How to use a vibrator as a couple

Have you ever thought about using a vibrator with your partner? It's a great opportunity to experience intimacy differently, discover a new type of pleasure and new sensations to share together!

But this topic is still somewhat taboo… Some people believe that sex toys are only used when someone is frustrated or experiencing performance issues. It's important to know how to broach the subject with your partner to dispel preconceived notions and open up new horizons of pleasure.

The key takeaway: anything that can make you feel good is welcome.

So let's put an end to the clichés about using vibrators in a relationship , communicate with your partner and let yourself go!

Here is a short guide to properly understand the subject and what a vibrator can bring to your relationships .

1. How to bring up the topic of using a vibrator in your relationship?

2. Why can a vibrator spice up your sex life?

3. Which vibrator should I choose for use by two people and how do I use it?

4. What positions are best for couples to enjoy using a vibrator ? 

Using a vibrator as a couple: how to talk to your partner about it?

Vibrating in a relationship: beyond preconceived ideas

You want to incorporate a vibrator into your sexual relations , but this subject can prove complicated to broach with your partner.

Old habits die hard… “ I feel less desired ”; “ The vibrator will replace me .”

It's normal to be apprehensive about your partner's reaction when starting this conversation! However, your partner doesn't need to worry. Share your desire, discuss the styles you like, and reassure them. Communication is always the cornerstone of any intimate relationship.

To broach the subject of the vibrator

Don't overthink how to broach the subject; just ask gently, presenting the vibrator as a game! Perhaps they've already thought about it or like the idea but didn't dare tell you!

Some people may be hesitant at first. Don't try to convince them completely; respect their pace and timing. Consent is the most important thing in your intimate life.

Simply explain to him why you want some renewal in your sex life, and what the benefits would be for your relationship of incorporating a vibrator.

“ I did ask him if he would consent to use the vibrator. “It’s you I want to touch, not a machine,” he replied.

This response made me doubt myself and gave me the impression that sex involving toys is less romantic. The mere thought of bringing them made me fear I would be devaluing my partner. I felt so demanding that I didn't even dare bring up the subject anymore. ” Testimony from Bellesa, reported in the Huffington Post

Remember that an object will never replace the human body; a vibrator is a friend, a toy, and is far from competing with or being the enemy of a woman or a man. It's a little something extra in your relationship; it can allow you to explore a new kind of pleasure , increase arousal, and thus break the routine of your sex life.

Why can a vibrator spice up your sex life?

How to gradually integrate a vibrator into your relationship?

You can start by using a vibrator on its own. In order to understand the object and rediscover your body as a woman, you will nourish your libido, your fantasies, and new pleasures . With this experience, you can then guide your partner to the areas, gestures, and vibrations that feel good to you. 

If your partner was hesitant during your discussion on the subject, you can encourage them to use a sex toy on their end as well!

He/she will then be able to take ownership of the object in complete privacy and at their own pace, without feeling any pressure. Indeed, the individual masturbation is still quite taboo in relationships. Yet, it is perfectly normal, and even rather healthy. According to a Harris Interactive survey conducted in 2022, more than 80% of men in relationships and 64% of women in relationships continue to masturbate;

Masturbate alone at first to allow you to explore your body, to know your pleasure in order to properly guide your partner in your carnal intercourse.

The benefits of using a vibrator as a couple

There are several reasons why you might want to use a sex toy during sexual intercourse . First, they bring novelty to your relationship and allow you to discover new sensations together.

• They can easily be integrated into your erotic games (cards, couple's pornographic film , board games etc...) by becoming your new shared partner.

• Vibrators stimulate libido , helping you to become more aware of your erogenous zones and your imagination.

• Vibrators are also perfect for breaking the routine and rekindling the flame of a new relationship. After sex, you can have a little debrief in bed to share your feelings . This is the moment when trust and closeness between you are at their peak. That's why keeping the flame alive helps nurture this intimacy between you.

Which vibrator should I choose for use by two people?

1. The rabbit to use as a couple

The Rabbit is a vibrator that can stimulate both the vagina and clitoris simultaneously . One part penetrates the vagina, while the other surrounds the clitoris to intensify pleasure. This vibrating sex toy will bring you immense pleasure once you know how to use it !

2. Suction and vibration for maximum sensations for couples

THE This dual-stimulation vibrator is specially designed to fit you AND your partner perfectly. During heterosexual intercourse, you can insert the vibrating part into the vagina ; your partner will also feel the vibrations on their penis and will enjoy tighter stimulation if you practice penetration.

The woman can stimulate her clitoris with the suction part and vibrate the object on the glans/frenulum of the penis at the same time.

Similarly, penetration with your partner remains possible! The intimate moments you share with Coco will be unforgettable for you and your partner!

This vibrator is perfect for intimate relations between women ; one stimulates her clitoris, the other positions herself above to penetrate the toy into the vagina.

3. Vibrating eggs and vibrating rings for couples: what do we think about them?

The vibrating egg , oval-shaped, is inserted into the vagina. It is advisable to apply lubricant before use to avoid friction. After inserting the egg, the remote control operates the vibrator . Give the remote control to your partner, and the vibrating egg will do the rest!

Vibrating rings are inserted directly around the penis and help maintain an erection. During penetration, the vibrations intensify stimulation for both partners, enough to make you roar with pleasure!

Prostate stimulation for men can be a real source of pleasure! This includes penetration: an anal plug or a vibrating belt to integrate your toy will help you give your partner new pleasure.

You can also use a clitoral suction device to complement the stimulation(s) provided by your partner. 

What positions are best for couples to enjoy using a vibrator?

Positions play a role in your pleasure during sexual intercourse and in the intensity of orgasms.

It cannot be stressed enough, but orgasm should NEVER be the goal of your moment of pleasure, whether alone or with a partner.

Here are some positions to try with a vibrator. 

Andromache - The Belly Dancer

For an unexpected use of the vibrator, place one between you during the Andromache position. A vibrating ring around the penis or a small vibrator placed on both clitorises will be highly pleasurable.

The doggy style

Stimulate your clitoris during doggy style with a vibrator or a sucker while stimulating your breasts for an explosion of pleasure.

The 69th

Lying on your side, alternate between licks, caresses, and vibrations. In this position, each with your own toy in hand , you can let spontaneous inspiration work its magic.

On your back: knees bent towards your chest

In this position, your partner stimulates your G-spot with one or two index fingers, while their other hand manipulates the vibrator on the glans of your clitoris.

You can recreate this position on your own to discover your pleasure, find your G-spot, and understand the movements you need to simultaneously stimulate both the G-spot and the clitoris. In fact, Coco was designed specifically for this purpose : it has a suction cup for the clitoris and bends (to adapt to most body shapes) to allow for simultaneous vaginal penetration thanks to its vibrating head.

As you've probably gathered, using a vibrator as a couple allows you to discover yourself, discover your partner, and spice up your sex life. All while respecting each other's pace. Let yourselves explore the pleasure these vibrators provide , hand in hand!