Demystifying myths about female masturbation

One of the only certainties we have about female sexuality is that it is shrouded in a thick veil of taboos. From a very young age, we are taught that masturbation is an activity reserved for men, that it is dirty, and that it lowers our libido.

As a result, many women feel ashamed and embarrassed about their own sexuality. For this article, we've made it our mission to dismantle the stereotypes surrounding solo pleasure . Because taking time for yourself should be synonymous with self-love, not shame!

Myth #1: Pleasure alone is a practice reserved for single people

Somewhere in the recesses of our minds, there's an unspoken rule that masturbation is reserved for single people. It serves to compensate for the lack of sexual relations with a partner. Like a small piece of buttered bread while waiting for mealtime.

Our culture has inherited a Judeo-Christian legacy that still considers sexual relations within a couple as exclusive . It is this tradition that established this rule.

Sex is sacred. Yes, but sex is also an intimate relationship with oneself .

A moment alone has nothing to do with a relationship with others. While the former is about exploring one's own pleasure and discovering oneself, the latter is synonymous with sharing and giving.

Masturbating when you're in a relationship is just as great as when you're single. Making love to yourself and others aren't mutually exclusive activities. Pretty good news, right?

Myth #2: Masturbating too much makes your libido disappear

Have you ever heard from relatives or pseudo-sex articles that too much masturbation reduces libido and prevents couples from flourishing sexually?

However, no scientific evidence is presented to support this claim. Research suggests instead that frequent self-pleasure can actually improve sexual function in women .

It would even seem that women who masturbate regularly are more likely to be more satisfied with their sex lives than those who do not indulge in masturbation .

We're abandoning the idea of ​​a couple as two identities merging to form a monolith. Each person is an independent individual with their own personality, desires, and privacy.

The fulfillment of one brings happiness to the other in all areas of daily life, and therefore also in sexual life.

Myth #3: Masturbating during your period is dirty

Since we were little, we've been told that masturbation is a dirty practice. We have this idea that good girls don't do it and that it's something reserved for twisted bad girls.

Whether we're convinced of it or not, we end up censoring ourselves on the subject. No one dares to talk about female masturbation , let alone ask questions . We're afraid of seeming too unusual or of not being accepted by our group of friends.

Yes, finding one's place and being integrated is often the priority of our teenage years more than being vulnerable.

Women are taught from a very young age to be ashamed of their sexuality, and this internalized shame can lead to problems with sex education and self-esteem .

However, we're missing the crucial point: masturbation is perfectly natural and healthy , and there's nothing dirty about it, even during menstruation . It's called self-care, baby!

In fact, it's an excellent way to get to know your own body and discover what you like and don't like. Our technique, preferences, and fantasies belong to us. They are a form of self-expression and even a form of creativity! No one is in a position to judge them. Not our classmates, colleagues, family, or the society we live in. 

Myth #4: You can become addicted to vibrators

For some, the idea of ​​becoming dependent on sex toys and vibrators is a real concern.

After all, if we can become addicted to things that give us an instant rush of pleasure like gambling, caffeine, and social media, why not sex toys?

Let's debunk this myth right now: there is no such thing as sex toy addiction . Some compulsive masturbation behaviors can be described as masturbation addiction, but these are exceptional cases that have nothing to do with whether or not a vibrator is used.

Using an adult toy is simply another way to masturbate . A vibrator offers variety through its modes and intensity through its power. The regularity of the vibrations or clitoral suction allows for pleasure without fatigue and orgasm thanks to the consistent rhythm .

Some women prefer to alternate between using their fingers or the showerhead, while others swear by their Coco . This doesn't mean our technological marvel makes them dependent. It's simply a matter of personal preference .

So go ahead and masturbate without guilt . You're doing your body, mind, and soul a world of good. And if you need a little more inspiration, we highly recommend this article on the benefits of masturbation for women. Trust us, once you know how good it is for you, you won't be able to resist the urge to take matters into your own hands.