Boosting your libido after 50: tips for sex at any age

“At almost 50, I'm discovering a world I thought I'd explored to the fullest… when it still holds so many other unsuspected pleasures…!” MO, Power Client and Coco enthusiast

Whether this woman is your role model or her words raise some doubts or questions for you, let's lift the veil on sexuality after fifty together!

The fifties can mark a period of profound changes for some women. Even if the reasons are natural and physiological with the arrival of menopause : the body evolves, desire can fluctuate and sexuality itself may seem different.

When faced with this phase of life, women are not all in the same boat: some will never experience menopausal discomfort or any changes in their intimate lives. That's life, and that's what makes it beautiful!

For others, these transformations in no way signify the end of a fulfilling sex life . Whether in a relationship or single, it's entirely possible to rekindle and cultivate an active and joyful libido after 50, with or without a partner. Here, we offer our advice on how to approach these changes as calmly as possible and how to (re)connect with your desire and your body.

It can't be said enough: when it comes to sexuality, there are no rules… or age limits! Keep in mind that all the trends discussed below should be taken with a grain of salt and are not absolute truths. The only truth to respect and consider is your own!

Understanding the effects of menopause on sexuality

Menopause is a natural stage in a woman's life, yet its effects are still too little known , even taboo! Far from being limited to the famous hot flashes, the symptoms are numerous and can have direct, or even collateral, effects on intimacy.

Among the symptoms of menopause that have a direct impact on sexuality are:

Hormonal changes

The decrease in estrogen and testosterone can directly affect sexual desire and therefore be one of the causes of decreased sexual appetite .

Physical disorders

Fatigue, hot flashes, or joint pain can decrease the desire and strength to engage in intimate moments.

Emotional disorders

Irritability, mood swings, and low self-confidence can directly impact sexual desire and behavior. Sexual intercourse or masturbation then becomes less frequent when "you're not in the mood."

Dryness of the mucous membranes

In particular, vaginal dryness can impact comfort during intimate moments and also send false information to the brain about the level of arousal, which is not correlated with natural lubrication !

If these little “gifts” offered by Mother Nature impacting your libido and intimate confidence in one way or another … don't hesitate to consider the following solutions:

• Consult your doctor or other healthcare professional to explore options such as hormone therapy, a suitable lubricant , or dietary supplements .

• Be patient and kind to yourself : these physical and physiological changes are natural and do not define your femininity.

• Cherish yourself by eating properly and in a balanced way, giving yourself quiet time, sufficient sleep and regular physical activity.

Accepting one's body and embracing age-related changes

As you've seen, menopause can put your relationship with your body to the test. Yet, learning to love and accept it is a key step in maintaining a fulfilling sex life. Certain actions or practices can help you reconnect with your body and your inner self.
Among our favorite solutions are:

• Express yourself through movement : yoga and dance are perfect options for experiencing your body in space and letting it express itself. 💃🏽

• Make yourself beautiful : whether it's massages, cosmetics, lingerie or a trip to the hairdresser… Consider activities that boost your self-esteem if you have the time and/or the means.

• Practice meditation and body scanning : during a quiet time, scan your entire body, pausing on each part and taking the time to feel them.
  Over time, there is a good chance that you will notice a decrease in stress and a perception of your body that is more grounded in reality.

• Keep a positive journal : in a notebook, make a habit of writing down your small successes each day, what you like about yourself, and the things you are grateful for. This activity may seem simple and trivial, but it actually increases your self-esteem over time and, consequently, your sexual confidence.

• Reassess your view of femininity : Menopause doesn't mark the end of your sensuality, but the beginning of a new phase, free from the constraints of youth! A vision to share freely, especially with the men around us. Keep in mind that menopause or not, this stage of life doesn't define you. Patience, tolerance, and love are therefore essential!

• Use an app : Here's a really good tip from woman to woman: the Oména app.
  Created by women, for women, it supports those going through (peri)menopause with kindness and without taboo.
  The goal? To better understand what is happening in your body, identify your symptoms, track your progress, receive targeted advice and regain control over your intimate health.
  Between hormonal diary, guided exercises, and expert recommendations, Oména can be a real daily support.

Reconnecting with pleasure and exploring sexuality after 50

Sexual desire is not constant : it evolves throughout life! Have you ever noticed that some things you used to find attractive no longer have the same effect on you? That you don't adopt the same posture, the same gestures, the same initiatives during sexual intercourse or when you masturbate ?

Just as your clothing style has changed since your first stirrings of desire, after 50 it is sometimes necessary to redefine your relationship with pleasure .
Before rushing into drug treatments and/or more natural ones, changing your way of thinking might be the key!

Exploring new forms of intimacy after 50

The challenge of time, whatever the subject, lies in maintaining a fresh perspective, a curious mind, and an open attitude for continuous learning. As with any activity we've known and practiced for a while, it's easy to slip into a routine and become entrenched in certain ways of doing things.

With habit, bodies act more than minds, often automatically. We turn to ingrained habits, controlled gestures, and tried-and-tested positions . But shouldn't we constantly question ourselves, especially when it comes to sexual activities ?

Creativity and imagination are valuable tools for diversifying the forms of intimacy already known and established.

1. In a relationship : desire can be (re)born with the help of erotic games or videos , the use of sex toys or simply by shaking up your habits .

Do you usually initiate sex in the evening? Why not try it in the morning! In your bed? Try the sofa instead! With the same positions? Try some others! Without music? Pull out a playlist ! And there are tons of examples like that.

2. Single ? Your libido can potentially be boosted by ethical porn , erotic audio, masturbation with sex toys , long-distance sex via dating apps, erotic writing, reading… So many experiences to try to (re)discover what you enjoy! Here, it's especially important not to censor yourself and to explore your body . (Re)claim your vulva, the inside of your vagina, and your clitoris without shame or limits. Your body belongs to you, and it's perfectly normal for you to know it.

As you've probably gathered, it's essential to take stock of what sparks your arousal and desire. After 50, it's common to get stuck in a pattern that was true some time ago but has evolved without you even realizing it. A little reset of your intimate clock is in order. By doing this exercise, you'll be able to redirect your sexuality , refocusing it on new things that better meet your current sexual expectations and needs!

Rethinking desire with age

Let's deconstruct desire as merely something fleeting and intense! Often associated with being exclusively sexual, intense, and overwhelming, this sensation is surprisingly misunderstood by both men and women. Let's explore this term together to better understand and deconstruct it.

Desire can manifest itself in two main ways:

• Spontaneous : It arises naturally, without any particular stimulation, often associated with the beginnings of relationships or exciting situations. It is the ardent desire as it is frequently represented in fantasies and stories.

• Reactive : It awakens in response to specific stimuli, such as caresses, sweet words, or a conducive atmosphere. It develops over time and is nurtured within a couple's relationship based on principles such as listening, trust, and open communication.

Over time, spontaneous desire tends to diminish, giving way to reactive desire. (Thanks, hormones!) It's important to understand that this is normal and that reactive desire can be just as satisfying. Contrary to popular belief, desire isn't limited to a spontaneous impulse and can be cultivated. This is very good news, full of hope and pleasure! By learning to identify what stimulates your desire, you can better nourish your lust and increase your libido .

The benefits of a fulfilling sex life after 50

A fulfilling sex life is not just about fleeting gratification. It offers lasting health benefits for women, particularly significant after the age of 50!

Stress reduction

Intimate moments release endorphins (or happiness hormones), contributing to a lasting state of relaxation. By increasing the frequency of these moments , you contribute to creating a calm and serene living environment.

Improvement in overall health

Based on the same principle as for stress, regular sex can strengthen the immune system and promote better sleep. A cocktail of hormones that would be foolish to miss out on!

emotional well-being

Intimacy, whether alone or with a partner, nurtures a (re)connection to oneself and one's partner, contributing to a strengthened sense of self-love. By nurturing your body, you also nurture your mind!

Reduction of discomforts associated with menopause

While no official evidence proves a link between sexuality and menopausal symptoms, some anecdotal evidence and a few studies are promising. In a study published in August 2025, the Kinsey Institute presented a clinical trial suggesting masturbation as a remedy for menopausal discomfort . The prescription we all dream of!

As you have understood, sexuality after 50 is a profoundly liberating experience , provided that it is approached with curiosity and openness.

Whether you're in a relationship or single, you have the opportunity to achieve a fulfilling sex life that reflects your desires and needs . Dare to embrace this new phase with kindness and enthusiasm: your pleasure has no age limit, and it's in your hands.

Don't know where to start? What if you (re)learned how to massage your vulva and stimulate your clitoris ?