What is your sexual personality?

Astrological sign, origins, level of education, Harry Potter houses—we possess a multitude of frameworks that help us better understand ourselves and define ourselves in relation to others. The realm of intimacy is no exception !

Knowing one's sexual personality allows one to better identify one's sexual expectations and recognize one's pleasures, but also to be able to understand the desires of one's partner.

Sexual personalities are like a language that reveals your erotic identity. This framework helps explain to your partner what arouses you, the obstacles you might encounter in your sex life, and how you experience pleasure. It's a bit like a user manual for your pleasure, if you will.

The 5 types according to Jaiya Ma

American sexologist Jaiya Ma created a test called Erotic Blueprint to help you understand your sexual personality. She categorizes individual behaviors into 5 main categories, which you can explore through this quiz .

Sensual

You value the senses and the atmosphere . You ignite when your senses are awakened. Candles, an immersive playlist , and caresses in just the right places—you're off to seventh heaven.

Worth trying: a mask to amplify the other senses.

Energy

You crave thrills and excitement . You get a real kick out of turning up the heat. Anticipation is your thing. Sensitive to energy, the mere prospect of a kiss can be enough to ignite your passion.

Try this: lengthen your breath during your solo or couple moments.

Sexual

Direct, simple and effective, you love sex . Your type particularly appreciates nudity, genitals and the act itself.

Try this: watch some ethical porn videos .

Kink

Mystery and seduction. This personality type is characterized by an attraction to BDSM practices . For those who identify with this type, the idea of venturing into territories considered forbidden or unconventional can be extremely exciting.

To try: Bondage or shibari .

Metamorph

You possess a remarkable adaptability and flexibility in your tastes and pleasures. You adapt to all erotic moods. An ideal partner for other types, you become a mirror, amplifying the pleasure of your partner as much as your own.

Try this: collecting accessories to keep things interesting.

How to understand your sexual personality

I'm watching you very closely

The best way to know what you really like is to try it. Trying it with someone else is great, but not only that!

It's very important to know what you enjoy doing alone, and what better way to do that than by taking the time to give yourself pleasure alone ?

The spinning top is the ultimate accessory for self-discovery and slow self-love!

This toy is designed to build excitement gradually , emphasizing sensation rather than performance. The goal isn't to reach orgasm quickly, but to deeply experience the love you give yourself and the unfolding experience.

Thanks to its small size, softness, and different vibration levels, it is recommended as a first toy for beginners who want to ease into it.

Have you considered consulting a sexologist?

Thanks to their expertise, they can offer a safe and non-judgmental space to explore your desires and preferences. The professional helps you identify and understand your own erotic patterns.

Exploring your preferences by discussing them with a trained outsider is an excellent way to then clearly articulate them to your partner.

The sex therapist will provide you with personalized advice and appropriate tools. They can even help you overcome any blocks related to trauma or difficulties.

Other tests to discover yourself sensually

Jaya's test is far from the only tool for exploring your sexual preferences. While it remains one of the best known and most widely used, there's nothing stopping you from turning to other methods.

Depending on your beliefs, your sensitivity to spirituality, philosophy or rather to rationalism, you will find many ways to discover aspects of your personality. 

Among the many online tests, you can, for example, have fun with the one from Psychologies or the one from L' Étudiant.

The importance of communication

Communication plays a central role in discovering one's sexual personality . By openly sharing your desires, fantasies , and boundaries with your partner, you create a space of trust and intimacy conducive to safe sexual exploration.

To address this sensitive topic in a constructive and positive way, it is important to adopt effective strategies.

This may include:

• choose the right time and place to discuss,

• use respectful and non-accusatory language,

• actively listen to your partner's responses,

• to encourage open and taboo-free communication.

Understanding each other's needs and desires is key to strengthening the connection between two people and creating more enjoyable experiences .

Beyond personality tests

Of course, these tests shouldn't be taken literally. They have no real scientific basis beyond individual observations. These categories are merely guidelines that can help you understand yourself.

It's a fun way to look at it, but sexuality is a fluid and multifaceted subject . There are no rules!

These types shouldn't be seen as rigid labels, but rather as tools to enrich your understanding of yourself and your partners . To continue exploring, we invite you to discover our four favorite tools for getting to know yourself better.