuality and exploring orgasm in women.
Fasten your seatbelts, this article is likely to be orgasmic! 🎢
What is the female orgasm?
The female orgasm, like its opposite-sex counterpart, is an intense physical and emotional response that usually occurs at the peak of sexual arousal. 🎆
In women, it is characterised on a physical level by a series of involuntary muscular contractions in the clitoris, vagina. In the case of intense orgasms, these contractions are generalised throughout the body.
Emotionally, it is accompanied by a feeling of pleasure, emotional release and sometimes euphoria. 🌈
Orgasm is not only perceived differently by different individuals, but also by different phases of life!The intensity of enjoyment can vary from one day to the next or over the course of a lifetime. It is therefore one of the most subjective and personal experiences known today, the result of a complex combination of factors.
Physiological factors
The erogenous zones play a key role in triggering orgasm.
Orgasm is the response to physical stimulation of certain areas of the body that are more or less sensitive or exciting, depending on the individual. are the main erogenous zones: the clitoris of course, the anal region, the breasts as well as other parts of the body such as the nape of the neck, the inner thighs, the stomach... 🤩
A good way to remind both men and women that there's more to orgasm than penetration and stimulation of the vagina.
The clitoris is the only human organ dedicated exclusively to pleasure! 🔥
That's quite a feat for women, for whom sexual relations have long been perceived through the single spectrum of reproduction! For a long time, female desire and pleasure were ignored, even scorned. Fortunately, this is changing!
The clitoris contains around 8,000 nerve endings, more than any other part of the body, and is most often at the heart of female orgasm.
Still little-known in its entirety, the clitoris is a complex organ that extends far beyond what is visible to the naked eye and can be up to 12 cm long. And yes, the expressions "clitoral orgasms" versus "vaginal orgasms" are actually wrong! Genital orgasm is almost always clitoral , with the only difference being internal stimulation of the clitoris (G-zone) or external stimulation (glans).
Ladies, you have something whose main function is pleasure... and not for nothing 😉
Psychological factors
Female orgasm is not just a matter of physical stimulation. It can be helped or hindered by psychological and intangible factors such as emotional state (stress, anxiety, feelings of security), connection with her partner/s, self-esteem and her relationship with her own body.
It is these criteria, which are more complex to tame, that make the Grail so difficult to tame, but also so precious and magical! ✨
Remember: orgasm disorders can originate in your body as well as your brain! By consulting a sexologist, you'll benefit from methodical, professional support to pinpoint the problem and then treat it as well as possible. 💡
The role of hormones
Before, during or after, hormones play a key role in your moments of elation.
Hormonal fluctuations (periods, pregnancy, menopause) can influence your ability to reach orgasm. It may therefore be worth adapting your sexual practices to the phases of your life to be 100% in tune with your desires and needs at the time. 👍
When orgasm occurs, it triggers the release of hormones with different effects on the body. Endorphins produce a euphoric effect in the moment. Oxytocin, known as the "love hormone", promotes a sense of well-being and connection after orgasm. Prolactin, for its part, contributes to the feeling of satisfaction.
A fiery cocktail for effects as addictive as they are powerful! 🍸
The effects on health
Beyond "simple pleasure", orgasm in women, just as in men, has numerous health benefits and therefore direct repercussions on well-being. These include reducing stress, improving blood circulation, mood, sleep quality, self-esteem and strengthening the pelvic floor.
So many reasons not to deprive yourself of pleasure. 😌
How do you achieve a female orgasm?
The false friends of orgasm
Sometimesorgasm can be difficult to achieve. Here again, women are not all equal when it comes to pleasure. ⚖️
While some women succeed in having an orgasm almost every time, others rarely, if ever, experience one in the course of their lives.
There are many reasons for this, including physical, psychological and social. Among the most common are :
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Lack of knowledge about one's body can make orgasm more difficult to achieve by not knowing which areas provoke pleasure or generate arousal. 🗺️
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Cultural taboos or inadequate sex education sometimes establish certain beliefs or societal pressures that can curb the exploration of female pleasure or create more or less ingrained blocks. 🤐
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Certain physical dysfunctions such as dyspareunia (pain during intercourse and penetration), vaginismus (difficult or even impossible vaginal penetration), or hormonal disorders can complicate exaltation and skew sensations.
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Stress and/or fatigue are variables that can block the rise of pleasure and prevent some women from enjoying intercourse .
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Lack of confidence in themselves or in others can prevent some women from taking the initiative or communicating their sexual preferences. As a result, they don't dare guide the other person during intercourse and more often than not miss out on their orgasms...
There's nothing to be ashamed of in consulting a sexologist or other health professional to help you with these issues. In general, he or she will first rule out any physical problems or disorders and then focus on the blockages that may be originating in your brain.
Sexual health, like mental and physical health, is very important and should be taken seriously throughout your life! ❤ ️
Our tips for getting pleasure
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Exploring your body
Masturbation is one of the most effective ways of understanding what does and doesn't give pleasure. Try out different types of stimulation to discover your erogenous zones and the sensations associated with them. You know the adage that to love others, you must first love yourself? It's the same with pleasure.
It's vital to know how to give yourself pleasure so as to give others the chance to give you some! 🍾
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Incorporating sex toys into sexual relations
Vibrators or clitoral stimulators are excellent tools for reaching orgasm more easily, especially if you're just starting out. They allow you to target the clitoris or internal areas with precision and provide sensations that were previously unequalled. 🫨
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Practise relaxation
Stress is an enemy of orgasm. Meditation or yoga can help you relax and (re)connect with yourself , making it easier to orgasm. 🧘
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Improve communication with your partner during sex
Expressing your desires and feelings is essential for fulfilling sexual experiences. Don't hesitate to guide your partner in the moment. Whether you've been in a relationship for years or you've just met, there's no difference! Speak up and learn to express the positive, as well as the negative! ☎️
As you can see, the female orgasm can still be perceived as mysterious, even complex, by both men and women. Yet it is central to women's well-being. 🌍
However, working towards a more accurate and broader understanding of this subject is not only beneficial to women, but is also a societal issue.
A better understanding of female orgasm encourages women to explore their sexuality, educates their partners (male or female) about the importance of mutual satisfaction and helps to deconstruct limiting myths. In short, it's a win-win situation!
So, are you ready for an orgasmic journey? 🚀