How to finger well? Practical guide for an intimate and safe exploration

It's time to talk about a somewhat taboo but very important subject: self-exploration and, more specifically, how to use your fingers to make yourself feel good.

Knowing your body is essential for a fulfilling sex life, and there's nothing wrong with exploring what you like and what feels good. So, ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery ? Here's a guide with various techniques to help you every step of the way. 

A few prerequisites before we explore you

Hygiene measures for safe masturbation

First, remember to wash your hands thoroughly and keep your nails short to prevent injury or infection. You can even use hand sanitizer if you wish. Remember, safety first!

By taking the time to maintain proper hygiene , you create a healthy and respectful environment for your body. Once everything is clean , you can do anything.

Carefully clean your vulva with lukewarm water to remove impurities and potentially harmful bacteria. There's no need to douche: you risk damaging your vaginal flora. A quick rinse with clean water is perfectly sufficient.

Create a comfortable and sensual atmosphere

Choose a quiet, private place to relax, such as your bedroom or bathroom. Set aside some time for yourself and make yourself comfortable. Light some scented candles, put on some soft, relaxing music , and remember to breathe deeply to fully unwind.

Take the time to prepare your own space, a place where you feel comfortable, relaxed, and safe. This is the starting point for freeing your senses and letting go completely. In this masturbation session , all that matters is you and your pleasure.

II. Do you know your anatomy?

Explore your body without shame.

Before we begin, pay attention to your private parts and all the fantastic organs that comprise them. Okay, let's go back to school for a few minutes:

• The vulva makes up the external part of your genitals.

• The clitoris and the entrance to the vagina are located inside (yes, most of the clitoris is hidden).

• The G-spot is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina and which you are encouraged to stimulate during your solo moments.

Masturbation is an act of sexual self-exploration that allows you to better understand your female anatomy , your erogenous zones, your preferences and the gestures that really make you feel good.

If you've never taken the time to truly explore this area , it's not too late to start. You can even use a mirror for an unobstructed view of your intimate parts. It might sound intimidating, but it's the starting point for better understanding your pleasure. You can then pleasure yourself with your fingers , a vibrator, and guide your partner during those passionate moments. 

Digital masturbation: listen to your body

Remember that every woman is different , and what works for some won't necessarily work for you. So, listen to your body and discover what feels good . Trust your intuition and don't hesitate to experiment with different techniques.

Ultimately, knowing your body means taking real control of your health, your sexuality, and your self-esteem. You are now in charge of your pleasure, and that's priceless. 

III. Techniques for pleasuring yourself with your fingers

How to stimulate your vulva with your fingers?

Begin by gently caressing your labia and clitoris with one or more fingers. You can use a suitable lubricant. To make gliding easier and increase enjoyment, use circular motions, up and down or left and right, whichever you prefer. Take the time to warm up properly and appreciate each sensation by trying different techniques.

Gently explore the interior of your intimacy

Once you feel ready, gently insert a finger into your vagina . You can bend the finger slightly upwards to stimulate the G-spot , located about 5 cm inside the vagina, on the upper wall.

Vary the pressure, rhythm, and movements to discover what gives you the most pleasure . Feel free to add a second finger if you feel comfortable and want to increase the intensity.

Masturbation: Varying techniques and positions

Don't limit yourself to just one masturbation technique or position . Try different combinations to find what works best for you. For example, you can lie on your back, sit, stand, or kneel.

You can also stimulate other erogenous zones , such as your breasts or anus, to intensify sensations. Be creative and have fun!

Use a lubricant

Lubricant is essential for increased comfort , especially if you're trying digital masturbation for the first time. We recommend always having some on hand, so you can explore safely with your fingers or a vibrator.

Choose a lubricant that suits your preferences and your body, avoiding lubricants containing potentially irritating ingredients.

Choose a water-based intimate gel with naturally derived ingredients. This will help you maximize pleasure while respecting your anatomy.

How to take care of yourself after masturbation?

After exploring your body with your fingers, it's important to maintain good hygiene. Wash your hands and intimate area thoroughly with warm water. And if you'd like more, go for another round!

Masturbating with your fingers: how to talk to your partner about it?

Express your desires and your limits

If you have a partner, don't hesitate to share your discoveries and preferences when they touch you. We often say it at Puissante: communication is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Establish boundaries and signals for a safe and enjoyable experience for both of you.

Everyone has personal boundaries when it comes to sexuality , and it's essential to respect them. By clearly communicating your boundaries, you establish limits that help you feel safe. You absolutely can say "no" to acts or situations that don't feel right for you. Consent is paramount, mutual, and can be revoked at any time.

Do you know how to make yourself orgasm? Tell him!

Share your discoveries with your partner and explore new ways to give each other pleasure. Self-exploration is an excellent foundation for enriching your sex life as a couple and strengthening your bond. Keep exploring and learning together!

Female masturbation, and what if you tried a vibrator?

Once you've reached orgasm with your fingers , do you want to take it to the next level?

And yes! To give yourself pleasure, you can also use vibrators , whether it's to explore your sexuality alone or to share moments of intimacy with a partner , vibrators offer a wide range of possibilities to satisfy your deepest desires.

Whether you're looking for a gentle caress or more intense stimulation, there's a vibrator to suit every need:

• Suction function : the mini coco offers you maximum pleasure and pampers your clitoris, with an intensity that pleases.

• Vibration function : The spinning top is designed to gradually increase excitement , emphasizing sensation rather than performance.

• Both at the same time : The Coco , a vibrator with two buttons, one to activate the vibration function and the other to activate the suction function. It's designed to adapt to your preferences. The more acrobatic among you can bend it in all directions for exotic masturbation sessions.

Giving yourself pleasure with your fingers is a personal experience unique to each woman. By exploring different techniques and listening to your body, you'll discover what brings you the most pleasure. Remember to take care of yourself , communicate with your partner, and ask for help if needed. Self-exploration is a wonderful and fulfilling journey, so enjoy it to the fullest!