Take time for yourself: 21 ideas for solo dates

As women, we have often been conditioned to put the needs of others before our own, sometimes at the expense of our own well-being. Yet, taking time for ourselves , even just a few hours a week, is essential to strengthening our self-love and enjoying life's pleasures .

But how? We haven't learned to prioritize our well-being, let alone plan time just for ourselves. Don't panic, here are some suggestions for solo dates to enjoy all year round !

The benefits of solo dates

Between personal to-do lists, work, family, and other commitments, our days and weeks are often completely full. We sometimes find ourselves dreaming of a cottage in the English countryside, a chalet without internet nestled on a mountainside, or a humble beach hut on a pristine beach.

Taking time for yourself is like opening an enchanted parenthesis in a very active life. Pressing the pause button may seem selfish at first, perhaps even impossible, but in reality, it is a necessity for our well-being.

Taking time to rest or explore an activity that excites us is far from a waste of time. These moments spent dancing, cooking, or visiting a museum are the secret to recharging our batteries . Resting doesn't always mean sleeping.

Getting a change of scenery, embracing boredom, and giving free rein to your creativity are all practices that will bring rest to our constantly strained minds. So, instead of feeling guilty, consider solo dates an investment in your mental health and long-term well-being.

Finally, taking time for yourself is much more than a luxury; it's a direct path to greater self-love . By allowing yourself to reconnect with your needs and desires, you'll find the strength and confidence to follow your own path. A few hours a week can do wonders for self-confidence and independence .

How to take time for yourself?

Okay, so you're convinced of the importance of solo dates. But how do you manage when your schedule barely leaves room for one-on-one time with your partner? The answer lies in one word: planning .

First, choose an activity that appeals to you, but also takes you a little out of your comfort zone. How about replacing that series you've already watched three times with a film that interests you? Trying a new recipe instead of the usual Wednesday night couscous? The idea is to immerse yourself in something that makes you feel good and takes you away from your daily routine .

Next, block out that date on your calendar and treat it like a date with your best friend. Make sure you stick to it and give it your all in this experience.

Finally, make this time with yourself a special occasion . Take the time to prepare yourself carefully, choose clothes in which you feel powerful, and treat yourself with all the love and attention you deserve.

By investing in these precious moments alone, you strengthen your relationship with yourself and open the door to a world of possibilities for cultivating self-love. To give you some inspiration, we offer solo date ideas with themes inspired by our Oracle .

21 solo date ideas

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Learning a new discipline

Whether it's learning Italian, the oboe, or the Japanese tea ceremony, dedicate time to acquiring new skills in a field that has always fascinated you. Without pursuing performance goals or a return on investment, you can enjoy the challenge and progress at your own pace.

Each step in this learning adventure will bring you closer to mastery, allowing you to flourish and discover new facets of yourself.

Book a private dance lesson

Sign up for a solo dance class where you can explore your body expression without any inhibitions. This will allow you to connect with your body and experience the joy of moving freely.

Sign up for a kickboxing session

Try a kickboxing class to release stress and boost your confidence. You'll feel powerful and capable after channeling your energy into dynamic movements.

Discovery

Visiting a museum or art gallery

Explore a museum or art gallery you've never visited before. Take your time to appreciate the artwork. You don't have to stop in front of every piece and read the entire guidebook; quite the opposite. Let yourself be guided by what catches your eye and stirs your emotions.

Going on a trip to an unfamiliar neighborhood

Take a map of your city and explore a neighborhood you're unfamiliar with. Discover new cafes, shops, and urban landscapes to broaden your horizons. If you live in the countryside, try new routes around your home by walking from your house.

Sign up for an exotic cooking workshop

Sign up for a cooking workshop to learn how to prepare dishes from a different culture. Discovering new flavors and culinary techniques can be an enriching and rewarding experience.

Balance

Practicing yoga outdoors

Practice yoga in a park or on the beach to reconnect with your body , your breath, and the nature around you. Yoga can help you find balance between strength and flexibility, both physically and mentally.

Attend guided meditation sessions

Give yourself time to meditate and focus on your inner self. Look for guided meditations online or use an app to guide you through a session. Simply try a few minutes of visualization or a breathing exercise and then observe how you feel.

Plan a relaxing day

Treat yourself to a relaxing spa day to nurture your body and mind . Enjoy massages, thermal baths, and other soothing treatments to restore balance and revitalize your energy. No spa nearby? No problem, transform your bathroom into a treatment room. Scrubs, masks, dry brushing, self-massage— pamper yourself ! 

Intuition

Try journaling

Take some time to write in a journal and explore your thoughts , emotions, and deepest aspirations. The act of writing can help you connect with your intuition and clarify your personal goals.

Plan a walk in the great outdoors

Take a walk in nature and let your senses be filled with the beauty that surrounds you. Observe your surroundings, listen to the sounds of nature, and follow the paths that beckon you. Keep a GPS handy, though; it would be a shame to get lost on a solo date.

Draw cards

Whether you're open to spirituality or simply curious about new self-discovery practices, you can try reading the cards. With a tarot deck or oracle deck , playfully decipher the symbolism of the cards and decode the messages of your subconscious.

Planning

Conduct a brainstorming session

Allocate time to brainstorm ideas and goals for your future life. Use a notebook or whiteboard to write down your thoughts and plans, focusing on what you want to achieve and how to achieve it.

Create a vision board

Gather images, words, and phrases that represent your aspirations and dreams, then create an inspirational collage . It's a great tool for keeping in mind what you're passionate about and the life you want to build.

Planning a solo getaway

Take the time to plan a solo getaway to a place you've always wanted to visit. Whether it's a short trip to the South of France or a big adventure in New York, no matter how ambitious your plan is! Organize your itinerary, book your accommodations, and plan activities that will inspire and nourish you.

Pleasure

Plan a nostalgia session

No matter what decade you were born in, a little trip down memory lane is always a treat. Rediscover the cult films of your childhood, create a playlist of the hits from your best nights out . Immerse yourself in that feeling of a carefree and playful era.

To indulge in a reading marathon

Choose a stack of books you've always wanted to read and spend a day devouring your favorite novels. Lose yourself in imaginary worlds and let yourself be swept away by the excitement of reading.

Masturbating in peace

Take advantage of this solitary moment to treat yourself to a truly pleasurable experience . Create a relaxing atmosphere with soft lighting and perhaps a playlist that excites you. Choose your favorite toy and let your imagination run wild. You can also select an erotic video or audio to enhance your pleasure.

Rest

Treat yourself to a cozy day at home

Treat yourself to a whole day of relaxation and self-care at home. Take a relaxing bath, listen to soothing music, read a good book, and enjoy delicious meals prepared with love. Or, stay in your pajamas and laze around all day—it's entirely up to you!

Organize an outdoor picnic

Prepare a delicious picnic basket with your favorite foods, cheese, fruit, fresh bread, and a bottle of wine or juice. Find a quiet spot in a park, sit down, and enjoy your meal outdoors. Don't forget to bring a good book or podcast for a relaxing nap afterward.

Plan a free creativity session

Take a moment to express your creativity through a free artistic activity. Whether you enjoy drawing, painting, creating music, writing, or making something with your hands, dedicate time to this activity without constraints or pressure. Don't be afraid to be spontaneous and intuitive. This time just for you will allow you to relax and escape.

Transformation

Creating self-portraits

Self-portraiture is a great exercise for reclaiming your image and fully expressing your personality. Dive into your wardrobe and create some unexpected looks.

Have fun creating a glamorous or artistic makeup look, or even going makeup-free altogether. Find a location with good lighting, then enjoy taking a selfie . You can look for references and inspiration on Instagram or Pinterest beforehand. You'll easily find makeup tutorials on YouTube.

The goal is not to create a fashion shoot, but to rediscover one's inner child by staging oneself.

Book a personal coaching session

Engage in a personal coaching session to explore your goals, challenges, and opportunities for growth. Work with a coach to identify the areas of your life you want to transform and develop an action plan to achieve your objectives.

Participating in a wellness retreat

Join a wellness retreat focused on personal transformation , with workshops, meditation sessions, personal development exercises and other activities designed to help you flourish and evolve into your best self.

We hope these suggestions have inspired you to take some time for yourself. There are no rules for solo time; you don't have to engage in activities traditionally associated with well-being. No one is here to judge you, so enjoy these moments of solitude and pamper yourself. And to keep things going, we're offering four self-care resolutions to adopt throughout the year.