How to masturbate with an object?

At Puissante, we consider female masturbation a sacred space: intimate, liberating, powerful. Far from the pressure to achieve orgasm quickly or to hide pleasure , we loudly proclaim that masturbating with a sex toy is an act of self-love, a way to reclaim ownership of one's body… and one's pleasure.

However, masturbation isn't always as simple as it seems. Especially when it comes to using objects. For women, particularly those who have never masturbated with an object , the first attempt can feel awkward.

The primary objective is always to explore and understand one's body in a concrete way, without pressure and in complete safety!
In this article, we give you our advice on how to use a sex toy such as a vibrator or any other object that can cause pleasure.

Why you need to take your vibrators out of the closet?

For too long, sex toys have been relegated to the stereotype of shameful gadgets. Yet today, they are acclaimed for their physical, emotional, and sexual benefits : better self-awareness, more intense orgasms, a boosted libido, and even relief from certain pains, yes indeed!

“ Masturbation can be a therapeutic tool for women, particularly in cases of low libido or sexual pain, ” says Dr. Camille Bataillon, clinical sexologist and therapist.

In intimate life , every woman deserves to find her own answers. When it comes to sexual pleasure, there are no rules: just different desires, bodies, and feelings . Yet, many still hesitate to form a clear opinion on the use of sex toys, often considered taboo. At Puissante, we believe that a good product can change everything : paving the way for a liberated sexuality and connecting with oneself.

This guide accompanies you step by step in this exploration of intimacy, with the gentleness and kindness you deserve. Because yes, a well-chosen product , whether it's a vibrator or a more unusual toy, can transform your intimacy into a sensual and liberating playground . That's all we wish for you!

Please note : The advice presented in this article is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. If you have any doubts or experience any discomfort, consult a qualified healthcare professional.

Create the right conditions for you to masturbate

Setting the scene: the right atmosphere for you to masturbate

You don't need candles and aromatherapy every time, but creating a relaxing environment is key. This could be:

• dim lighting,

• sensual music,

• a clean and hydrated body,

• a quiet moment (without notifications).

A quick reminder : you don't "have to" be excited beforehand. Excitement can come from play, touch, and imagination. Be curious, not focused on performance . 

The central role of lubricant in intimacy

In its national survey, “ Context of Sexuality in France ,” Inserm reminds us that vaginal lubrication is influenced by hormones (estrogen and progesterone), stress, and medication. It doesn't always reflect the level of arousal. That's why lubricant is your best ally: it enhances sensation, prevents irritation, and makes every movement smoother.

Opt for a water-based lubricant with a super clean composition and, most importantly, one that's compatible with your toys!

Clitoris, vagina, anus… where to begin?

The clitoris is the seat of female pleasure: 8,000 nerve endings, a Y-shaped structure, and infinite orgasmic potential. But it's not the only one:

• The vagina: a sensitive wall, especially in the G-spot area.

• The anus: an often underestimated erogenous zone.

• Breasts, thighs, nape of the neck… every body has its own map of pleasure.

Explore your erogenous zones with your fingers, then gradually add your vibrator by playing with the pressure, speed, circular movements or pulsations of the product.

The best positions for masturbation

For many women, masturbation simply involves lying on their back, using a toy or their fingers. However, like sexual intercourse with a partner, masturbation can be done in many positions . Here are a few examples:

Lying in a bathtub or squatting in the shower

In your bathtub, run some water and get in. First, after lying down, place your fingers on your clitoris . Start slowly, then gradually increase the speed of your movements as you experience pleasure. To make it easier to reach your erogenous zone, try lifting one leg onto the edge of the tub!

Even better, if you prefer to do it in the shower, use the showerhead . Squat down and position the showerhead over your genitals , making sure it's as close as possible to your clitoris. At this point, let the water jet do its work. Vary the movements on your clitoris and the level of pleasure by using your fingers. You can also play with the water temperature (be careful not to burn yourself!).

Masturbate standing up

Standing masturbation is a possibility, especially with a suitable sex toy . It all starts with intimate caresses . Touch yourself as much as possible, with caresses ( breasts , upper and inner thighs, lower abdomen, etc.). As soon as you feel pleasant sensations, you can caress your vulva in its entirety , or even penetrate yourself if the desire arises.

This is the perfect moment for your sex toy (vibrator) to come into play. Move it around and tease your clitoris. Listen to your desires ; you can stay there or decide to stimulate yourself through penetration. In this position, you can experience something more intense than what you can feel while lying down.

According to sexologists Masters & Johnson , an orgasm releases tension . To make it more intense, the "I'm almost there" phase should be prolonged.

To achieve this: get closer to pleasure, but release the pressure by touching less erogenous zones, repeating the action for as long as possible. The result: an explosion of pleasure !

Lying under the covers

To do this in this situation, lie on your stomach. Place your pillow under your pelvis. You don't need any other objects here. Make gentle back-and-forth movements before increasing the pace as your level of arousal rises .

Nothing like it to start your day off right! That's what we call "Humping ," a practice widely used by women.

Lying on your back, legs spread apart on the sofa or couch

Once on your back, bend your legs, lift them, and spread them wide. Begin with caresses. Go at your own pace to allow yourself to feel the arousal . Breasts, thighs, lips, lower abdomen—don't hesitate to touch any of your erogenous zones if you feel the urge. Then, give your clitoris the most exquisite sensation by using a vibrator.

If you don't have a couch, a sofa will do just fine. On a sofa, get comfortable on your knees. Caress your clitoris . If you decide to gently penetrate yourself with your fingers, remember to lean your body forward. This is an excellent way to stimulate your G-spot .

Seated masturbation

To enjoy sitting comfortably, choose a sturdy chair. But avoid wooden ones. All you have to do is sit properly. Spread your legs, and rock back and forth from left to right and from bottom to top .

Recap of our favorite positions (validated by the Powerful community)

Here's a quick recap of positions to explore during your intimate moments:

• Lying on your back: legs bent or spread apart, a classic position for targeting the clitoris.

• Straddling a cushion: for the humping lovers

• Standing in the shower: water jet + waterproof vibrator = winning combo

• Lying on your stomach with a pillow: natural pressure and gentle stimulation

• Sitting with legs spread: perfect for exploring the vagina or anus

How to use an object for masturbation: the vibrator enters the scene

With sex becoming less and less of a taboo subject, you can talk freely about vibrators without feeling uncomfortable (well, we're all doing it properly). Before using any object in a shared sexual encounter or solo, learn how to use it properly!

The first thing you need to think about when deciding to use one or more objects to masturbate is the different ways you can use them on your body.

Start exploring with your toy first

Try different approaches and rhythms to discover what gives you the most pleasure . Only through trial and error will you refine your technique and gain more confidence.

When using a vibrator , special attention is required to experience pleasure. This is because it's a manual tool. Every body is different.

Therefore, depending on your body type, certain actions may cause irritation rather than pleasure. This is the case, for example, when the speed is too high. In these situations, reduce the speed and move on to another part of the body.

Touch the clitoris indirectly

If you're a beginner, start by stimulating your clitoris without touching it . Try reaching it indirectly by placing the vibrator above it, or perhaps to the side. You'll get similar sensations. So, basically, it's about getting to know yourself. Take your time.

What household objects can be used for masturbation?

Everyday objects for masturbation: unleash your fantasies

If you don't have one of those fancy gadgets, you can also improvise using household items . Indeed,female masturbation techniques offer many possibilities for women who want to pleasure themselves alone. You can do it with:

• A soft chair

• A pillow

• A vibrating object (toy)

• A masturbator

• The shower head

How to masturbate with a soft chair?

A comfy chair can quickly send you soaring to climax if you know how. Position yourself facing the seat and spread your legs. Make sure your clitoris is touching the back of the chair. Now all you have to do is start moving your hands and feet. Don't forget to place a towel on the chair before you begin.

The technique of humping with a pillow

Straddling a pillow, make back-and-forth movements . Your clitoris will be stimulated and you will experience wonderful sensations.

You can also create a "pillow mountain," sit on it, and begin circular or back-and-forth movements . This will gradually increase your arousal and pamper your clitoris for your greatest pleasure!

The age-old technique of the shower head

Nothing stimulates your clitoris quite like a stream of warm water . While you're in the bath, let the water run and then place the showerhead under your vulva . Feel free to increase the water pressure depending on your level of arousal. If you're with a partner, ask them to help you operate the showerhead.

Have you tried an electric toothbrush?

And yes! Although it may seem unusual, a toothbrush (or rather its vibrating handle) can be a source of pleasure . It can be used during intimate moments, vibrating on the clitoris, or even for penetration.

For this practice, you can wrap your toothbrush in a clean cotton cloth, or put a condom on it with added lubricant, it's up to you!

How to choose the right vibrator?

They are numerous, come in various sizes, and cater to all tastes. Here is a short list of those you won't regret buying.

The magic wand

If you're one of those women who find it difficult to experience vulvar arousal , this Wand sex toy is for you . It's powerful enough to produce intense sensations. Previously, it was used in physiotherapy exercises.

Suction stimulators

It's a sex toy that works on the principle of micro-suction. It's so effective that it's now called the orgasm machine .

As you've probably gathered, sex toys aren't limited to just vibrators. Clitoral stimulators are unique in that they stimulate the clitoris through suction and vibration. Using one is quite simple!

Most recharge via a USB cable and are fairly easy to clean, especially if they are made of medical-grade silicone. The Coco offers 10 different vibration and suction modes.

The anal plug: definitely worth trying

A little less well-known but just as effective, the anal plug has proven its worth! It's perfect for gently exploring this area, respecting your own pace. Use it with a lubricant, and never force it: unlike the vagina, the anus doesn't lubricate itself naturally.

If you are a beginner, choose a model with a base to avoid accidents.

The timeless rabbit vibrator

The rabbit vibrator is a timeless classic to have in your collection. It offers dual stimulation: clitoral and vaginal. It's ideal for playing with depth, rhythm, and gradual build-up.

How to choose a vibrating sex toy?

To choose your sex toy, you must take into account a number of criteria, which are as follows:

• vibration;

• ergonomics;

• the method of use;

• the equipment used for manufacturing;

• the waterproof aspect;

• autonomy;

• the price;

• the reviews.

You need to analyze all these aspects to ensure you buy the right equipment to give you pleasure.

What are the different types of vibrators that exist?

Several types of vibrators exist, catering to both women and men. These include:

• Classic external clitoral stimulators : Equipped with a small motor, these vibrators are perfect for gradual self-discovery.

• Internal stimulators : More elongated in shape, these vibrators are used to penetrate and stimulate the vaginal walls. They are generally vibrating with various settings and can also be used to stimulate the G-spot.

• Doubles called “Rabbits” : The rabbit allows both external and internal stimulation.

• For anal play : if you enjoy anal penetration , some sex toys are designed for this purpose. They work equally well for women and men.

Your choice will be conditioned by your sexual practices, desires and needs in this area .

In short, remember that female masturbation offers a wealth of possibilities. If you've never tried it with an object, you now have a multitude of examples and situations in which you can explore your sexuality, your sensitivities, and even your personality !

" Masturbation can be a real tool for reconnecting with the body and for building self-esteem, especially for women ," explains clinical sexologist Camille Bataillon.

The body is a labyrinth that you will enjoy exploring by practicing masturbation with an object . Remember that the most important thing is to know your body and identify the practice that makes you most comfortable.

The use of sex toys does not exclude your partner: it is an ally of shared desire .

Masturbation with an object isn't just about "feeling good." It's about learning to love yourself, to listen to yourself, to explore. It's about choosing to be at the center of your own intimate life. It's political, sensual, powerful.

So test it, feel the thrill, discover it. And remember: you don't need any outside validation to enjoy it intensely, for a long time, and in the way you want.

If you experience pain, discomfort, or have any questions about your sexual health, you can consult:

• Ameli.fr – Sexuality, health and prevention 

• French Federation of Clinical Sexologists (FFSC)