Our tips for great long-distance sex

Out of sight, but close to the body? Long-distance sex , although not always instinctive, is an excellent way to give (yourself) pleasure!

Whether you're in a committed relationship or an open one, whether it's a regular thing or not, this less conventional intimacy can lead to intense moments and unforgettable memories. If you're looking for practical advice on making love despite the distance , this article is for you! 

How to ignite desire from a distance?

Before exploring the different ways to make love long-distance, let's review some tips on the art of creating desire through a screen or a piece of paper. With a little creativity and an open mind, you'll see that it's entirely possible to spark desire , even from afar.

Desire is often the step that precedes physical contact. Skin-to-skin contact, in turn, intensifies desire. In this virtuous cycle, we can say that the sexual act is the result of desire leading to action. To avoid rushing things, here are some practical tips to help you create desire and initiate intimacy . 

The art of verbal seduction

We now know that sexual desire doesn't depend solely on physical contact or visual cues. It can be aroused by words, glances, gestures, or even sounds. Verbal seduction is therefore a powerful tool for fueling attraction and desire.

Exchanging compliments, adopting a sensual or poetic tone, trying out dirty talk , expressing fantasies, or speaking frankly about desires are all ways to create a strong erotic connection . These conversations can take place by phone, text message, video call, or even the old-fashioned way, through an exchange of letters (it's so romantic!).

Never underestimate the power of words on your sexual appetite and imagination. Dare to be creative and bold for an even greater effect on your partner. 

Create an atmosphere conducive to intimacy

Even remotely, it is possible to create a sensual and intimate atmosphere .

Create a seductive atmosphere, dim the lights, use a "sexy" playlist , and choose a seductive outfit that makes you feel good, inviting temptation into your environment.

If the exchange is not via video, no worries: take the opportunity to try your hand at the art of description ! Describe out loud where you are, the position you are in, what you are wearing, even down to your underwear if you wish.

The goal here is to stimulate your partner's imagination and allow them to immerse themselves in your environment, even in thought.

Playing with your partner's frustration

Find the positive in the situation and turn it to your advantage! The forbidden or the inaccessible often represent powerful temptations . Why not use them to your advantage?

Besides the negative feelings they may initially evoke, anticipation and frustration are also powerful aphrodisiacs ! This is based on the principle of edging . Whether you have a physical encounter planned for the future or not, make yourself desirable .

This can be achieved through suggestive words, evocative photos, or long conversations that build excitement . Create a gradual build-up of desire to make the long-awaited moment, whether physical or virtual, even more intense.

How to make love without contact?

Sexting and erotic writing: timeless classics

Whether in a committed relationship or an open one, making love remotely is an excellent way to diversify practices and rekindle the flame.

Whether in a one-time relationship or with a stranger, sexting is a great exercise to get to know each other better.

Writing is one of the simplest and most accessible ways to create a sexual connection . Here, put into words what you physically want to do to your recipient.

Play with imagination and projection. Detail the imagined gestures and actions to varying degrees , while using Simultaneous masturbation if you feel like it. Thrills guaranteed.

Phone sex: what we think about it

Similar to sexting and erotic writing mentioned above, phone sex is based on the same principle, but orally this time.

This is a form of verbal role-playing where partners describe what they would like to do or feel. The idea is to mentally enter a world where the words resonate physically within the other person.

You don't need to have storytelling skills, comedy skills, or to use complex verbal sparring. The important thing here is to allow room for authenticity and spontaneity .

Keep in mind that the perfect discussion does not exist and that it does not have to be totally fluid or complex to be effective! 

Erotic video calls: give it a try!

By combining sound and images, video calls can be extremely sexually stimulating, for you as well as for your partner.

If you feel comfortable with the idea, turn on the camera during your erotic exchanges . Play with the slider to make suggestions based on your level of confidence and your feelings at the moment.

Remember to stay attuned to your emotions and intuition . The important thing here is to respect your boundaries and maintain control over what you choose to show or not. Mutual respect and consent are part of the journey, even remotely!

Using connected sex toys to enjoy yourself even remotely

Today, some connected sex toys can be controlled remotely via an app. This makes them particularly interesting playmates for contactless sex !

These accessories allow one partner to initiate physical stimulation while physically separated. An exciting and playful option that isn't always considered, but one that brings you closer to a real connection . Thank you, technology!

How to play erotic games remotely?

Using erotic games can be particularly entertaining and exciting! To initiate it remotely, follow your creativity and imagination to create surprising, slightly exotic or downright daring scenarios. 

This could be, for example:

• sending more or less explicit photos at random times,

• to set sensual challenges for oneself,

• playing role-playing games or impersonating characters over the phone.

Here, the goal is to play with temptation , against a backdrop of lightheartedness. 

Synchronized sex to be together, even at a distance

Sometimes, keeping things simple can be incredibly effective.

Agree on a starting time and begin masturbating separately while thinking of the other person.

Here, there are no calls or exchanges in the moment; everything is based on synchronization and imagination . You give each other pleasure knowing that the other person is experiencing the same moment as you. Your bodies are separate, but your minds are together. Need inspiration? We've got 7 positions to try for masturbation. 

Once finished, inform the other person and describe the moment if you wish. Strong mental connection guaranteed! 

As you've seen, there are countless ways to turn up the heat and make love remotely . With a touch of daring and a dash of creativity, it's entirely possible to experience intense intimate moments and a sexual connection without any physical contact.

If you make it a strength, long-distance sex can become a tool for exploration and endless pleasure. Because although it's often expressed through touch, desire begins first and foremost in the mind! Want to delve deeper into your unconscious and intuitive realm? Discover our article " Listening to Your Gut: Why Develop Your Intuition? "