Our tips for great long-distance sex

Out of sight, close to the body? Although not always instinctive, long-distance sex is an excellent way of (giving) yourself pleasure! Whether you're in a couple or in a relationship, recurring or not, this less conventional intimacy can be the source of intense moments and burning memories. If you're looking for practical advice on how to make love despite the distance, this article is for you!

How do you ignite desire from a distance?

Before exploring the different ways of making love from a distance, let's take a look at a few tips on the art of making yourself desirable through a screen or a sheet of paper. With a little creativity and open-mindedness, you'll see that it's entirely possible to provoke desire, even when you're far away.

Desire is often the stage that precedes physical contact, which in turn reinforces desire. In this virtuous circle, we can say that the sexual act is the result of a desire that leads to an action. So as not to skip any steps, here are a few practical tips to help you create the desire and initiate the intimate moment. 🌹

The art of verbal seduction

We now know that sexual desire doesn't just depend on physical contact or visual elements. It can be aroused by words, looks, gestures or even sounds. Verbal seduction is therefore a powerful tool for creating attraction and lust. 💬

Exchanging compliments, adopting a sensual or poetic tone, trying your hand at Dirty Talk, expressing your fantasies or talking about your desires crudely are all ways of creating a strong erotic bond. These conversations can take place over the phone, by message, during video calls or even the old-fashioned way, through an exchange of letters.

Never underestimate the power of words on our sexual appetite and imagination. Dare to be creative and daring for even more effect on your partner 😉

Creating the right atmosphere

Even from a distance, it's possible to create a sensual and intimate atmosphere.

Take care of the environment, dim the lights, help yourself to a "sex" playlist, select seductive clothing to invite temptation into your surroundings.

If the exchange isn't on video, don't worry: take the opportunity to try your hand at the art of description! Describe out loud where you are, what position you're in, what you're wearing, even your underwear if you like.

The aim here is to titillate your partner's imagination and let him or her intrude on your surroundings, even through thought. 🌌

Play with frustration

Get the positive out of the situation and turn it around in your favour! The forbidden or the inaccessible often represent strong objects of temptation. Why not play with them?

As well as the negative feelings they can initially trigger, expectation and frustration are also powerful aphrodisiacs! This is based on the principle ofEdging. Whether you have planned a physical encounter in the future or not, make yourself desired. This can be done through suggestive words, evocative photos or even long conversations that build excitement.

Build up the desire gradually to make the long-awaited moment, whether physical or virtual, even more intense. 🔥

How do you make love without contact?

Sexting and erotic writing

As a couple or in an open relationship, making love without contact is an excellent way to diversify practices and fuel lust.

In a one-off relationship or with a stranger, it can also be an intense and instructive way of getting to know each other better.

Writing is one of the simplest and most accessible ways of creating a sexual connection. Here, put into words what you want to do physically to your recipient.

Play with imagination and projection. Go into more or less detail about the gestures and actions you imagine, while masturbating at the same time if you feel the urge. 🖊️

Phone sex

Like the sexting and erotic writing mentioned above, phone sex works in the same way, but this time it's oral.

It's a form of verbal role-play where the partners describe what they would like to do or feel. The idea is to integrate, through thought, a world where the words physically resonate with the other person.

You don't need to be a skilled storyteller or comedian or have complex verbal jousting skills. The important thing here is to leave room for authenticity and spontaneity. 📞

Bear in mind that the perfect chat doesn't exist and that it doesn't have to be totally fluid or complex to be effective!

Erotic video calls

By mixing sounds and images, visios can be extremely sexually stimulating.

If you're comfortable with the idea, turn on the camera during your erotic exchanges to create strong visual stimulation. Play with the slider to suggest according to your level of confidence and your feelings at the time. 📹

Don't forget to listen to your emotions and intuition. Here, the important thing will be to respect your limits and keep control over what you do or don't want to show.

Mutual respect and consent are part of the adventure, even at a distance!

Using connected sex toys

Today, some connected sex toys can be controlled remotely via an application. This makes them particularly interesting playmates for contactless sex! 📲

These accessories allow one of the partners to be the source of a sensation or physical stimulation while being physically distant. It's an exciting and fun option that we don't usually think about, but one that deserves to be better known. Thanks to technology!

Remote erotic games

Erotic games can be particularly entertaining and exciting! To initiate it remotely, follow your creativity and imagination to create scenarios that are as gripping as they are effective. 🎲

For example, you could send more or less explicit photos at random times, set each other sensual challenges, play role-playing games or embody characters over the phone... The aim here is to play with temptation, against a light-hearted backdrop.

Synchronised sex

Sometimes keeping things simple can be cruelly effective.

Agree on a starting signal and start masturbating on your own while thinking about each other.

Here, there's no need to call or exchange ideas in the moment - everything is based on synchronisation and imagination. You give each other pleasure and you know that the other is experiencing the same moment as you. Your bodies are separate, but your minds are together. Need some inspiration? We've got 7 masturbation positions for you to try.

Once you've finished, tell the other person about it and describe the moment if you like. Strong mental connection guaranteed! 🌠

As you've seen, there are plenty of ways to turn up the heat and make love from a distance. With a touch of daring and a pinch of creativity, it's entirely possible to experience strong intimate moments and a sexual connection without any contact. Far from being synonymous with frustration, long-distance sex can become a tool for exploration and infinite pleasure. Because although it's often expressed through touch, desire begins first and foremost in the mind! Want to delve deeper into your unconscious and intuitive sphere? Discover our article "Listening to your gut: why develop your intuition".