He Gave Her a Vibrator Without Ever Talking About It: Interview with a Man Who Dared

At Puissante, we often talk about first times: first sex toy, first solo pleasure, first postpartum exploration, first discussion between friends... But this one, we had never discussed it before.

And yet, it deserves our full attention: what goes on in the mind of a man who gives a vibrator to his partner ... without them ever having discussed the subject together? Is it a risk? A sign of love? An invitation to discover each other? 💌

Mathieu (false name used to transcribe the interview anonymously), 50, agreed to share his inner journey and his feedback. What he tells us is at once modest, funny, courageous, and infinitely human.
A story we would like everyone to read.
Because it gently and honestly opens up the discussion about intimacy within the couple. 💬

We'll give you all this below, without filter or modification! 

Mathieu 's interview : the surprise gift for his wife

1. Is your partner's pleasure a topic you've discussed together before all this?

“Well, not really, if by pleasure you mean 'solo self-pleasure.' We almost never touched on the subject of masturbation.”

2. What made you decide to give your partner a vibrator?

“I have no idea, probably the desire for my wife to be able to enjoy herself, with a toy she would never have bought herself. Sex toys are often a subject of laughter among friends or colleagues. Very few people admit to using these objects.
I was only able to have a serious discussion on this subject with two female colleagues only 3 or 4 years ago. As for my wife, she never expressed the desire to have a vibrator, At least not with me. I don't know if she ever brings it up when she's with her friends. For my part, I was looking for a special Christmas gift, something out of the ordinary, something that would surprise her. Continued below…” 💭

3. What emotions did you feel throughout this adventure (from thinking, to choosing, to receiving the gift)?

“I thought about it for many weeks. Sometimes delighted by this original idea, sometimes wary and not at all sure how this gift would be interpreted. 🤔
I didn't tell anyone about it, I didn't really do any research on the internet to find out if this kind of gift was done or if it could be perceived badly. One day, I made up my mind, I went to your site, I selected the Coco, put it in the basket, then my finger was hovering over the "validate basket" button for a few seconds, still not 100% sure.
I finally took the plunge, telling myself, too bad if my wife takes it badly, I had an argument for why I was giving her this toy. The inventory of the benefits of Coco was on your site…” 📋

4. How did you discover Puissante? And why did you choose a product from this particular brand?

“I discovered Coco by chance, when I came across an excerpt from a TV show with Marie and André Manoukian who was testing Coco on the back of his hand. 📺
This is the starting point for this gift idea. I then consulted your site to get more details on this item.”

5. After offering the Coco, did a conversation open up between the two of you? Or did it remain something discreet but symbolic?

“ I offered the Coco to my wife after the Christmas dinner guests left . Delighted but a little tired from the evening, we debriefed this festive time together, with a cigarette on the terrace. 💬
I went to look for his gift hidden in the cellar. I was trembling; I had been thinking about it all evening, about this moment, which was now here. I couldn't turn back now.
I offered it to him, unsteadily. 💝
She was surprised to receive yet another surprise gift, which she weighed and wondered what it was. Removing the wrapping paper, she took a moment to look at the box, not immediately understanding what it was. Then, she made a magnificent "hooo!!" before giggling for a few seconds, a little embarrassed. I seem to remember that she even blushed.
She asked me why I was giving her this gift. I then explained my hesitation about buying her her first sex toy, but also the benefits of using it. I told her that she was free to use it or not, and that I wouldn't ask her any questions about it.
It was at this precise moment that we broached the subject of masturbation, and that she practiced it, sometimes "quick and dirty." I was learning something. 💡
She finally asked me if I wanted us to use it together one day. I told her, "Why not? It's not obligatory. It's your toy. I didn't buy it with me in mind, but why not?" I know she tried it; she told me so one day during a casual conversation. Since then, we haven't discussed the subject at all.

6. In your opinion, are there many men who would like to do this, but don't dare? If you could talk to these men, what would you like to say to them?

“I have no idea how many men want to give their partners a sex toy. Men sometimes joke about it, but nothing serious. Of all my friends, only one knew about my gift. He congratulated me for daring to do it , telling me it was a courageous act of love. This is to tell you that as a man, it is not common to dare to take the plunge on this subject. At least, in my circle. But it is difficult to estimate what affects the private life of each person. Only a survey could give us an idea of the reality on the ground.

I don't really have anything to say to men, this choice is specific to each person, with their knowledge of the other and their instinct. You just have to, in my opinion, want to please without imposing anything. ” 👍

7. If Puissante created a space for discussion or content aimed at men, what would you like to find there?

“Big question Lola.

Topics that talk about what men and women think about sexuality, how to talk calmly about sexuality in a couple, what each person's expectations are , how men talk about sexuality among themselves, how women talk about sexuality among themselves, how to please to a woman/man…

No, honestly, I don't know. Rereading myself, I don't know."

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An intimate story, a universal subject

Mathieu 's testimony is precious. It touches on modesty , love, curiosity, and the fear of doing wrong . It shows that a vibrator is not just an object, but a revealer . A trigger for dialogue, an invitation to personal pleasure, a small grain of sand in the sexual silence of the couple.

It also reminds us that vibrators aren't "against" men, but with them. That their place isn't necessarily in bed with a partner, but that they can enter it gently, respectfully, with that "what if?" that opens the door to possibilities.

Giving a vibrator is sometimes daring to say an unspoken word of love. What if this was the most beautiful statement?

Thanks to Mathieu for his trust, his modesty, his accuracy.

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