Focus on the Karezza method
In Italian, karezza means"caresses". It's also the name of a method that puts foreplay back at the heart of sexual relations. Among the practices that raise the temperature are caresses, kisses, massages and cuddles. In a fast-paced society where we can't catch our breath, this approach invites us to stop time and concentrate on what's essential.
What is the Karezza method?
The history of the method
The Karezza method has a long history. In 1896, the American obstetrician and gynaecologist Alice B. Stockham discovered and developed this practice. A very committed woman, she helped prostitutes leave the streets and supported divorced women with children.
In 1896, she published Karezza, a book on this spiritual and sexual practice inspired by tantric body control techniques. Alice also advised her clients to abstain from orgasm during intercourse. 📖
Many sexologists today recommend the Karezza method for revitalising couples' sex lives, as it can be particularly beneficial for those seeking to reconnect with their partner or overcome sexual difficulties.
The fundamental principles
No orgasm as the goal
The main aim of the Karezza method is not orgasm, but mutual pleasure and union with your partner. The idea is to take the time to experience all the sensations of closeness and connection without seeking the ultimate orgasm.
Emotional connection
The Karezza method focuses on strengthening emotional connection and intimacy. Interactions are slow, deliberate and tender. We take time to look into each other's eyes, smile, massage and cuddle. 👀
Presence and attention
During the practice, it's all about being fully present, attentive to your own sensations and those of the other person. Synchronised breathing exercises or prolonged eye contact can be useful to anchor yourself in the moment. ⏰
Why try this approach?
Similar to Sensate Focus, the Karezza method can be beneficial for people with sexual problems.
For example, for men suffering from premature ejaculation or for women dealing with anorgasmia, it helps to reduce anxiety and refocus the experience on sensations.
This method is a way of focusing on what's really important: the journey, not the landing. ✈️
The benefits of the Karezza method
On mental and physical health
Practising Karezza stimulates the production of oxytocin, the love hormone. ❤️ This enhances sensuality and romance, bringing partners even closer together.
By shifting the focus from orgasm to emotional connection, this method helps to reduce the pressure to perform and encourage a more balanced and egalitarian approach to sex.
On the couple's relationship
Based on gentleness and slowness, the Karezza method transforms the way we interact sexually. By emphasising caresses and physical contact, it helps to establish a deeper connection. 😍
So if you feel it's time to get closer to your partner and strengthen your intimacy, the Karezza method is for you! To go even further, we also recommend the practice of conscious sexuality. 🧘
