Masturbating in women's homes, why is it taboo?🙅‍♀️

A man who masturbates is “logical” “normal” “he needs it” “these are impulses”. And why don't we have the same speech for a woman? Why is this not seen as a need, a normal desire? 🧐

“Masturbation among men is more normalized. Whereas among women, it is seen as something dirty and shameful.” –Stéphanie Beaudet, sexologist.

When it comes to female masturbation , we have come a long way. “In the collective imagination, it has always been normal for a man to masturbate out of need, out of impulse, but a woman who touched herself was traditionally considered perverted, hypersexual . She did not have to do good to herself, she had to relieve her husband,” explains Caroline Le Roux-Poirier, sexologist and clinical psychologist.

This is due to the mentalities of the time, in fact, it was very frowned upon to masturbate in the eyes of the Judeo-Christian religion. According to Freud, stimulating one's clitoris as an adult was "childish." Even now, many preconceived ideas circulate, such as that masturbation “makes you deaf”.😵‍💫

However, masturbation begins in childhood, in fact, children begin to discover their body, they learn and discover new sensations. Which implies not being offended, not scolding the child who touches himself, and, above all, explaining to him that no one, neither an adult nor even a boyfriend or girlfriend, has the right to touch his child. body if he/she doesn't want to. It is important to instill consent from a young age. 💬

In France, 54% of us practice masturbation compared to 3/4 among the Dutch (according to the IFOP in 2015).

However, according to studies, masturbation reduces stress, prevents cervical infections, strengthens the pelvic floor, helps you sleep, stimulates the immune system, improves depressive states and is a safe sexual practice. 🤩

In addition to having therapeutic virtues , masturbation helps you get to know your body, it is a meeting with yourself, it allows you to strengthen your self-confidence, discover your personal pleasures and find yourself.

Masturbation is also an ego boost! It is a feeling of independence and control over one's own pleasure, over one's body, over one's desires.

Masturbation gives intense, rapid pleasure, almost without fail. “You can reach orgasm in less than two minutes,” says Françoise, 43 years old. Sometimes I do it just before going to sleep, and it's amazing how good a night I get! »

But masturbation also helps reduce menstrual pain : dopamine , called the pleasure hormone, is released in the body during orgasms and even while you masturbate. This has the effect of providing a feeling of comfort. In other words, orgasm has a relaxing effect. This is what causes the reduction in menstrual pain. At the same time, other mechanisms relating to increased blood circulation help to cool menstrual pain. Read more in our article “Masturbation during periods”

With a ballet of gestures and caresses, we gently reclaim our body. For some, it even takes the form of a ritual to regain one's sensuality and full power.

This self-knowledge at your own pace is also a powerful way to establish a framework for what you love. This is how we establish our own values ​​around masturbation and how we define what pleasure is for oneself and by oneself. This then facilitates communication with his or her partner during sex.

Despite all these benefits, many women still do not dare to take the plunge, for several reasons, such as family culture, religion, shyness, etc.

Couple masturbation 🫂

In a relationship, women no longer dare to masturbate for fear of offending their partner, but masturbation is not a sign of sexual dysfunction in the couple, it can even be practiced as a couple . Masturbation and partnered sex are actually two very different things. They can of course join together, but they generally respond to different needs or desires.

We might also think that single women masturbate more. However, according to an Ifop survey (Female Pleasure, 2017), women in relationships continue to masturbate at almost the same frequency.

However, for a woman to talk about it within her relationship, she must feel reassured. And not be afraid of the reaction of your partner, who would judge this act as the “replacement” of an unsatisfactory sexuality.

All surveys show the difficulties women have in admitting their solitary pleasures. As if this could reflect a form of compulsive sexuality.

According to the IFOP study, nearly 45% of women in a relationship have never spoken to their partner about masturbation. 18-25 year olds seem to have freer speech, they talk about it a little more within their relationship.

As one could imagine, if we assume to resort to masturbation for an investigation, in everyday life, it is not the subject that comes up the most!

However, talking about it to your partner would also allow you to communicate more about your desires during sex, each person's preferences, the things that excite us less: discovering your pleasures alone so you can share them as a couple !

Some simply don't dare to take it on, afraid of judgment, of dishonor...

Léna, 30 years old, designer, had her first orgasmic trigger at 11 years old. She experiences with joy “the little thrill caused by his caresses”.

Very quickly, the pleasure provided is assumed. But twenty years later, she observes that many of her friends think that "it's abnormal to enjoy alone." She is surprised but understands: "We have always been told that a woman is supposed to flourish sexually in a relationship. We still grow up with this idea that she just needs a man to be happy. If she masturbates, she is probably a little frustrated, or downright nymphomaniac"

How to have fun? 💡

French women also use sexual arousal materials : porn sites , erotic books, sex toys, etc. In 2017, 49% of women admitted to having already used a sex toy, which shows the growth of this market.

Sexual representations have evolved, as have the associated products. Since the 2000s, with online sales sites, then the various city center boutiques, supermarkets and even love shops, the choice is great!

There are thousands and hundreds of sex toys. Choosing your first vibrator can be fraught with a lot of doubts and hesitation.

At Puissante, we have created Coco , which will allow you to exercise internal and external stimulation according to your desires and preferences. Equipped with ten modes for each function, it bends as you wish to adapt to your body shape and be penetrative or not. It has been specially designed to be a first sex toy since its different intensities and modes will help you take your time and discover what really pleases you.

Use a vibrator as a couple? 🙈

There are several reasons why you might want to use an object during sex. First of all, they bring something new to your relationship and allow you to discover new sensations together. They can easily integrate into your erotic games by becoming your new partner. In fact, vibrators will stimulate the libido and help you to increase awareness of your erogenous zones.

Coco is specially designed to allow a perfect fit between the two of you. During heterosexual intercourse, you can introduce the vibrating part into the vagina; your partner will also feel the vibrations and enjoy closer stimulation if you practice penetration. On the contrary, the woman can stimulate her clitoris with the suction part and vibrate the object on the glans/frenum of the penis at the same time. In the same way, penetration with the partner remains possible!

This vibrator is perfect for sex between women; one stimulates her clitoris, the other is placed above to penetrate the toy. 💦

Fortunately, things are changing: masturbation is not just a men's business! There is nothing to be ashamed of.

Discover yourself and your pleasures! 🥰

EAT, DRINK, MASTURBATE!

Sources

• https://www.lesinrocks.com/actu/pourquoi-la-masturbation-feminine-est-elle-encore-un-sujet-tabou-45660-05-08-2017/
• https://theconversation.com/happy-news-masturbation-actually-has-health-benefits-16539
• https://www.psychologies.com/Couple/Sexualite/Masturbation/Articles-et-dossiers/Masturbation-feminine-tabou-ou-secret
• https://www.20minutes.fr/podcast/3070147-20210625-masturbation-feminine-toujours-aussi-taboue
• https://www.marieclaire.fr/,la-masturbation-feminine-est-elle-encore-taboue,827518.asp