Our ultimate guide to female masturbation

What better way to open up the conversation about female pleasure than by sharing our guide to female masturbation ? Because it's normal to give yourself pleasure outside of a relationship , we wanted to give you some tips to explore your power with confidence.

But above all, take the time to listen to your body, to listen to your sensations. These are the best guides to a desire and a sexuality that are uniquely yours. Also, allow yourself to define your own rules of pleasure and to move beyond the practices suggested in this guide to female masturbation, which is intended to be inclusive and supportive. We wish you wonderful explorations of your solo sexual pleasure!

Guide to female masturbation: Creating the right conditions

Being curious about one's body

We're here to have a good time, explore our sexuality, and ride the wave of well-being. So we're leaving the pressure of achieving orgasm at all costs on our beach towels.

Good news: a sex life can be absolutely fulfilling without orgasm!

The curiosity of your own pleasure is a far better compass than the pressure to finish. Moreover, aiming for orgasm at all costs can create a mental block that prevents any sexual enjoyment. So, savor the present moment and explore yourself without pressure! Get rid of the idea that your sex life isn't fulfilling without orgasm.

The curiosity of pleasure also comes from the curiosity of one's own body. Learning to know your body is the key to enjoying your sexuality, whether alone or with a partner!

Why not explore your own anatomy and fully embrace your pleasure as a woman? To do this, simply place a pocket mirror between your legs. Say goodbye to self-judgment about the appearance of your genitals: just like breasts , stomachs, and buttocks, women's bodies are all different and all beautiful!

As Canadian sexologist Dr. Laurie Mintz reminds us in her TEDx Talk in 2019: “ Knowing your own vulva is one of the first steps towards a more fulfilling sex life, alone or with a partner .”

To familiarize yourself with the diversity of vulvas, we highly recommend you take a look at the account of the illustrator Hilde Atalanta.

Being lubricated to get off

Without lubrication , the experience will be more comparable to that of sandpaper against a wooden board.

Every woman produces a different amount of lubricant , depending on the situation. Perhaps you've already experienced feeling your intimate area wet without feeling particularly aroused.

The opposite is equally true. One may feel arousal, but physiological lubrication is slow to occur. All of this is the result of various biological factors, but also more unconscious ones.

On average, a 20-year-old woman takes 15 seconds to become fully lubricated, whereas a menopausal woman needs 5 to 20 minutes. ( Sanofi Report 2024 - Women's Sexual Health , Dr. Saskia Bresch, Graduate in Sexual Medicine)

Fortunately, we can call upon loyal allies to make this solo moment magical.

• your saliva

• a suitable lubricant 

To want to want

So yes, some will tell you that appetite comes with eating, but for a session exploring your pleasure, we recommend stimulating your arousal beforehand. As every woman has a With a different sexual personality , you can try a multitude of approaches to masturbating.

1. Perhaps sensory stimulation is your thing? Dim the lights, put on some incense or a candle, some sexy music or an episode of VOXX .

2. If you're more of a visual person , why not try ethical porn like Erika Lust's videos? We've gathered our best recommendations for solo pleasure in this article .

3. If you feel like being guided in mindfulness , you can simply close your eyes, slip under a comforting blanket and let your imagination run free.

Relaxation, concentration and immersion are the key elements for a journey to seventh heaven.

In its 2023 survey “ Context of sexualities in France ”, INSERM confirms that clitoral stimulation triggers a peak of endorphins and dopamine , neurotransmitters associated with pleasure, relaxation and stress reduction.

Masturbation guide: trying different techniques

Among thetechniques most conducive to arousal , we have:

Kneeling on his bed

This technique is essential:

1. Stand facing the bed, hold onto it to keep your balance

2. Lean forward,

3. Position the vibrator on the mattress

4. Pace your movements according to your desires and preferences

This is the ideal position for G-spot stimulation . Let's have some fun!

In the bath

During a bath, you might feel the urge to pamper yourself ; it's a moment of self-care that lends itself to masturbation:

1. Then run yourself a bath

2. Immerse yourself in the hot water.

3. Stick one leg out of the bath to be more comfortable.

4. Then start stimulating your clitoris with circular or up-and-down movements.

You can also use a waterproof vibrator to multiply the pleasure!

Masturbating standing up

Masturbating standing up can give sensations that you wouldn't experience sitting or lying down. You can start by caressing your body and erogenous zones , beginning with:

• the neck,

• the breasts,

• the inner thighs,

• the buttocks,

• and much more!

Indeed, these erogenous zones should not be neglected and can allow you to experience unexpected sensations!

When you feel the excitement rising , you can start to gently touch your clitoris .

The vibrator can then come into play to pamper first the clitoris and then the vagina.

Masturbating without using your hands?

Once in your bed, you can use what's around you: like the pillow for example!

It's very simple:

Take one or more pillows, place them between your legs, lie on your stomach, and begin a back-and-forth motion. This will gently stimulate your clitoris, depending on the intensity of your movements. For maximum arousal, we recommend touching your breasts, inner thighs, and any other erogenous zones.

This female masturbation technique is common among young girls and women who are discovering their bodies.

What should I use to masturbate?

Female masturbation with fingers

There are several techniques to give yourself pleasure and orgasm, but your fingers are always there with us!

Masturbation guides often talk about "inserting a finger directly into the vagina," but the clitoris, with its thousands of nerve endings, should be pampered gently; arousal should build gradually.

1. To begin, we invite you to locate your clitoris . Touch it gently while keeping your lips closed.

2. Depending on how you feel, increase or decrease the stimulation , and also adjust your movements (back and forth, circles...).

3. Once arousal is at its peak, you can slightly part your labia and gain more access to that area. You can also begin exploring your vagina.

Don't limit yourself to just your genitals; you can stimulate all your erogenous zones : your neck, breasts, inner thighs. Let your imagination take over, and pay attention to your sensations.

Masturbation with a shower head

The shower is a time to reconnect with yourself. Create a relaxing atmosphere : candles, music...

Run the water at your preferred temperature, then direct the shower jet towards your vulva and control the pressure by moving the jet closer and further away, as well as changing the temperature.

This technique is highly recommended if you're new to masturbation ; it's very effective and accessible, especially if you're initially hesitant to touch yourself. The showerhead will definitely satisfy your feminine pleasure!

Be careful not to let your vulva touch the shower head, as this can introduce germs and bacteria. Once you've finished showering, clean your vulva with a suitable pH-neutral soap.

Meet your pillow

For those who enjoy friction , you'll love this technique!

Called " humping ," this technique is a practice particularly used by people with sensitive genitals . Adding a layer of clothing or stimulating a large area will provide more muffled and therefore more pleasurable sensations.

Position one or more pillows between your legs on your bed, then start straddling it, lying on your stomach, and moving back and forth.

During this technique, the pelvis does all the work! Once again, don't neglect your erogenous zones during this practice; stimulating them will only increase your pleasure.

Masturbating with a chair

Have you thought about your chair? Yes, it can be a very good ally during these moments!

Sit naked or in your underwear on your chair, chest against the backrest. Arch your hips so you can make back-and-forth movements . Your clitoris and vulva will benefit from gentle caresses.

Masturbating with your phone?

If you've never used a vibrator , your phone and its vibrations can be a good substitute. Put it on vibrate mode and glide it over your clitoris; gently at first, then applying more pressure as your sensations and desire intensify. To explore other sensations, you can use these vibrations on your breasts, for example. 

Masturbation with a vibrator

Did you really think we were going to finish this article on tips for female masturbation without talking about vibrators ? Never!

A vibrator, whatever its type, is there to provide pleasure, whether alone or with a partner . Have you already tried all the previous masturbation techniques and want to take your sexuality further and experience intense pleasure? Then vibrators are for you, and we recommend you go for it!

Some focus more on G-spot stimulation. inside the vagina while others target the clitoris.

The Coco , developed in 2021, allows for penetration with varying vibration intensities and a simultaneous clitoral suction mode . Since late 2022, the Toupie has been added to this selection. It is designed to gradually increase arousal, emphasizing sensation rather than performance.

The goal isn't to reach orgasm in two seconds, but to deeply feel the love you give yourself and the experience unfolding. It's about taking time for yourself, getting to know yourself, and reconnecting with your body, emotions, and sensations, all at a gentle pace.

Beware of the dangers that household objects pose to your privacy! How many people end up in the emergency room because of improvised toys?
According to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (2015), 41% of emergency room visits related to objects inserted into the vagina or anus involve “ objects not intended for this use ”.

For reasons of hygiene, safety, health and pleasure, choose an object designed exclusively for masturbation .

How to choose the right sex toy?

The diversity of vibrators

Given the variety of vibrators available to you, it can be easy to get lost in the world of toys.

Your desires are the starting point that guides you in choosing the ideal sex toy .

• If you prefer external clitoris stimulation , a suction-based clitoral stimulator might be right for you. This type of vibrator allows you to stimulate pleasure through the clitoris. In fact, among vibrators, clitoral stimulators are often the first choice women prefer.

• If you prefer penetration , choose a vibrator with a more elongated shape . This type of vibrator will allow you to stimulate, for example, the G-spot or to experience a sensation similar to that of a penis.

There are different vibration modes to help you reach orgasm, take the time to discover them all!

The suction mode

The suction mode stimulates your clitoris: the clitoral suction massager projects waves to stimulate it. Although the term "suction" is commonly used, your clitoral suction device doesn't actually perform this action! In reality, the membrane vibrates to generate air pulses , creating the illusion of suction.

Its tip can be made of silicone, glass, or plastic. It should be placed around the glans of the clitoris.

Vibration mode

You can choose your vibrator with or without vibration . The vibration mode can be controlled with a small remote, which allows you to change the intensity levels.

The two-in-one

You can stimulate your clitoris with a suction part and penetrate yourself at the same time with a suction part using a vibrator like Coco !

It adapts to your needs and you can choose to use one function after another, or even both simultaneously.

It's normal to feel a little anxious when exploring yourself, but don't be afraid to take your time and find what works for you .

There are no specific recommendations on the position to adopt; it depends entirely on you.

Changing your environment can help to vary the pleasures; indeed, some vibrators are waterproof: there's a reason for that!

Why should you invest in a quality vibrator?

When it comes to vibrators, it's best to pay a good price to ensure quality and longevity!

High-quality vibrators pose no health risks, such as allergies, as most of these sex toys are made of silicone or medical-grade glass. These are the most recommended materials for vibrators.

Admittedly, their price is generally above average, but these vibrators can guarantee your health . And that's not something to be taken lightly!

Unlike low-quality sex toys, the best vibrators can last you for several years!

 You now have all the information you need to embark on one of the most beautiful explorations of your life. There are countless ways to practice female masturbation . That's why we share a ton of techniques to help you reach for the stars on this blog. And by the way, why not try edging to multiply your pleasure tenfold? You'll thank us later!