Why consult a sexologist

Fever and a headache? Go see a doctor! Teeth becoming more sensitive over the months? Make an appointment with the dentist!

And when libido is low, passion has disappeared from the couple, or one is questioning one's sexual orientation, what do we do? 

Sexuality, still a taboo subject in France where knowledge is only shared in hushed tones, nevertheless has its share of professionals ready to guide us towards well-being. 

Consulting a sex therapist can be daunting, as it's difficult to know what to expect. We've prepared a comprehensive guide to help you take the plunge and connect with a professional suited to your needs.

What does it mean to be a sexologist in France?

On the doctors' side, there is an Inter-University Diploma recognized by the State . This allows them to mention this expertise on their prescriptions and professional signage.

It is generally accessible by midwives, pharmacists, nurses, physiotherapists, psychomotor therapists and psychologists.

Some professionals practice only sexology, others practice it with another specialty such as general medicine, urology, psychiatry, gynecology or endocrinology.

In France, doctors and sexologists play a significant national role in addressing sexual problems . Whether it's for sexual difficulties, relationship issues, or questions about their desire, both women and men can consult a sexologist to find answers tailored to their situation.

There are also many sexologists with a background in psychology. They are often called "sex therapists" or "clinical sexologists ." These professionals cannot perform examinations or prescribe medication due to their non-medical status. However, they offer solid expertise focused on psychological, relational, and sexual aspects.

And then there are the others. Those who fancy themselves experts on your intimate life by mixing New Age practices, self-help books, and methods that have not been validated by the scientific community.

Taking the step to seek help therefore requires clearly defining your problem and exercising critical thinking. Don't panic, we'll tell you everything you need to know in the following paragraphs.

Why consult a sexologist?

Contrary to popular belief, making an appointment with a sexologist or sex therapist isn't limited to libido problems . Their role is much broader than that. They are, in fact, partners in our sexual fulfillment.

The first mission of a sexologist is to listen to you and support you during a therapy session or a single appointment.

Consulting a sex therapist is key to exploring and understanding your difficulties and enriching your sexuality in a healthy and informed way . These professionals offer empathetic and specialized support for addressing topics related to sexuality and relationships.

Depending on their training and specialization, they can help you resolve these difficulties:

Diagnosing and treating sexual disorders

Perfect as a complement to a midwife during the postpartum period or for navigating the transformation of menopause . They are excellent allies for understanding dyspareunia. anorgasmia or endometriosis .

Managing relationship concerns

The consultation provides a space to discuss communication problems, disagreements, or relationship difficulties related to sexuality . A sex therapist is the right person to help overcome a decline in intimacy within a couple or a waning of passion.

Spreading sex education

These are the go-to people for reliable information on sexual health , sexually transmitted infections, and contraception. More well-researched than some blogs and social media accounts, these professionals guide us towards a positive sexuality .

Supporting life and gender transitions

They support individuals or couples during life phases such as pregnancy, menopause , or hormonal changes. Sexologists provide a safe space to explore and understand issues of sexual and gender identity.

Treatment of sexual trauma

Some sexologists and sex therapists are specifically trained in post-traumatic support. These professionals help people who have experienced traumatic events related to sexuality to overcome these challenges , regardless of the intensity of the experience.

Supporting and strengthening self-confidence

Finally, sexologists can become our best allies in boosting our sexual self-esteem . They share the keys to breaking down taboos and embracing our bodies as much as our desires. A dream come true, right?

Choosing the right sexologist

Finding THE sexologist who has the necessary qualifications and with whom you naturally connect takes a little effort. But we promise you that the energy spent searching for this rare gem will be worth it to revitalize your sex life and boost your libido to the max!

But to get to that point, a good training in sexology is essential!

1. First, check their qualifications . Make sure your sex therapist has received recognized training in sexology, whether from medicine, psychology, or even coaching. Take this opportunity to check their specialization. If you need help saying goodbye to vaginal dryness , you might not need a relationship expert.

2. Next, consult professional directories. In France, you can rely on those of the National Union of Medical Sexologists (SNMS) and the National Union of Clinical Sexologists (SNSC) . These are invaluable resources for finding qualified professionals near you.

3. First-hand accounts are always invaluable . Don't hesitate to ask your friends, your general practitioner, or other trusted professionals if they know a good sex therapist. Online reviews are also an excellent source of information. In addition to determining the person's competence, you can verify that their perspective on sexuality aligns with your specific issues and values.

4. Finally, don't be afraid to make initial contact. Contact the sexologist by phone or email to ask questions about their approach, fees, and availability. This will give you a good idea of their profile. You're allowed to make several mistakes before finding the right person who can guide you, through their expertise in sexology, toward a fulfilling sex life.

What happens during a sex therapy consultation?

Kindness, at the heart of your support in sexology

The first appointment with a sex therapist is like a first romantic date: a mixture of excitement and apprehension !

We're sharing an example of a consultation to give you an idea of what to expect. Keep in mind, however, that each professional has their own approach and protocol.

In the consultation room, you can feel free to express yourself, to say anything and tell your story. Indeed, the sex therapist is there to understand their patients' needs regarding their sexual lives, without judgment and with compassion.

Example of a consultation with a sexologist

A session with a specialist begins with the fundamental step of active listening .

This is the time to talk about your situation, your level of desire, your relationship with your partner, any current difficulties you're experiencing, and anything else that's troubling you. The more details you provide, the better the therapist can do their job. During this initial consultation, also express your expectations regarding their services.

After the listening phase comes the question and exchange phase , which allows the sexologist to better understand the patients and their difficulties.

If the problems are medical in nature, you will most likely be entitled to an examination.

If your situation is more psychologically related, then the sexologist will serve as a guide and a mirror so that you can untangle your mind and find a solution together.

Once the session is over, you are completely free to ask all your questions , even the most risqué or outlandish ones! The sexologist is there to answer them and encourage you to embark on the path of a positive sexuality that suits you.

Is it possible for a couple to consult a sexologist?

You can also consult a sex therapist with your partner to take care of your relationship's health. The therapist will be able to offer solutions to strengthen your relationship, whether it's with a man, a woman, or someone who is non-binary.

You've reached the end of this article, which means you have all the information you need to find the person who can guide you towards a sexuality filled with pleasure and enjoyment . By taking this step, you're choosing to better understand your sexuality and embrace your intimate well-being.

Remember, your sexual happiness deserves all the attention and support it needs to fully flourish ! To continue nurturing it, visit the wellness section of this journal .