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Having fun is not always as easy as we think. Even less give yourself pleasure by practicing masturbation with objects . For women, especially those who have never masturbated with an object, the first gesture can be awkward. The objective is to explore and experience the pleasures of your body in a concrete way; you must know how to use a sex toy such as a vibrator to achieve this.

Exciting gestures on the clitoris, in the shower with jets of water or with your fingers, the main thing is that you listen to the reactions of your body. This guide gives you all the tips and tricks to really get off on it if you're using a sex toy for the first time. Focus!

  1. What positions to take during masturbation
  2. How to use an object to masturbate?
  3. What homemade objects should you masturbate with? Our ideas and advice
  4. Which sex toys to buy?
  5. How to choose your sex toy?

What positions should you take during masturbation?

For most women , masturbation simply consists of lying on their back , using a sex toy or their fingers . However, like sexual intercourse with a partner, masturbation can be done in many positions . Here are some examples:

Lying in a bathtub or squatting in the shower

In your bathtub , run some water and immerse yourself in it. First, after lying down, place your fingers on your clitoris . Go slowly and much more surely. All you have to do is increase the rhythm of your movements as you feel pleasure. To make it easier to reach your erogenous zone, don't hesitate to raise one leg on the edge of the bathtub! 🛀

Better yet, if you prefer to do it in shower mode, use the shower head . Squat down then position the knob on your penis and especially as close as possible to your clitoris. At this point, let the water jet do its work. Vary the movements on your clitoris and the level of pleasure using your fingers. You can also play with the water temperature (be careful not to burn yourself!)

Masturbate standing up

Standing masturbation is a possibility, especially with a suitable sex toy . It all starts with intimate caresses . Touch yourself as much as possible, with caresses ( breasts , upper and inner thighs, lower abdomen, etc.) As soon as you feel pleasant sensations, you can caress your entire vulva , see penetrate you if the desire takes you.

This is the perfect time for your sex toy (vibrator) to come into action. Walk it around and tickle the clitoris . Listen to your desires; you can stay there or decide to stimulate yourself through penetration. In this position you can feel something more than what you can feel while lying down.

According to sexologists Masters & Johnson, an orgasm releases tension. To make it more intense, the “almost there” phase should be extended.

To do this: get closer to the pleasure, but release the pressure by touching less erogenous zones, repeating the action for as long as possible. Expect: an explosion of pleasure!

Lying under the duvet

To do this in this scenario, lie on your stomach . Place your pillow under your pelvis. You don't need any other items here. Move back and forth slowly before increasing the pace as soon as the level of excitement increases. Nothing better to start your day off right! This is what we call “humping”, a practice often used by women.

On your back, legs spread on the couch or couch

Once on your back, fold your legs, lift them and spread them wide apart. Start with caresses. Go at your own pace so you feel the excitement. Breasts, thighs, lips, lower abdomen, don't deprive yourself of any touching of your erogenous zones if you feel the urge. Then, give your clitoris the most beautiful sensations by using a vibrator .

If you don't have a sofa, the sofa can also do the trick. On a sofa, sit comfortably on your knees. Stroke your clitoris. If you decide to let your fingers penetrate you tenderly, remember to lean your body forward. This is a great way to stimulate your G-spot .


To give yourself pleasure while sitting , opt for a fairly sturdy chair . But avoid wooden ones. All you have to do is sit tight. Spread your legs, move back and forth from left to right, bottom to top.

How to use an object to masturbate: case of the vibrator

Sex being a less and less taboo subject, today we can talk about sex toys without really feeling uncomfortable. If the use of objects during sexual intercourse or masturbation is likely to maximize the pleasure felt, it should be emphasized that one must learn to use them.

The first thing you need to think about when deciding to use an object(s) to masturbate is the different ways you can use it on your body.

Explore first

Test several ways of proceeding, several rhythms to discover what gives you the most pleasure . It is only through testing that you will succeed in refining your technique and gaining more confidence in yourself.

With a vibrator, special attention is required to enjoy it. This is due to the fact that it is a manual tool. Not all bodies are the same.

So, depending on your body's constitution, certain actions can cause irritation rather than pleasure. This is the case for example when the speed is too high. In these cases, reduce the speed and move to another part of the body.

Try other body parts

A popular practice is for the vibrator to be applied directly to the clitoris . But this is not necessarily the case. Your sex toy may well provide you with the pleasure you seek in other parts of your anatomy. The neck, for example, is very sensitive to touch.

Touch the clitoris indirectly

It is not recommended to stimulate your clitoris at first. Try to reach it indirectly by putting the vibrator above or to the side. You will get similar sensations. So you basically understand that it is first a question of discovering yourself. So take your time.

Combine sex toys and fantasy

Aside from the vibrator and any other object you can masturbate with, there are fantasies . Give free rein to your fantasies, your sensual ideas . When the excitement rises, only then will the machine be able to come into action.

What homemade objects should you masturbate with?

If you don't have one of the cool gadgets, you can also improvise using homemade items . Because in fact, female masturbation techniques offer numerous possibilities to women who wish to give themselves solo pleasure . You can do this with:

  • A soft chair
  • A pillow
  • An object that vibrates
  • The shower head

A soft chair

A cozy chair can quickly turn you upside down if you know how to do it. Stand in front of the seat of the chair then spread your legs. Make your clitoris touch the back of the chair. All you have to do is start moving back and forth. Don't forget to lay out a towel on the chair before you begin.

A pillow

Astride a pillow, move back and forth. Your clitoris will be stimulated and you will feel wonderful sensations.

You can also create a "pillow mountain", sit on it, and begin circular movements, or back and forth. This will gradually increase your excitement and pamper your clitoris for your greatest pleasure!

The shower head

Nothing like a jet of warm water to stimulate your clitoris . During your bath, let the water run then place the diaper knob under your vulva. Feel free to increase the water pressure depending on how aroused you are. If you are a couple, ask your partner to help you handle the knob.

The electric toothbrush

And yes ! Although it may seem unusual,

the toothbrush (or rather its vibrating handle) can be a source of pleasure. It can be used during your intimate moments, by vibration on the clitoris, or by penetration.

For this practice you can wrap your toothbrush in a clean cotton cloth, or put a condom on it and add lubricant, it's your choice!

Which sex toys to buy?

They are numerous, of several sizes and for all tastes. Here is a small list of those that you will not regret buying.

The magic wand

If you are one of those women who has difficulty feeling excitement in the vulva, this sex toy is for you. In fact, it is huge enough to cause intense sensations. Previously we used it for physiotherapy training.

Suction stimulators

It is a sex toy that works according to the principle of micro-suction . It is so effective that it is now called the orgasm machine.

You will have understood by now, the sex toy is not limited only to the vibrator. The clitoris sucker has the particularity of causing excitement through aspirations and vibrations on the clitoris. To use it, you won't have much trouble!

It's a rechargeable sex toy via a USB cable that promises you 4 hours of autonomy. Plus, cleaning is pretty easy. And this is because of its suction capacity.

At Puissante Coco, we have designed which allows suction with ten different modes; seven are for intensity, and the next three are for random modes! In addition to stimulation dedicated to sucking the clitoris and labia, you can choose or not penetration thanks to Coco's vibrating head. Foldable, it adapts to almost all body shapes and thus allows double stimulation if you wish!

How to choose a vibrating sex toy?

To choose your sex toy you must take into account a certain number of criteria:

  • vibration;
  • ergonomics;
  • mode of use;
  • the equipment used for manufacturing;
  • the waterproof side;
  • autonomy;
  • the price;
  • the opinions.

You need to analyze all these aspects to ensure that you buy the right equipment to give you pleasure.

What are the different models of vibrator that exist?

Several formats of vibrators exist for the pleasure of both women and men. These are vibrators:

  • Classic external clitoral stimulators : Equipped with a small motor, these vibrators are perfect for discovering yourself.
  • Internal stimulators : In a more elongated shape, these vibrators are used to penetrate and stimulate the vaginal walls. They are usually vibrating with different variations and can also allow you to stimulate the G zone.
  • Doubles called “Rabbits” : The rabbit allows both external and internal stimulation.
  • Anally oriented : if you like anal penetration, certain sex toys are made for this type of use. They work for both women and men.

Your choice will be conditioned by your sexual practices, your desires and your needs in this area.

In short, remember that female masturbation offers a host of possibilities. If you have never tried with an object, you now have a large number of examples and situations in which you can explore your sexuality, your sensitivities.

The body is a labyrinth that you will enjoy discovering by practicing masturbation with an object. Remember that the most important thing is to know your body and identify the practice that makes you most comfortable.

The use of sex toys does not exclude your partner. Don’t hesitate to use it in your relationship if you feel like it. So it’s up to you to act now.


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