How to use a vibrator to have fun?

Using a vibrator for the first time can be an exciting and liberating experience. It's an investment in your well-being, and that's essential. So it's time to put aside preconceived notions, myths, taboos, and the guilt surrounding female pleasure .

Female masturbation , long criticized, is increasingly recognized as a powerful tool for self-affirmation and fulfillment for many women. This detailed guide presents all the steps for using a sex toy, as well as the best tips to maximize your pleasure. It's time to take back control of your body and savor the adventure of your sex life!

Please note : The information shared in this article is intended to support your exploration of sexual pleasure. It is not a substitute for medical advice. If you experience pain, persistent discomfort, or any other health concerns related to your intimate health, consult a healthcare professional.

A brief history of the vibrator

The vibrator , a tool once used primarily for medical purposes, has undergone a remarkable evolution over the decades. Initially designed to treat "female hysteria," it quickly found its place in the sexual wellness device industry , and thankfully so!

In the 20th century, with the advent of electricity, the first electric vibrators were created. One thinks in particular of the very first vibrator : the Granville hammer . These devices were initially marketed as medical instruments intended to relieve muscle tension and pain , but they quickly found their place as tools for personal pleasure .

Over time, vibrators have become widely accepted and used sex toys . They are now marketed in a variety of shapes, sizes, and functions to meet everyone's needs and preferences.

The different types of vibrators

The Wand

Known for its elongated shape and rounded head, the Wand vibrator It is ideal for clitoral stimulation and other erogenous zones of the body. It generally features strong vibrations specifically designed to stimulate the external part of the clitoris .

The perfect vibrator model to relieve tension and enjoy pleasure . 

The Finger

This vibrator is designed to slip onto a finger, offering a different and very easy pleasure experience, in addition to manual masturbation. With its small integrated motor, it's perfect for solo or partnered play ; the finger vibrator allows for very precise stimulation. We love it!

The Bullet

Compact and discreet, the bullet vibrator is often used for clitoral stimulation . Its small size makes it a practical choice for travel or discreet play in public.

The clitoral sucker

Innovative and unique, the clitoral suction device uses pulsed air waves to stimulate the clitoris without direct contact.

Clitoral stimulators typically offer several intensity levels to suit all tastes! You'll find models in various sizes, some more compact than others, with one or two suction heads. The goal is to stimulate the clitoral glans using an opening that pulses air waves, guiding you towards deeper orgasms .

 The Rabbit

Known for its dual action, the Rabbit vibrator stimulates both the clitoris and the G-spot. With its multiple vibration modes, it offers a complete pleasure experience.

Designed to offer unparalleled experiences, the homemade rabbit vibrator is much more than just a stimulator: it embodies innovative design , advanced functionality , and thoughtful aesthetics. It is also designed to adapt to all body shapes, guaranteeing optimal comfort during use.

The vibrating anal plug

Designed for anal exploration , the vibrating anal plug provides intense and varied sensations thanks to its vibrations. It's ideal for both beginners and experienced users, as it allows you to discover new pleasure zones while respecting your own pace. It comes in many sizes and models to suit every experience level.

Choosing the right vibrator

Choosing the right vibrator is essential for a great experience. With all the vibrators available on the market , it's important to consider your specific desires.

First, think about the types of sensations you are looking for. Toys come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and textures, offering a diverse range of stimulation.

For a deep orgasm

If you are looking for a deep orgasm , opt for vibrators designed for internal stimulation:

• Rabbit vibrators combine vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation, offering intense sensations from all angles.

• Pulsating vibrators mimic back-and-forth movements and provide you with super realistic sensations.

For clitoral stimulation

If you are looking for clitoral stimulation only, you have the choice between classic vibration like for the rabbit or suction technology.

Whether you prefer vibrations or suction , there's a vibrator for every preference!

You can also use lubricant To maximize comfort and sensation, make sure you choose a lubricant compatible with your vibrator, preferably opting for a clean, water-based formula to avoid damaging the material.

Beyond orgasm: vibrators for connecting with yourself

With the right vibrator , you can explore new forms of pleasure and enrich your sex life, and why not even reach orgasm , although, as we've always said, orgasm isn't the ultimate goal . Take your time; the important thing is to enjoy yourself!

As Dr. Alexandra Hubin , a clinical sexologist, reminds us: “ Vibrators are not accessories. They are powerful tools for getting to know yourself better, reconnecting with your body, and overcoming certain pains or blockages .” Interview: France Inter – Les Savantes (Alexandra Hubin)

How to explore pleasure alone?

When exploring your solo pleasure with a vibrating toy , take the time to create an atmosphere conducive to relaxation and excitement.

1. Make sure your vibrator is charged and ready to use (this will prevent some disappointment and frustration). Then, explore different stimulation techniques to discover what gives you the most pleasure.

2. Take the time to familiarize yourself with your body and erogenous zones , varying positions and settings for the most enjoyable experience.

3. Savor every sensation and listen carefully to your body's responses to each movement and caress. It's important to know your own body to know what you like.

4. To do this, you can use toys or your hands , varying the pressure, positions (sitting, standing, lying down…) and rhythms until you find what works best for you. It's a journey of pleasure, enjoy it!

A study published in the Journal of Sex Research (2021) showed that regular use of vibrators is associated with better body awareness , increased sexual satisfaction and reduced stress.

Is it possible for two people to use a vibrator together?

Using a vibrator as a couple can be an enriching experience for both partners.

Exploration and mutual discovery

Using a vibrator with your partner allows each person to discover new erogenous zones and better understand what brings pleasure to the other. Whether it's internal clitoral stimulation, external clitoral stimulation, or anal stimulation , pay attention to your partner's reactions.

Open communication

Using a vibrator with the love of your life or a one-night stand encourages open and honest communication about each other's desires, fantasies, and limits. This climate of trust and mutual understanding strengthens the relationship between the two partners.

 Shared pleasure and multiple orgasms

Using a vibrator can help achieve more intense and multiple orgasms, for both women and men. Enjoy!

 Many men perceive the vibrator as an enemy (or a competitor), but it's an ally! An excellent way to introduce your partner to different sensations and maximize pleasure.

 If you are hesitant about the idea, here are some testimonials from our customers that might convince you.

“ Tempted...given...discovered...shared pleasure. Perfect for lovers. ”

“ Amazing! Powerful pleasure, powerful orgasm, Coco lives up to its name. Alone or with a partner, it's a top-notch toy that provides incredible sensations. I love it! I give it a 200% thumbs up. Don't hesitate, you'll love it…. ”

“ AMAZING! I'm from a generation where masturbation is shameful and taboo. I haven't even managed to use Coco on my own yet; I used it with my husband, and I have to admit I was blown away by how effective it is. It's very, very pleasant...”

I have a lot of problems with my libido for several reasons, but let's say the main one is endometriosis, which I've had for over 20 years. This condition has ruined my sex life. Indeed, sexual intercourse was painful and therefore complicated. I say "was" because four years ago I had a hysterectomy, which allowed me to no longer suffer during intercourse, but my brain remains fixated on the pain.

I bought Coco on the advice of my gynecologist to help me regain my libido . So far, it's going well because the novelty and effectiveness of Coco are increasing my desire (I hope it lasts). I even think that in my case, and I don't think I 'm the only one, it should be covered by health insurance.

What should I do if I experience pain while using a vibrator?

Some pains may be linked to physiological causes such as endometriosis, vaginal dryness, infection or trauma .
1. Listen to your body. Never force anything if a sensation is uncomfortable.
2. Consult a gynecologist, sexologist or general practitioner if the discomfort persists.

To learn more or find a specialist, you can consult:

• Ameli.fr – Sexuality and health

• Directory of sexologists – sexologues-france.org

Before introducing a vibrator into your relationship with your partner, be sure to have an open discussion about your expectations and boundaries. Consent is very important and should be discussed beforehand.

 Whether alone or with a partner, vibrators help you unlock new levels of pleasure, while discovering each other's bodies and sensations. It's your turn!