Stick to good resolutions without pressure

Every January, it's the same old story. Ads for gyms, online courses, and diets flood our screens. Time to change your life and make some New Year's resolutions. What? You didn't keep last year's? The calendar gives you a chance to redeem yourself!

Can we let you in on a secret? At Puissante, we're not big fans of New Year's resolutions . We have nothing against change, but the concept of resolutions often comes with enormous pressure. Losing weight, exercising , meditating every day: beneath the promises of a better life lie restrictions and a real threat to self-esteem.

To start the year under the sign of self-love, here is our guide to approaching New Year's resolutions with kindness and love.

To be more fulfilled or… to become someone else?

The double standard imposed on women whispers in our ear that we are not enough. We should change our bodies to conform to trends while remaining natural. We should have personality without making too many waves. We should be sexually fulfilled while remaining chaste.

From a young age, we are encouraged to become something else.

What if we tried to aim for our preferred version of ourselves rather than adhering to the dictates of the "best version of ourselves"?

A version that puts the power of decision back in our hands. Guided by pleasure and enthusiasm, we make choices that shake up the beauty, fitness, and clothing industries.

At Puissante, we firmly believe that when we learn to know ourselves , we end up loving ourselves unconditionally. Change then happens smoothly. New habits seem natural. We no longer need to deprive ourselves or force ourselves to adopt them.

How to keep realistic resolutions

If you still want to take advantage of the general energy of the new year, here are some practical tips for healthy and realistic resolutions . 

1. Start with the desired identity

Let's go back to your idealized version of yourself. Who is she? What does her daily life look like? What does she do in her free time? Create a mood board for this person and take the time to feel her emotions. Then make sure that her desires are truly your own. If they seem a bit cliché or don't give you butterflies, leave them out.

2. Clearly define your objective

"Mastering my finances" and "having confidence in myself" are not goals, but desirable states of mind. Your judgment of your success will easily be skewed by your mood that day.

Be precise in formulating your resolution. To do this, have a quantifiable, measurable, and time-bound intention.

For example, ask yourself what activities or habits would help you to manage your finances . Creating a simple budget to use, setting aside money monthly, and reading a chapter of a financial education book every day are specific goals.

3. Remove the obstacles

You've set a simple and measurable goal; now it's time to make it achievable. Think about how to easily implement your resolution for those days when you don't feel like it or don't have the time. If you want to walk once or twice a week, plan your outfit the night before and have a selection of routes handy.

Also, opt for a reward system that will show your brain that this new habit is beneficial. For example, treat yourself to a spa treatment or a massage when you reach a milestone.

These tips apply all year round. The best time to make New Year's resolutions is when you're feeling in sync. So screw January 1st!

You can introduce new habits on May 7th just as easily as on September 29th. You also have the right to change your mind, go back, and even start over.

The greatest transformations happen in silence. Alongside your metamorphosis, consider reflecting on your journey. This article shows you step by step how to create a positive summary of your year.

Some ideas for good resolutions under the banner of self-love

Exploring one's pleasure

Pleasure is a wonderful way to give ourselves love. Taking the time to discover what makes our senses vibrate is the key to bringing joy and wonder back into our lives.

This quest for what transports you can begin in the privacy of your bedroom. Tucked between your sheets, treat yourself to a moment of pleasure with your fingers or a vibrator .

Take the time to caress your body and build up the excitement. Observe your sensations and reactions to define what pleases you. The more you know your pleasure, the more you will be able to amplify it with each exploration.

Pleasure is not only sexual. It can sometimes be found in a slice of cake, in a moment suspended barefoot in the garden, or in an impromptu dance full of sensuality .

Let yourself be carried away by this vital impulse that makes you feel fully alive!

Tracking your menstrual cycle

Does meditation scare you and do intuition exercises seem too abstract to reconnect with your body? Try to understand how your cycle works .

Taking daily notes on your emotional state and thoughts, and linking them to the stages of your menstrual cycle, is like developing a real superpower. Goodbye to the pressure to always be on top of things ; it's time to listen to yourself.

After a few weeks, you will be able to make choices and plan your week in accordance with the messages your body sends you.

If you wish to take your first steps in this extraordinary adventure, we highly recommend that you read our complete guide. 

Every new year is an opportunity to bring a little more good vibes into your daily life. New Year's resolutions shouldn't be a source of anxiety and frustration . They shouldn't even be an obligation! We hope this article has helped you approach the new year differently. As for us, no resolutions for this year. We'll continue to offer you amazing products and 100% self-love blog posts . 😘