Clitoral orgasm: reclaiming an organ that has been taboo for too long

The female orgasm is still surrounded by mystery today, but one thing is certain: the clitoris plays a central role in ultimate pleasure .

In this article, we've decided to shine a light on this organ that has remained in the shadows for far too long. Here's a complete guide that traces the history of the clitoris, debunks some myths, and shares our best tips for optimal clitoral stimulation . Let's reclaim the seat of our pleasure!

The information shared in this article is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. If you experience persistent pain or discomfort, consult a healthcare professional.

Discovery and anatomy of the clitoris

In 2017, only one in eight biology textbooks for eighth-grade students addressed the internal structure of the female reproductive organs . This anecdote alone encapsulates the entire history of this orgasm intended for female sexual pleasure .

The history of the clitoris is a game of hide-and-seek with the injunction to procreate. It was given attention during Antiquity when it was thought to help in having children, then it gradually fell into oblivion.

Then, during the Renaissance, the practice of dissection changed our understanding of the female anatomy. Around 1550, the Italian anatomist Matteo Realdo Colombo was the first to describe the clitoris as the "seat of female pleasure ." In his work De re anatomica, he naturally compares it to the male member because the glans has the capacity to become erect.

Between the 18th and 19th centuries, the clitoris saw its reputation threatened. Once considered essential to female pleasure, it became an instrument of sexual sin , particularly with the advent of the war against masturbation .

Having a clitoral orgasm is considered a sign of immaturity, or even sexual deviance. Come on now.

Then, towards the end of the 1980s, our savior , Australian urologist Helen O'Connell, performed the first complete X-ray of the clitoris . She revealed both its importance and its complexity. Queen Helen reminded us that the clitoris is much more than we thought, with its bulbs and its 10 centimeters in length !

→ For more, see: O'Connell, HE (1998). The Anatomy of the Clitoris. The Journal of Urology, 159(1), 189–193.

Dr. Odile Buisson , gynecologist and ultrasound specialist, confirms: “ The clitoris is a composite organ whose internal and external parts must all be considered to understand female pleasure. The clitoral/vaginal distinction is artificial. ”

Let us remember that according to the WHO, sexual health is a fundamental human right, which includes the ability to have satisfying and safe sexual experiences. 

A closer look at Freud: the number one enemy of female sexuality

We cannot talk about orgasm and clitoris without addressing the issue of female "frigidity".

Popularized by Freud, this is supposedly a real psychological problem. This misconception is so widespread in our approach to sexuality that it has become a judgment on a woman's worth and her femininity. We love it.

Although anorgasmia exists, it is treated as a medical condition and not a value judgment.

Freud's theory contributed to this pressure to achieve orgasm by implying that it stemmed from a position of inferiority in which Freud himself placed women. The father of psychoanalysis managed to convince people that the inability to reach vaginal orgasm was a medical condition. According to him, women are jealous of men because the size of their clitoris is supposedly small compared to their penises. It's laughable.

Clitoral orgasm is often considered a sign of immaturity and the sexual pleasure of young girls. This is an extraordinary feat when you consider that only one in five women achieves orgasm during vaginal penetration without clitoral stimulation.

Female sexuality is complex and personal. It's time for us to break free from dusty taboos about the clitoris and make it our best ally in pleasure .

The myth: clitoral orgasm vs. vaginal orgasm

Even today, women's magazines and preconceived notions create a clear separation between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. The former is supposedly triggered by direct stimulation of the clitoral glans, a small sensitive structure located just outside the vaginal opening.

Vaginal pleasure is often associated with stimulation of the vaginal walls and the G-spot. However, the existence and importance of the G-spot remain controversial and are the subject of debate among researchers and sexual health professionals. Therefore, we prefer to discuss the anatomy of the G-spot. because it would bring together the walls of the vagina, the urethra, the Skene's glands, the internal part of the clitoris and the entrance to the uterus.

Spoiler alert: these two types of orgasms are actually the result of clitoral stimulation, one on its external part and the other through indirect stimulation via the vagina.

Women don't fall into one category or another. Each has her own sensitivities and desires . We can experience pleasure in diverse ways; sometimes a simple touch on the nape of the neck can send us to seventh heaven. It's important to explore this diversity. 

How to stimulate your clitoris?

First and foremost, it is essential to understand the complexity of the clitoris and its interaction with your body. Much more than a simple externally visible button, it extends beyond the glans visible to the naked eye.

You can start by lightly touching the glans and making a variety of movements. Some circular motions, light tapping, or even caressing with your fingers can be particularly pleasurable.

But don't limit yourself to glans stimulation! If you enjoy penetration and it doesn't hurt, you can explore the internal part of the clitoris . Try to find that famous G-spot that maximizes pleasure in the internal part of the clitoris.

It is located approximately 5 to 8 centimeters from the vaginal opening, below the surface of the pubic bone. Insert one or two fingers into the vagina and gently flex them upwards, towards the navel. You may feel an area of tissue that is slightly rougher or bumpier than the rest of the vaginal wall.

Take your time to explore your own reaction to different forms of stimulation. Everyone is unique, so what works for one person may not work for another.

Stimulating the clitoris step by step

Start with the erogenous zones.

The erogenous zones of your body are those that give you pleasure when you touch them. So, to stimulate your clitoris, you can start by touching other parts of your body that are also sensitive.

Try exploring the sensations around your breasts , your pubic area, your stomach. Immerse yourself in a relaxed atmosphere to stimulate every part of your body and enjoy uninhibited pleasure.

Let your imagination run wild!

It's no secret that the brain is the true organ of pleasure. It responds quickly to erotic images, sounds, and scenarios. So you can start by looking at an erotic image, a film, or listening to ethical pornography , or simply recall an arousing memory. There's nothing better to prepare the clitoris for pleasure! 

Vibration or air pulse: choosing the right vibrator

Including a vibrator in your exploration of clitoral pleasure is an excellent idea . These intimate toys offer targeted and varied stimulation, perfectly suited to your sexual preferences.

You can try classic vibration with a small accessory like the Spinning Top . The vibration creates direct stimulation of the glans with greater intensity and repetition, which quickly raises the temperature.

Why not try the air-pulse technology that has revolutionized the world of adult toys? Clitoral stimulators , like Coco , open up new horizons of sensation and trigger deep orgasms. The air pulses create air waves for contactless pleasure.

For those starting their vibrator collection, the Mini Coco could be ideal. Less imposing than its big brother, its role is entirely dedicated to clitoral stimulation, bringing you a good dose of pleasure wherever you take it!

Using language

For pleasure shared by two or more people, oral stimulation is ideal! Naturally moist and soft, it is particularly effective for acting on the clitoral glans.

Your partner simply needs to gently lift and spread the clitoral hood with their fingers to precisely stimulate the clitoris with the tip. They can then use the entire surface of their tongue for a gentle sensation or use their whole mouth to suck on the glans.

Don't forget to clearly communicate your desires and preferences for cunnilingus, as with all other practices!  

Positions that are favorable for clitoral stimulation

The 69th

Manual and oral masturbation is always welcome ! And the 69 position is the pinnacle of this experience, as it allows you to receive caresses with fingers and tongue and to give them.

To avoid direct contact with the glans of the clitoris, you can, for example, tighten the lips of the vulva against each other and indulge in all kinds of oral caresses.

The possibilities are endless, let your inspiration run free.

The missionary

The missionary position: a reliable and often underestimated classic . After all, the best soups are made in old pots, right?

You can vary the fun by slightly adjusting the position, such as keeping your legs together or opting for a standing version.

By squeezing the legs together, whether for men or women, clitoral stimulation is amplified , which will considerably intensify pleasure.

Similarly, trying the standing missionary position adds a new and exciting dimension to this familiar position. It not only allows for deep penetration, but eye contact and kissing add extra intensity to the experience.

The prone doggy style

While the traditional doggy style is not always the best for stimulating the clitoris, the lying doggy style is there to save the day .

Nothing could be simpler: the person lying on their stomach lets the other person enter from behind.

With the legs together, the natural back-and-forth motion perfectly stimulates the clitoris, and the person lying down can also enjoy themselves.

The scissors

A firm favourite with lesbian couples, scissors offer total control over clitoral stimulation.

In this position, the two partners position themselves so that their legs intertwine, creating intense clitoral friction during the back-and-forth movements.

It allows for mutual clitoral stimulation and can be adapted according to individual preferences to vary the angle and intensity of the friction.

The belly dancer

The belly dancer is an inclusive position where one partner lies on their back while the other is positioned on top.

The partner on top can then control the movement and pressure exerted on their partner's clitoris with their hips and friction.

This position offers visual intimacy and emotional connection while allowing for unparalleled clitoral stimulation.

We hope this sex guide and our position recommendations will help you explore clitoral pleasure even further. Based on your observations, you can delve deeper into the sensations you enjoy most and expand your sexual repertoire.

We wish you a pleasurable exploration of an organ that has been taboo for far too long. Giving love to your vulva is a great way to give yourself a good dose of self-love. And it's good for your health! To delve deeper into building a positive sexuality, check out our article dedicated to positions to explore when pleasuring yourself solo.