What to masturbate with?

Before answering the question “what should I masturbate with?”, let’s first clarify one thing: female masturbation is not something to be ashamed of. It is a natural, ultra-cool practice that is so much better for you than you might imagine. Whether you are in a relationship or single, experienced or a complete novice, masturbation is an act of self-love.

We’ve put together a complete, uninhibited, and truly useful guide for exploring your pleasure. Ready? Let’s go!

Why masturbate?

Before talking about the mechanics (i.e., with what?), let’s talk about the why.

The physical benefits of masturbation

We know that masturbation is good for the soul, but you know what? It’s also incredibly good for the body. And that’s not marketing; those are scientific facts.

When you masturbate, your brain releases a literal cocktail of feel-good hormones: dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin. These three magic molecules work together to put you in a state of euphoria and fulfillment. Endorphins? Those are our natural painkillers (the British The Menstrubation Study). They relieve migraines, menstrual cramps, and muscle tension…

Moreover, if you suffer from chronic pain, masturbation can truly become your ally.

Beyond pain relief, masturbation is also an excellent cardiovascular activity. Yes, yes, you’re doing cardio while enjoying yourself! During masturbation, your heart rate increases, your blood circulation improves, your breathing intensifies… The result: better heart health. And believe us, in an age where we spend our days sitting in chairs, that’s a welcome victory.

An act of self-love

But masturbation is much more than just a physical thing. It’s an act of rebellion against a society that has long told you your pleasure wasn’t important.

By masturbating, you learn more about yourself. You explore your body; you discover what really makes you tick. And contrary to what one might think, this intimate self-knowledge will transform your sex life with others. How can you ask a partner to satisfy you if you don’t even know what satisfies you? Impossible.

Masturbation is also a moment just for you. In a life where we are constantly in demand (work, family, responsibilities), granting yourself 10-15 minutes just for yourself is an act of self-care. It’s saying: “My pleasure has value. I deserve attention, even from myself.” And that is powerful.

“Eat, Drink, Masturbate is truly an excellent slogan. We integrate masturbation and pleasure at the same level as other essential and vital needs, because that is what it’s all about.” Marine C.G, General Practitioner

Mutual masturbation: strengthening complicity within a couple

Here, we’re talking about a lesser-known topic: masturbating as a pair. And it’s a game-changer for many couples.

Mutual masturbation is when you masturbate together, looking at or caressing each other. Why is it great? Because it brings a different kind of intimacy than penetration. There is no performance pressure, no “orgasm at all costs” goal. You’re just there, together, in a shared, feel-good vulnerability.

When you observe your partner masturbating, you see what really pleases them. The movements, the rhythms, the expressions of pleasure… It’s a real source of learning. And it helps break taboos in the relationship. If you can masturbate in front of each other, you can do anything together.

What to masturbate with without spending a cent

You might think that to masturbate well, you need a high-end vibrator? Wrong. Your hands and your creativity are already an excellent foundation.

Masturbating with your fingers: tips and techniques

Fingers are the ultimate accessory. They are free, always available, and incredibly versatile.

For the clitoris, start by exploring different techniques. Some like circular movements, others prefer vertical or horizontal back-and-forth motions. Some like to caress the clitoris directly, others prefer indirect stimulation (caressing around it, or even over clothing if you are sensitive). The right technique is whichever one you prefer.

Tip: cut your nails beforehand! And don’t hesitate to wash your hands first, for hygiene’s sake. Once you find what works, let yourself go.

You can also penetrate the vagina or anus with one or more fingers, using back-and-forth movements, rotating movements… Explore! It’s your playground.

Masturbating with water

Water is an often underestimated accessory. And yet, it can offer you absolutely delicious sensations.

• The showerhead: The great classic. Set it to a powerful jet mode, find a comfortable temperature (not too hot, not too cold), and direct the stream toward your clitoris. You can vary the intensity of the jet, the distance, the angle… There are so many possibilities! Some like the powerful, direct stream; others prefer a gentler pressure. It’s up to you to find your sweet spot. Little bonus: it’s discreet and perfect if you live with other people.

• In the bath: You can create a water jet by using your hands in a gutter shape, or simply relax in the warm water (the well-being of the bath + masturbation = a winning combo).

• At the pool: If you’re brave (and discreet!), the very powerful massage jet in some pools can offer unforgettable thrills. Be careful, though: be discreet and respect the other users!

The best household objects for masturbation

First, one thing: all objects mentioned here must be perfectly clean and carry no risk of injury. No sharp, pointed objects, or ones that could leave residue or break. Think hygiene first, pleasure second.

• The pillow: It’s the secret accessory of so many women. Take a pillow you don’t use for sleeping, shape it however you like, and straddle it. You can vary your positions: on your stomach, sitting, on your side… The pillow adapts to your body and offers a delicious pressure on your clitoris. Humping is simple, effective, and costs nothing.

• The wooden spoon: Yes, you read that right. A wooden spoon can become your temporary toy. The handle can be used for stimulation, and the shape might surprise you! Just make sure it is smooth and well-cleaned. Personally, we prefer a dedicated spoon bought on purpose rather than the one you cook with (hygiene questions, you understand).

If you need more inspiration for masturbating with everyday objects, head over to our dedicated article.

What to masturbate with? The best sex toys

Tips for choosing your sex toy

Before buying a vibrator, ask yourself a few questions:

1. What type of stimulation are you looking for?

• Clitoral stimulation only

• Dual stimulation (clitoris + vagina)

• Anal stimulation

• Simple vaginal penetration

Every need has its solution. Don't force yourself to buy an "all-in-one" if you know you’ll only use one function.

2. The material is super important

Opt for medical-grade silicone (the safest, hypoallergenic), glass (easy to clean, unique sensation), or high-quality ABS plastic. Avoid "jelly" or cheap materials that may contain phthalates. Your intimacy deserves better!

3. You must like the design.

If you don’t like looking at it, you won’t use it. It’s better to invest in something that excites you, that fits your aesthetic and your personality.

The Rabbit: a must-have

The rabbit (the famous "rabbit vibrator") is the essential one. Why? Because it offers simultaneous dual stimulation: external and internal.

You insert the main part into the vagina and the little "ears" of the vibrator stimulate your clitoris at the same time. It’s like having two hands working for you in two different places. For many women, it is THE key to reaching powerful orgasms.

We recommend the Chouchou, because it offers:

• quality materials (preferably medical-grade silicone),

• several vibration levels (to adapt intensity),

• a rechargeable battery (more eco-friendly and cheaper in the long run),

• an ergonomic design (that adapts to your body).

The Coco: the dual stimulation you will become addicted to

And then there is Le Coco, the signature product of Puissante. It’s not just a vibrator; it has basically become our mascot.

Le Coco was designed to offer you the ideal dual stimulation. Curved to precisely reach your G-spot, with a head that stimulates your clitoris at the same time… It’s a concentrate of well-being.

And the Coco is as beautiful as it is effective. You won’t be ashamed to leave it on your nightstand. It’s a real design object, not an industrial gadget that screams "this is a sex toy."

And unlike many vibrators, it has a discreet operating mode. You can masturbate without waking up the whole building. That’s the detail that counts.

As you will have understood, whatever your favorite masturbation technique, never lose sight of your pleasure. You don’t have to feel ashamed, and you don’t need any justification.

Masturbation is not a Plan B when you don’t have a partner. It is a deliberate choice to take care of yourself, to get to know yourself better, and to treat yourself to pleasure without compromise.

At Puissante, we believe that every woman deserves to know her body in every detail. That she deserves powerful orgasms. That she deserves pleasure, just for the sake of pleasure.

So tonight, if the mood strikes you: put your phone away, light a candle if you like, and treat yourself to this intimate moment with yourself. You’re worth it (oops, we might have stolen that slogan from someone).