How to choose your clitoral stimulator?

The clitoral stimulator is one of the vibrators capable of providing intense pleasure through indirect clitoral stimulation . Thanks to its air-pulse technology, it mimics suction… making it your new best friend.

“ 95% of women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation, not penetration alone. ” — The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study on Female Sexuality, Dr. Shere Hite, 1976.

The clitoral stimulator has become an essential part of many women's intimate lives. This new generation of intimate accessory , designed to stimulate the clitoris without direct contact, is now among the most sought-after products for sexual well-being .

Thanks to innovative pulsed air or targeted vibration technology, it allows you to reach orgasm quickly , alone or as a couple.

But how do you choose a good clitoral stimulator?

What are the differences between a vibrator, a clitoral sucker, and a multi-stimulation sex toy?

What criteria should be considered for a truly effective model that is kind to the body and made with safe materials like medical-grade silicone?

In this comprehensive guide, we explain how to use a clitoral stimulator , its benefits, and why this accessory is a real game-changer for exploring your sexuality . We'll talk about the vagina, vulva, lubricant, sensations, and pleasure, without beating around the bush or taboos. Because yes, your intimacy deserves products designed for you, with meaning and gentleness.

How to choose your stimulator for intense pleasure? We'll give you our advice!

Why use a clitoral stimulator?

Because it's the perfect ally for female pleasure , whether alone or with a partner! This type of vibrator offers stimulation without direct contact, which limits excessive friction. It also allows you to target internal and external erogenous zones without resorting to penetration. In short, a perfect option for reaching pleasure quickly.

“ The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve endings, almost twice as many as the penis. It is the most sensitive organ in the human body. ” — Dr. Roy Levin, neurosexologist, University of Sheffield.

According to INSERM, more than 75% of women surveyed stated that clitoral stimulation is their main route to orgasm .

Source: INED/INSERM insight on female sexuality, 2022.

What are the essential features for a clitoral stimulator?

Pressure waves: a real game-changer in the world of intimate toys

In general, a clitoral stimulator works with pressure waves. These use air pressure to create very powerful, stimulating sound pulses .

By bringing these energy waves closer to your erectile organ (clitoris), they cause all the clitoral cells to vibrate , as well as all the nerve endings located in this area.

“ The clitoris is much more than a visible button: it extends over 10 cm internally. Its stimulation is essential for orgasm. ” — Dr. Odile Buisson, gynecologist, The Clitoris, This Dear Unknown (2020).

This feature of the clitoral stimulator is a must to help you discover stimulation, clitoral pleasure, and another way to reach orgasm ; not all intimate toys achieve this feat.

“ A good stimulator should respect the sensitivity of the vulva, while also being able to adapt to the level of arousal. Every woman is different; it needs to be personalized. ” — Dr. Laura Berman, therapist

An indirect clitoral stimulator has a feature that allows it to arouse and produce pleasure without contact. Simply hold the tip of the stimulator near your clitoris, or even just place it on your labia (behind which are some of the nerve endings of the internal part of the clitoris), if you are sensitive in that area…

“ Clitoral suction devices are particularly useful for women suffering from vaginal hypoesthesia or pelvic pain. Their indirect stimulation offers greater comfort. ” — Dr. Stéphanie Del Regno, clinical sexologist (2021).

Indirect clitoral stimulation: why is it revolutionary?

Choosing these clitoral stimulators means opting for maximum arousal. Indeed, the sound impulses act on the entire clitoral structure, not just vaguely on the sensory nerves. This also explains the speed with which these devices (which are among the best stimulators available) can trigger an orgasm.

“ Air-pulsed clitoral stimulation devices elicit a faster orgasmic response in 78% of users tested. ” — Journal of Sexual Medicine, comparative study on sex toys, vol. 15, no. 6, 2019.

One of the essential features of a clitoral stimulator is the "suction mode." Some clitoral suction devices have several modes. And you know why? Because the pleasure provided by suction can be described as premium, and the resulting orgasm, explosive. Just saying…

Materials: what you absolutely must check on your clitoral stimulator

Why pay attention to the materials of your vibrator?

And if you only remember one word: non-porous. Medical-grade silicone is now recommended by the majority of sexual health professionals. It doesn't retain germs or bacteria and remains easy to clean.

Some materials are simply unsuitable for this type of intimate device . And yet, on the vibrator market, you can find products that cause blisters or infections. Rest assured, we're not trying to scare you; we're here to guide you toward the best choices for safe and healthy pleasure without harmful side effects.

“ Medical-grade silicone is the safest material for intimate use . It is hypoallergenic, non-porous, and does not retain germs .” — Prescrire Review, dossier “Intimate Devices”, No. 455, March 2022.

Whether this is your first time trying a vibrator or you're a seasoned sex toy user, prioritizing the quality of the material of your clitoral stimulator is paramount . Remember this once and for all: the best material to choose for any sex toy is medical-grade silicone (even if you're not opting for a premium vibrator).

How can you tell if a substance is dangerous to your health?

However, be careful. We're talking about a specific type of silicone . Indeed, silicone must not be harmful to the body. But how can you tell if a material is? Two factors allow you to determine whether or not a material is harmful to the body:

1. The porous nature of a material indicates its potential to harbor fungi, bacteria, or other types of germs harmful to you. Even microscopic pores provide breeding grounds for pathogenic germs that cannot be eliminated, regardless of the cleaning product used.

2. The chemicals used to process the material are always involved in the development of the materials used to manufacture sex toys . Therefore, you must ensure that the chemicals used are safe for the body.

Phthalates and glycerins: absolutely avoid them on your vibrators

Phthalates are an example of a chemical found in inexpensive stimulators. Avoid them, just as you should avoid vibrators made with glycerin-containing materials .

While glycerin is a component that can cause infections, there's something far worse: the rubber and latex used, as well as PVC plastic, all have varying degrees of porosity. The best vibrators (waterproof or not) don't contain it.

Therefore, choosing a clitoral stimulator made of non-porous silicone is a good option. Silicone can be produced in varying densities. The texture and color can also vary, depending on your preferences. In addition to being safe, silicone is compatible with all types of lubricant .

Choose a model with an ergonomic , medical-grade silicone tip and multiple vibration modes. This will allow you to explore a variety of sensations depending on your anatomy, mood, or level of arousal.

The winning material: medical silicone

We're big fans of medical-grade silicone because it's a material that's gentle on the vaginal and vulvar mucosa. It also contains ABS plastic (on the inside), which provides good durability for your vibrator. The quality of these materials is excellent, and they're hypoallergenic.

Coco, a vibrator and clitoral sucker , allows you to vary between 7 different intensities and three random modes for each part, which can be used together or separately!

Keep in mind that cheap stimulators are often made of highly porous materials and harmful chemicals. Some of these low-quality sex toys can cause blisters or bleeding, even without direct contact.

How much should I spend on a good clitoral stimulator?

Expect to pay between €89 and €139 for a good clitoral stimulator .

The price of a waterproof vibrator or any premium sex toy may deter a buyer.

Does your own pleasure have a price? It can't. So, you'll generally have to choose between a premium stimulator that guarantees safe pleasure and a low-priced sex toy that sometimes delivers disappointing results.

Want pleasure with complete peace of mind? Avoid the low-quality stuff. Treat yourself to a suction stimulator made from safe, phthalate- and BPA-free silicone.

If you opt for a model with multi-pressure mode and dual functionality (suction-vibration), you could spend around €120.

Clitoral or vaginal stimulator: which should you choose?

Good to know: vaginal orgasm doesn't exist without the clitoris . The "G-spot" is actually an internal area of the clitoris. It's therefore an extension of the same organ, and this is also demonstrated by the MRI imaging of Professor Odile Buisson's team.

This is a question that deserves attention. Many beliefs shaped by history lead us to think that "women are predominantly clitoral." That is to say, that women experience pleasure more easily through clitoral stimulation. And indeed! Even orgasms and pleasure caused by internal stimulation originate from the clitoris .

It is therefore a mistake to define and differentiate between "clitoral" and "vaginal" women , since all female orgasms are triggered by the clitoris.

The latter can indeed be stimulated from the vagina , since it is not limited to being a glans; it is an erectile organ that can exceed 10 cm on its internal part!

How to reach the clitoris from the vagina ? The " G-spot " is actually the part of the vagina that allows the clitoris to be stimulated by penetration.

With clitoral stimulation (by fingers or a vibrator like Coco ), you can discover what truly gives you pleasure.

Using your vibrator correctly: our tips

Pro tip for getting the most out of your clitoral stimulator

Always start with a low intensity level, then gradually increase it . The secret is to stay connected to your sensations. When alone, you can also try the " start and stop " technique ( edging ) to maximize the pleasure.

To use your clitoral stimulator correctly , you first need to know how it works . When you've just acquired your pleasure dispenser, it's tempting to dive right in. Be patient! First, carefully read the instruction manual. This will allow you to get to grips with it quickly and correctly.

Use it properly Your vibrator will ensure its longevity. Follow hygiene rules and manufacturer recommendations . Experiment with different modes to find what will make your whole being vibrate.

The best positions to enjoy your clitoral stimulator

And what if you also tried dual-combo stimulation ? With Coco, for example, you can activate clitoral suction while inserting the vibrating part . This allows you to massage the G-spot and stimulate the internal areas of the clitoris simultaneously.

The advantage of a clitoral stimulator is that you don't necessarily need a partner. Here are a few positions to enjoy using your vibrator :

• Sitting in your chair with one leg on the table opposite you, grab your sex toy and have fun. A variation of this position is to put both legs on the table.

• Comfortably settled in the bathtub , suspend one leg over the edge. Make sure the water temperature is comfortable and that the stimulator is waterproof. For this purpose, you can purchase a waterproof sex toy with good battery life.

• Kneeling on the bed facing the backrest , maintain your balance with one hand, and with the other, gently hold your stimulator to explore your clitoris.

• Stand with one foot on the chair as if you were going to apply ointment to your leg; but forget the ointment, coat your clitoral area with your favorite lubricant, and pamper your pink button.

• Or simply, get comfortable in your bed , lying on your back or on your stomach!

You will only need a little imagination to find positions conducive to intense arousal.

Alone or with others?

Toys never replace a partner. They are there to enrich your repertoire of pleasure and explore new sexual sensations together. They are a tool to enhance your intimacy and sexual fulfillment .

Your pleasure ally can play a role in your lovemaking with your partner. Are you familiar with the "secret hiding place"? Lie on your stomach with a pillow under your pelvis to elevate your buttocks. Conceal your stimulator between your clitoris and the pillow.

While your partner provides pleasurable penetration, the clitoral stimulator gets to work doing what it does best. We're sure you'll love this threesome.

In case of discomfort or pain during use: who should I consult?

If pain, irritation or dryness persists during the use of a clitoral stimulator , consult a healthcare professional (sexologist, midwife, gynecologist).

This can reveal an underlying condition (vaginismus, hormonal dryness, vestibulodynia, etc.). Take care of yourself and your intimate health; that's the most important thing.

 
Reliable resources to go further

Here are 3 key resources to deepen your knowledge of clitoral pleasure (no pun intended):

• SEP Together Report - Sexuality in Women (2022)

• Female ejaculation and squirting: Myths, controversies and reality, Dr. Samuel Salama and Dr. Pierre Desvaux (2020)

• INSERM Report: Context of sexualities in France (2023)

They recount: their experience with the clitoral stimulator

Because nothing beats real life, here are several stories from women who have tried (and loved) clitoral stimulators . Whether alone, after a breakup, during lockdown, or to spice up their routine… they share their feelings, their epiphanies, and their orgasms. Be inspired by their words, listen to your desires, and above all… explore your pleasure without pressure.

Jeanne, 35 years old: A personal discovery

“ I bought my first sex toy during the March lockdown. I found myself alone at home and I was really bored. On the advice of my best friend, I took the plunge: I bought a clitoral stimulator , because according to her, it was 'crazy stuff'. The first time I tried it, I realized something: having only been with two men in my life, I didn't know much about my body. So it took me a while to figure out how to use the device and position it correctly on my clitoris. But once I managed, wow! I discovered a sensation I'd never known before .”

Elise, 39: Rediscovering the pleasure of being alone

“ I left my children’s father a little less than two years ago and I’m enjoying being single… But during lockdown, you can get a little bored, though (laughs). In August, I had a fling with a very sexually open-minded man , and he’s the one who suggested I buy a small vibrating toy for my solo evenings. So when they announced a second lockdown, I treated myself! I ordered a simple little vibrator from a specialized website to give myself some solo pleasure, and I have to admit I’m really delighted with my purchase! ”

Laurie, 29: A new approach to masturbation

“ I used a sex toy occasionally with my ex-boyfriend to spice things up. But since we broke up, my toy was well hidden away in a corner of my wardrobe. Then, I found myself completely alone during the first lockdown, with no possibility of meeting a partner to spend some quality time with. So, I took it out again! What’s quite funny is that when I was in a relationship, I couldn’t enjoy myself alone : I didn’t dare use it by myself, I felt a bit ashamed… But since I’ve been using it as a single person, I’ve discovered a very different kind of pleasure : I focus on myself and only myself, my feelings and my pleasure. ”

Melanie: A sensory revelation

" I discovered a pleasure I had never known before." The clitoral vacuum has completely changed my perception of masturbation. It's a unique sensation, difficult to describe, but incredibly satisfying .

As you've probably gathered, the clitoral stimulator isn't just a gadget: it's a genuine tool for self-discovery, liberating pleasure, and connecting with your intimacy . Whether you're just exploring female masturbation or looking for an effective, non-contact, and highly targeted sex toy, the clitoral stimulator is for you.

It acts on all the nerve endings of the clitoris, for a powerful, rapid, sometimes even multiple orgasm…

We always recommend reliable models designed for women's bodies , such as Mini Coco, a discreet and remarkably effective clitoral stimulator, or Coco, our best-selling dual clitoral-G-spot stimulation.

And let's remember: there isn't ONE way to experience pleasure. What matters is experimenting, listening to your body , and choosing products designed to respect your vulva, your vagina, and your freedom.

So, ready to transform your intimate moments with a clitoral stimulator designed to make you vibrate a hundredfold?