Anal lubrication: myths and realities

We know what you're thinking. Anal lubrication is a misnomer!
Because it doesn't exist. At least not in a natural way.
But you know what? It's a question we still get asked frequently: proof that a gentle reminder is in order.

This article is for all those who want to know more about the practice of anal sex and more specifically about anal lubrication : this central ingredient without which pleasure can quickly turn into discomfort (or even pain).

Whether you've already tried it or not, whether it's in your plans or not... you're in the right place if you want to learn and are curious!
Because no, it is never too late (nor useless) to learn about how your body and erogenous zones work .

Anal sex is not just a variation of vaginal penetration.
It is a practice in its own right, with its own codes, precautions, sensations, and rules.

At Puissante, we believe that every new experience deserves a solid foundation of knowledge. And that having fun starts with understanding your own anatomy .

So, we settle in, take a breath, and we'll tell you everything about anal lubrication: from persistent myths to useful information and practical advice to ensure everything goes smoothly, and above all, that you enjoy yourself.

What you need to know about lubrication

Vaginal lubrication

Lubrication (in the broadest sense of the term) is a natural mechanism of protection and comfort triggered, among other things, by sexual arousal .

In women, it manifests itself mainly in the vagina, in the form of clear, odorless and slightly viscous secretions.

These secretions are produced by various organs : the Bartholin's glands, the paraurethral glands (or Skene's glands), and the vaginal wall itself, which allows a small amount of blood plasma to pass through when the tissues are engorged with blood. It is therefore sometimes called vaginal secretions, vaginal transudate, vaginal lubrication, or simply "wetness" in everyday language.

What is the purpose of vaginal lubrication?

As we mentioned earlier, lubrication is a “natural mechanism of protection and comfort” . This definition gives us some clues about its usefulness.

So it's the body's reaction to sexual arousal, aimed at making any potential sexual encounter safe and comfortable. Pretty clever, isn't the body?

Thus, lubrication serves to reduce friction , protect mucous membranes, and facilitate penetration (if it occurs). But it also amplifies sensations, because good lubrication makes each contact softer, more enveloping, more sensual . In short, it protects, facilitates, and enhances.

Is lubrication an indicator of excitation?

The problem? This lubrication isn't systematic , constant, or even sufficient, depending on the time and the woman. It depends on many factors: hormonal cycle, stress, age, contraception, fatigue, hydration, ongoing treatment…

Moreover, we take this opportunity to debunk one of the most persistent myths: lubrication is not proportional to arousal!

It is important to understand and integrate this in order to be comfortable during intimacy, regardless of one's level of natural lubrication.

Don't hesitate to talk to your partner about it too, especially if you tend to go through periods where you lubricate less, to make sure that their understanding of the mechanism is not wrong and that there are no false beliefs around it.

Being in a relationship, or sharing intimate moments, is also an opportunity to educate the other person, to communicate and to give them a better understanding of your body and your natural mechanisms.

Does anal lubrication exist?

Unlike the vagina, the rectum (or anus) does not have lubricating glands and therefore simply does not produce natural lubrication.
Zero mechanism, zero secretion, and therefore zero protection!

The anal mucosa is therefore thinner, more fragile , and more vulnerable to micro-fissures, irritation, and thus discomfort. As a result, without external lubrication, anal penetration can be difficult, painful, or even risky.

That is why, as soon as we discuss anal lubrication , we necessarily talk about an external supply of lubrication, that is to say a lubricating gel and not a natural bodily fluid (natural lube).

As you've probably gathered, when it comes to anal sex, nothing happens without voluntary action: you need to add lubricant , like a treatment, like a basic gesture, like a first step to respect in order to ensure safety and enjoyment.

Whether we're talking about penetration with a finger, a sex toy , a penis, or even just exploratory play, the rule is the same: lubricant galore!

Now that that's out of the way, let's talk about the type of lubricant. Because no, not all lubricants are of good quality or suitable for anal sex (texture, compatibility, etc.).

Without lubrication, friction can cause pain, micro-tears, irritation of the anal mucosa, or even a total loss of comfort. (WHO, Sexual Health ).
So this is far from being a simple detail!

A good anal lubricant therefore allows you to:

• to promote smooth gliding,

• to avoid pain or bleeding,

• to respect the mucous membranes,

• to boost pleasure and relaxation,

• to experience the relationship more serenely,

The different types of lubricants

As you have understood, here we are talking about this small product to be added manually, specially designed to make intercourse solo, in pairs, with or without accessories, more comfortable and secure.

And the lubricants market is no exception to the others: there are hundreds of thousands of different products for an offer that is as disparate as it is varied.
And since they are not all created equal, we help you choose!

" Using a good lubricant can reduce pain and improve the overall experience of anal sex. " Journal of Sexual Medicine

Water-based lubricant or intimate gel

• Compatible with condoms, sex toys and plugs

• Suitable for sensitive mucous membranes, prone to irritation and allergic tendencies

• Easy to clean (no stains on the sheets)

• Light, soft, non-sticky texture

• May dry quickly → reapply several times during intercourse
  
  

Our water-based anal gel respects even the most sensitive mucous membranes and is a perfect made-in-France option for intercourse (besides anal).

" Water-based lubrication remains the most suitable for regular use. It respects the pH of mucous membranes and limits the risk of reaction. " Ameli.fr

Silicone-based intimate lubricant or gel

• Very long-lasting, does not dry out

• Ultra-smooth texture, extreme comfort effect

• Recommended for long or anal sex.

• Incompatible with some silicone sex toys

• More difficult to clean, can stain bed linens

Oil-based intimate lubricant or gel

• Rich, creamy, sometimes nourishing texture

• Pleasant sensation

• Incompatible with condoms (risk of breakage)

• Not recommended for use during intercourse involving deep penetration

• May cause imbalances in the microbiota or infections

Oil is therefore a preferred option for massages and external use, but not for anal or vaginal use.

Absolutely avoid using it in an anal lubricant

If an anal lubricant contains one or more of these elements, run away!

• Perfume (irritating)

• Glycerin or parabens (microbiota disruptors)

• Menthol or hot/cold effect (risk of burns)

• Essential oils (not intended for use on the anal mucosa)

" A good lubricant respects the mucous membranes and contains neither allergens nor abrasive substances. Lubrication is a matter of health, not performance. " Dr. Odile Bagot , gynecologist

Myth vs. Reality about Anal Lubrication

How to use your anal lubricant correctly?

Apply generously : around the anus and directly onto the sex toy or condom.

Don't hesitate to reapply during intercourse, especially if you notice a decrease in glide or comfort. Lubricant, especially for anal sex, should be used liberally!

Opt for a relaxing atmosphere: the more relaxed you are, the more the anus will relax.

And above all: take your time

What to do if you experience discomfort despite using anal lubricant?

Even with good lubrication, discomfort may occur if:

• The penetration is too rapid.

• The lubricant is poorly chosen.

• You are not relaxed,

• There is a small crack or hypersensitivity.

In this case, we stop, take a breath, and change our approach . And if it happens often: we consult a healthcare professional.

As you will have understood, anal lubrication is not optional.
This is not a minor detail.
It's not an accessory.
That's the basic principle.

Good anal lubrication is the promise:

• of a more fluid relationship,

• of amplified pleasure,

• of a respected intimate area.

At Puissante, we believe that pleasure and safety should be an integral part of every intimate moment. And that starts with the right information and the right products.
Have a good ski!