The art of Queening: between feminine pleasure and letting go

Today, we're breaking a new taboo! We wanted to talk to you about a little-known practice that deserves our full attention: queening , also called face sitting . In English, " to queen " literally means "to reign like a queen." And yes, ladies, you are the ones at the center of this practice .

We'll explain how to get into the right conditions to try queening and why we're fans of this position. Let's go .

The basics of queening

Definition and etymology of queening

What exactly does the term " queening " mean? It is a specific sexual practice that places the woman in a position of power over her partner.

Indeed, queening is the act of sitting on your partner's face, offering them an unobstructed and direct view of your intimate parts . At the same time, they can provide you with pleasure through oral stimulation . An effective and very sensual way to reach seventh heaven, wouldn't you say?

According to Urban Dictionary , queening is an ancient art, inherited from Ancient Egypt. It was a way for women of the " upper class " to enjoy sexual gratification without the risk of pregnancy.

As for the expression " facesitting ," it's a bit more explicit and widely used in the English-speaking world to describe the same position. But here at Puissante, we have a soft spot for the term " queening ." I queen, you queen, he/she/it queens, we queen… we love it!

Synonyms and conjugation of the term 'queening'

But don't assume that " queening " and " face sitting " are the only terms used to describe this practice. The sexual lexicon is vast and rich, and this practice is no exception.

We can also talk about "smothering " or " kinging " for men. And in Spanish, it's " asfixia erótica ," which literally means "erotic asphyxiation." You get the idea VERY clearly.

Enough about vocabulary, let's move on to the practical aspect. 

The queen chair: an object of desire

As you've probably gathered, queening requires some preparation and, above all, proper posture to be practiced under the best conditions. And what better than a chair specifically designed for this purpose: the queening chair .

Definition and use of the queening chair

The queening chair is a chair specifically designed to optimize the queening experience . Both elegant and functional, this chair features a hole in the middle that allows you to sit comfortably while still giving your partner access to your private parts .

In other words, the queening chair is an open chair (not an open door) to your pleasure and that of your partner. It's what you call a win-win situation !

Using a queening chair during your lovemaking can radically transform your experience. It not only allows you to feel more comfortable, but also frees you from certain physical constraints that can sometimes accompany queening . And let's be honest, it's also very exciting!

How to choose your queen chair

Choosing your chair is a crucial step to fully enjoying your queening experience . As with any purchase related to your sex life, it's important to consider various criteria to make the right choice. Indeed, not all queening chairs are created equal, and it's essential to find the one that best meets your needs and desires.

Consider factors such as comfort, stability, size, and ease of cleaning . Choose a seat that's wide enough to allow you to sit down effortlessly and comfortably. Stability is also key: the last thing you want is a chair that tips over in the middle of things!

Queening in practice: sexual positions and letting go

Now that we've defined what the art of being a queen is and how to choose the ideal queening chair , it's time to take action!

Main queening positions

To practice queening , a multitude of positions are available. The best-known and most widespread position is, of course, facesitting , where you sit facing your partner with your knees on either side of their head. This position allows you to control the pressure and rhythm of the stimulation , while having an unobstructed view of your partner's face.

But there are other positions to try as well. Why not explore the kneeling position , where you are on all fours above your partner, or the reverse seated position, where you turn your back to your partner?

These variations can add a new dimension to your experience and allow you to discover new sensations . The most important thing is to find the position that suits you best and to communicate openly with your partner so that he or she can stimulate you in the way that pleases you most. Never forget that communication is the key to a fulfilling sex life !

A prerequisite for queening: letting go

Practicing queening It's also an excellent way to develop your ability to let go . Sitting on your partner's face, you decide the rhythm, the intensity, the pressure... In short, you're in control !

This position of power can help you feel more confident and free yourself from certain inhibitions.

Many women report that queening has had a positive impact on their sex life, but also on their self-esteem. Indeed, taking the lead can be very liberating and boost your confidence.

By literally placing you on top of your partner, queening can help you feel more powerful , more desirable, and more comfortable with your body and sexuality. Furthermore, this practice allows you to explore your body and desires at your own pace, within a safe and consensual framework. So, why not give it a try? 

Queening: a practice for everyone?

Of course, this sexual act isn't for everyone. Some people may find it intimidating or uncomfortable. Never feel obligated to try it if you're not comfortable with the idea. However, if you're open-minded and enjoy a degree of dominance, face sitting could be a great addition to your sexual repertoire.

It's important to remember that respect and communication are essential in any sexual practice. Before engaging in queening , discuss it with your partner, express your desires and boundaries, and make sure you're both comfortable with the idea.

Other ways to multiply your pleasure

If you are not comfortable or do not yet feel ready to offer your entire intimacy to your partner, don't panic, there are a multitude of sexual practices you can try!

Of course, at Puissante we recommend doing yourself good, no matter how: whether alone or with others, the important thing is that pleasure counts , always.

The practice of face sitting , even though it's a rather dominant position, requires, due to the view it offers, a certain letting go and total self-acceptance . If you're not quite there yet, but it appeals to you, don't hesitate to start slowly, by introducing a vibrator into your intimate moments.

Indeed, using a vibrator with your partner already puts you in the driver's seat of masturbation and stimulation without penetration . This will help you let go in front of your partner without feeling completely vulnerable. And it can also allow you to explore new ways of caressing each other !

With Coco , for example, you can begin this new adventure gently. Its silicone tip perfectly conforms to the shape of your clitoris for maximum pleasure, without too much effort.

Your partner can then place the suction cup on your clitoris and, with their other hand, let their imagination run wild. You let them be in control, while remaining attentive.

Once this trust is established, it's easier to take the plunge and start practicing face sitting . Go for it and let your desires guide you.