Our best tips for trying anal pleasure gently

At Puissante, we love challenging taboos and breaking them down. And what could be more forbidden than anal pleasure? Out of fear of judgment or because of preconceived notions, this practice is often dismissed out of hand.

Anal pleasure is discussed far too little. Or when it is, it's discussed incorrectly. Taboo, judged, caricatured… anal sex is still too often excluded from conversations about pleasure , especially when it comes to women. Yet, female anal pleasure is very real, intense, and above all, profoundly pleasurable.

Whether you are a woman, a man, a curious partner, or someone looking to expand their knowledge of sexuality, this guide will accompany you in exploring anal pleasure with practical advice, suitable positions, ideas for sex toys (hello anal plug) and above all, a ton of gentleness and pleasure. 

At Puissante, we love to speak the truth, break down taboos, and offer you pages full of exploration, kindness, and truth.
In this article, we share our best tips for gently trying anal pleasure.

Why explore anal pleasure?

Because anal pleasure is a source of enjoyment that is often ignored.
The anus, rich in nerve endings, can offer new sensations, whether you are a woman, a man or a non-binary person.

It's a sexual practice that breaks away from the usual scripts. A way to broaden one's sexuality, to discover a new form of penetration , to vary sexual relations and to break free from classic heteronormative patterns (vaginal penetration / penis / orgasm / curtain).

Anal pleasure can be intense with or without penetration, with or without sex toys, alone or with a partner, for men, women, and anyone who wants to explore themselves. In short, the combinations are endless.

The anus then presents itself as a gateway to orgasm, and a territory to explore if (and only if) the desire is there.

Let's forget the preconceived notions. Anal sex doesn't define your sexual orientation or your personality. It's part of a curious, confident, and uninhibited sexuality.
Women, men, couples, single people: anal pleasure is for you, if you want it. And nobody has the right to judge that.

Anal pleasure: a practice of desire and listening

Practicing anal sex isn't about ticking a box in the Kama Sutra; it's about offering yourself a unique sensory experience. This type of practice requires attention, dialogue, and mutual listening. Nothing is forced. Anal sex is slow sex .

Anal pleasure should never be an obligation. Just because "others are trying it" doesn't mean you have to. The only right time is when you want to. That desire may change, or it may never exist! In any case, that's OK.

Taboo is often more of a barrier than the anus itself .

It's normal to have fears: fear of pain, fear of it being "dirty," fear of being judged. But all these fears disappear when you proceed with the right advice, lubricant , gentleness, and self-love (yes, always self-love, even in anal sex).

The key to anal pleasure: relaxation and lubrication

The anal sphincter is a strong, voluntary muscle that is often tense. For anal pleasure to occur, it needs to relax. And for that, two magic words: relaxation and lubrication.

For anal penetration to be pleasurable, the body must be relaxed. The sphincter is a powerful muscle that is not easily tamed. You must take your time, breathe, relax, and proceed step by step.
Create a sensual cocoon: dim lighting, soft music, caresses around the anus… Everything is there to make the mind feel safe.
Anal pleasure begins in the mind.

If you're in a relationship: talk things through, set boundaries, and express your desires before sex. Anal sex can be a wonderful moment of intimacy, provided it's consensual. Open communication fosters trust and relaxation.
This also applies when you're alone: ask yourself questions and listen to yourself!

No anal pleasure without lubricant . That's non-negotiable. The anus doesn't produce natural lubrication . So you have to add a lot!

Special anal lubricant is the most basic thing. In large quantities.
Water-based (compatible with vaginas, condoms, and sex toys) or silicone-based (longer lasting). Apply it to the sex toy, penis, finger, anus, plug… basically anything you plan to use. Reapply as soon as it dries.
Anal pleasure has to be smooth, or nothing!

The best positions for anal pleasure

There are a thousand sexual positions for exploring anal sex, whether gently or intensely. Here are our favorites to boost the pleasure.

• The position of the small spoon: cozy and reassuring.

• The reverse missionary position: to see the other person and control penetration.

• Anal doggy style sex: a classic, worth rediscovering in a slower version. This position offers intense stimulation.

• Legs in the air: perfect for stimulating the prostate or increasing anal sensations.

• Sitting face to face: intimate, connected, ultra-sensual. For gentle and soothing stimulation.

• The prone position (lazy anal): for moments of letting go

These positions are stepping stones to intense sensations, deep anal orgasms, and sometimes more complete, more varied sexual relations.

Repeat as often as you like: explore, adjust, and try again. Anal pleasure is a skill that is learned and reinvented. Don't aim for orgasm on the first try ; instead, enjoy the experience as a whole. Indeed, each position offers different stimulation for endless discovery.

Sex toys for anal pleasure

Anal sex toys aren't just for "experts ." Quite the opposite. They're your best allies for discovering this type of practice gently and safely, mastering penetration, exploring your anal sexuality, and achieving powerful orgasms. Below is a selection of what's available:

The anal plug

A classic. The anal plug can be used alone or with a partner, during masturbation or intercourse. Available in all sizes, textures, prices, and colors.

The anal vibrator

Gentle or explosive vibrations in the anus = (almost) guaranteed anal orgasms. Its price is generally higher due to the presence of a motor.

The anal beads

Beads that slide in and out one by one. Each bead brings a different wave of sensation. Perfect for playing with the build-up to orgasm. Often affordable.

The prostate stimulator

Especially for men and their prostate : this device is a source of pleasure too often overlooked, but capable of triggering prostatic orgasms of unprecedented intensity. Specially designed for stimulating this area, its price varies!

Hygiene and safety: the fundamentals of anal practice

Many people are afraid of anal sex, mainly because of potential pain and hygiene concerns.
Spoiler alert: a shower is enough . An internal enema is a choice, not a necessity.

For partners, reports must always be made with consent, with secure objects (never without a base), and without ever forcing.

To summarize, a sodomy-friendly process is:

• Classic shower: no need to wash the inside of the area.

• A gentle enema if that makes her feel better.

• Cleaning sex toys after use.

• No back-and-forth between the anus and vagina without protection. These are two different areas with different acidity levels and bacteria!

• And above all: never insert an object not designed for the anus (bye everyday objects).

It can't be said enough: anal pleasure is never an obligation . You do it if you want to. If you don't want to? You don't. Period.

In the world of pleasure, anal sex (sodomy) can sometimes still be perceived as a fantasy or a transgression. At Puissante, we say: no. It's simply another way to love, to connect, to feel.

Anal pleasure isn't just a technical or physical practice. It's a true sexual experience. It's about learning to trust yourself, to let go, to feel differently. It's about rediscovering your relationship with sex, with your body, with your partner. It's about discovering a previously unknown area.

In a relationship, it can create incredible intimacy. Alone, it can strengthen the connection to oneself. In both men and women, this sexual practice has the power to reveal deeper , longer-lasting orgasms , sometimes prostatic, sometimes multiorgasmic .

Discovering anal pleasure opens the door to a whole new aspect of one's sexuality. It means saying yes to curiosity, to inventive sexual relationships, to new experiences, to a love of the body without constraints.

You want to treat yourself? You can. You want to wait? You can. You want to never try? That's OK too.

Regardless of your gender, orientation, age, or stage of life, whether you are a woman, a man, or somewhere in between, whether you are with a partner or alone, anal pleasure is for you if you desire it.

Anal pleasure is a sexual practice like any other. No dirtier, no more extreme, no riskier. It's a way to love, to know oneself, to give oneself pleasure.

Curious to discover other pleasurable practices? How about trying humping?