Self-knowledge: our favorite tools

To regain control of your life, it starts with knowing yourself well . Before asserting who you are, it's essential to be clear about your values, your limits, and your deepest aspirations, right?

So, we've gathered our favorite tools to help you discover your true self. Spoiler alert: even though we love them, you won't find any personality tests or astrological charts in this article. Instead, we wanted each practice to be simple and as accessible as possible.

Practicing meditation

"Oh no, not meditation again," we hear complaining from our offices. And yet, yes, meditation.

Imagine your mind for a moment like the water of a lake. If it's agitated by intrusive thoughts, strong emotions, paradoxical injunctions, and endless to-do lists, it's impossible to see its depths clearly. But if the mind is serene, the surface is smooth. We can then distinctly perceive the depths and discover more deeply who we truly are.

Meditation is a gateway to your inner world . It helps you to ground yourself in the present and calm the turmoil of your mind . By taking a few moments each day to sit in silence, you open the door to a profound connection with your thoughts, emotions, and sensations.

To get started, simply focus on the ebb and flow of your breath. You can also listen to a guided session. YouTube is full of guided meditations perfect for beginners. If you want to create a solid routine, try apps like Headspace , Calm , or Insight Timer (free), which allow you to track your progress.

In just a few minutes each day, observe the thoughts that pass by without judging them . Little by little, you will get closer to your inner essence. You will learn to be present with it. When the noise subsides, you will finally hear its still, small voice.

Bonus: meditation also helps to Reduce stress and improve concentration . What more could you ask for? 

Trying out intuitive writing

Intuitive writing is a form of journaling without rules or censorship. It's a one-on-one with yourself, guided by the tip of your pen.

With this self-knowledge tool, you don't need to have impeccable spelling or have perfected your writing style. You are the sole recipient of your writing .

Every day, once a week, or even once a month, treat yourself to a moment of introspection. Grab a nice notebook and your favorite pen, and let the words flow.

We invite you to write down everything that comes to mind. Put your first thought on paper; it will be the thread that helps unravel the tangle of your thoughts.

Need a hand getting started? Here are some ideas to inspire you.

• My most memorable moment: Write about a moment in your life that left a lasting impression on you. Describe what happened, how you felt, and what you learned from the experience.

• Three things I like about myself: Identify three physical, emotional, or mental qualities that you appreciate about yourself. Explain why these qualities are important to you.

• My Fears and Hidden Dreams : Explore the fears that may be holding you back and the dreams you may never have shared. What's preventing you from pursuing them? How could you overcome these obstacles?

• What I would like to say to my younger self : Write a letter to a past version of yourself. What advice or encouragement would you like to give them, based on what you have learned since?

• My core values : Identify three values ​​that are deeply important to you. How do these values ​​guide your choices and actions on a daily basis?

Make the space between the lines a secret repository for your dreams, fears, desires, and deepest reflections. By giving free rein to your inner voice, you will be surprised by the revelations and ideas that emerge.

We promise you, intuitive writing promotes mental clarity . It's a true emotional catharsis. A good writing session can sometimes be as beneficial as an hour at the gym!

Tracking your menstrual cycle

Your menstrual cycle is so much more than just the arrival of your period. It's a biological gift that allows you to understand the fluctuation of your emotions. Each month, your cycle holds up a mirror to help you learn more about yourself.

By noting your mood and thoughts during each of the four phases of the cycle , you can honor your energy and desires in the moment . After a few months of diligent observation, you can use each period as a springboard for your projects and to work on your self-confidence.

For example, you might find that during your period, you feel the need to withdraw and rest. It's a time for introspection and reflection. Conversely, perhaps your ovulation phase is characterized by social interaction and boundless energy .

Whether you keep track in a notebook or with an app, making menstrual cycle tracking an integral part of your life creates harmony between your body and mind. You develop a deeper relationship with yourself and cultivate a more authentic connection with your cyclical nature. 

Dare to masturbate

We now come to our favorite tool for self-exploration. Drumroll, please… Female masturbation!

Taking the time to define the contours of your pleasure is an essential step in self-discovery. Masturbation offers you the opportunity to become the focus of your attention again and to set aside the frenzy of daily life.

During this precious interlude, you connect with your sensations, you consciously choose the position that suits you , and we allow ourselves a moment of tenderness towards ourselves.

Giving yourself pleasure without the pressure of performance or time limits is the very essence of self-care. In a sequence of gestures and caresses, you listen to your body.

For some, masturbation even becomes a ritual, a way to rediscover their sensuality and inner power.

In bed with a pillow, in the shower, with your fingers or your favorite vibrator, don't be afraid to try different approaches. Just like with the previous practices, you'll discover new facets as you explore.

Still have doubts? We've listed 25 good reasons to treat yourself solo right here! 

The path to self-knowledge is paved with inner discoveries, profound reflections, and moments of realization. Far from being linear, it offers you new keys each day to affirm your desires and reclaim power in your daily life. Take the first step and try the different practices suggested in this article. P.S.: If you need a companion for the last tool, let us introduce you to Coco and Chouchou .