These beliefs that still haunt our sexuality

Being pursued by Michael Myers or being constantly haunted by preconceived ideas about sexuality: honestly, which scares you the most?

Women's intimate lives are still hampered by numerous prejudices that prevent us from fully experiencing pleasure. Our solution: banish them from our beds with a good dose of education. In this article, we tackle the most persistent beliefs that still haunt our sexuality.

Desire is instantaneous

The first misconception is rarely challenged, yet it causes a great deal of damage. It's the idea that desire appears in the blink of an eye. This belief can put pressure on women, making them feel they must always be ready and available for their partner.

In reality, sexologists distinguish between two types of desire: spontaneous desire and reactive desire.

• The first is the sudden urge to make love at the sight of someone we are attracted to. It is that of romantic heroines whose appetite is ignited at a glance.

• Reactive desire is triggered in response to pleasure. It can appear when we are waiting for a romantic date or when our partner tenderly kisses our neck and raises the temperature.

To know Understanding the nature of one's desire helps to deconstruct the myth of a constant sexual appetite. Sexual pleasure varies along a spectrum between reactive and spontaneous desire, and each person has their own threshold of passion. If you have a low sexual appetite, you may not have yet reached your pleasure threshold, but by changing the context and playing with the parameters, arousal can quickly increase.

Some women are clitoral, others vaginal.

It is often said that some women are clitoral, while others are vaginal, when it comes to orgasm. This misconception creates an artificial division between women, as if they had to belong to a specific category.

When it comes to clarifying the concepts of vaginal and clitoral orgasm , the debate rages among sexologists. Some scientists believe that vaginal orgasm is no different from clitoral orgasm , because during vaginal stimulation, the clitoris is also stimulated. They emphasize that the clitoris is rich in blood vessels and nerves, giving it high sensitivity and making it the quintessential organ of female pleasure.

Others advocate for a distinction between clitoral and vaginal orgasm, arguing that the vagina should not be relegated to the mere role of a "void" after the vulva . These individuals assert that the vagina also possesses its own nerve endings and can provide pleasure during penetration.

It doesn't matter whether you experience pleasure with or without penetration, the important thing is that you are satisfied! This understanding allows us to recognize and value the diversity of women's sexual experiences and preferences.

Vibrators are only for solo pleasure

At Puissante, our main focus is the use of vibrators as a tool for self-exploration.

So when we read that some of your partners feel threatened by the introduction of a toy into your intimate moments, we want to set the record straight.

A vibrator can add more playfulness, intensity, and variety to your intimate relationships. Far from being a potential rival, it becomes a partner in pleasure, perfect for getting things going, during intercourse, or even for a more relaxed approach. Toys are there to help you discover new sensations, alone or with a partner .

The important thing is to communicate about everyone's desires and to allow ourselves to try new experiences to reveal what continues to fuel the flame.

Pleasure diminishes with age

The last belief is perhaps one of the most complicated to deconstruct, because it could be supported by science.

Because the body changes and vaginal dryness can occur, one might believe that libido plummets after menopause . This misconception contributes to the stigmatization and invisibility of older women in terms of their sexuality .

In reality, sexual pleasure knows no age limit . According to the Inserm survey published in 2007, 90% of women over 50 reported sexual activity in the last 12 months.

Even as the body changes, self-knowledge deepens with time and experience. Sexuality becomes more intimate and fulfilling. We become more aware of our erogenous zones and have learned to express our desires. Sexual pleasure is an integral part of women's lives, regardless of their age.

These few beliefs about sexuality are just the tip of the iceberg. At Puissante, we like to think of ourselves as the Titanic and gradually dismantle the preconceived notions that prevent us from enjoying life. If you're in the same mood, we invite you to discover this article that tackles the myth of virginity.