Too often surrounded by myths and misunderstandings, vaginal orgasm is considered unattainable and inaccessible for many women. However, by taking the time to understand this type of orgasm, and especially what it is not, you can access an explosion of pleasure, alone or with others. In this article, we demystify vaginal pleasure and share our best tips for pleasing yourself and achieving the famous vaginal orgasm.
Vaginal orgasm: deconstructing a myth
Before we embark on the exploration of vaginal orgasm, we need to deconstruct some deeply held beliefs about female pleasure.
And as is often the case, our dear friend Freud catalyzes centuries of misogyny and repression of women's pleasure.
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In the early 20th century , Sigmund Freud supported the idea that women could achieve orgasm through two different pathways: the first pathway was through the clitoris , which he saw as a more infantile orgasm. The second pathway that Freud presented to us was through the vagina, which he saw as a more mature orgasm . This belief was based on the fact that Freud believed that women could be divided into two categories for their orgasmic experiences.
Yet, in the eyes of science and biology, these two categories: "clitoral" and "vaginal" are nothing more than inaccurate beliefs based on a complete lack of knowledge of female anatomy.
Spoiler alert : in reality, the clitoris is not limited to the visible external part. It also extends internally and forms a structure that encompasses the area around the entrance to the vagina.
This internal part of the clitoris, which has been known to us since 1600 , was finally correctly represented only 200 years later in school books published by Magnard , in 1800. This representation was absolutely essential for understanding the entirety of the functions of the body and the complexity of vaginal orgasm.
The very idea of vaginal orgasm is therefore not limited to simple contact with the vaginal walls. It is associated with stimulation of the G-spot or even by pressure.
The important thing to remember is that this internal part of the clitoris includes stimulation of the clitoris located outside the vagina as well as the sensitive areas located at the entrance to it, including a multitude of sensory receptors.
Understanding the G-zone
Contrary to popular belief, the G-spot is not a magic button that triggers an instant orgasm.
This erogenous zone, also known as the Grafenberg point , is located on the anterior wall of the vagina , a few centimeters from the entrance . It is made up of erectile tissue , glands and nerve endings. Often described as a small rough or bumpy area , the G-spot is often different from one woman to another in its shape, size, but especially its sensitivity.
Some experts claim that the G-spot is actually an internal extension of the clitoris , which would explain its sensitivity and its ability to cause orgasm.
Additionally, there are other sensitive areas located near the vagina, such as the tissues surrounding the urethra and the vaginal walls. These two areas can also contribute to strong sexual pleasure , and even cause orgasm in some women!
So that's why it's important to know both the theory and the practice of your body and your anatomy. You will be able to explore new horizons of pleasure and well-being. And why not reach an orgasm where you don't expect it. 🔥
Stimulate vaginal pleasure
With fingers
Why not go back to basics and give yourself some satisfaction using both hands?
When you start, be gentle. Whether you are alone or with someone else, you can start by caressing your chest , then your thigh while your +1 has fun making you feel good by tickling your clitoris.
Then, as the sexual tension builds, gently slide in a first finger and gradually slide in a second for more sensation and excitement.
Add fingers as arousal builds, but be gentle as the clitoris is incredibly sensitive , with over 8,000 nerve endings.
If you want to pleasure another woman with your hands, there are several techniques you can use. You can start by spreading her labia with one hand and using the fingers of the other to penetrate her. Then slide your fingers in a v shape over the clitoris, then tap the pubic area and clitoris with the pads of your fingers, or make circles around the clitoris. Experiment with different techniques, speeds, and pressure levels to find what works best.
As for G-spot stimulation , insert one or two fingers in gentle up-and-down motions into the top of the vagina. If you notice a textured area that may look like a bump, you're probably close.
And remember! Fingering isn't just for foreplay.
Penetrative pleasure accessories
On one side, we find sexual accessories , designed to excite vaginal pleasure.
Be careful not to get lost among the wide range of items available, such as vibrating eggs, G-spot stimulators or vibrators. This variety of products offers you a diversity of textures, shapes and
features to meet a maximum number of preferences .
Whether you're looking for gentle, sensual stimulation or a more intense, hot experience , these naughty toys can be tailored to your needs and sensory exploration.
At Puissante, you will find Coco , our best-seller , a sex toy that allows for double stimulation . Coco has both a suction part that is positioned on the external clitoris and a vibrating part that can stimulate the vagina or the external parts of the vulva. What is even more interesting with this vibrator is that it allows you to do both at the same time or just one of the two! The choice is yours.
Be curious, explore different options to discover what you like best and therefore enrich your sex life .
Our tips for taking the path to vaginal orgasm
The brain in off mode
If there was only one state of mind to adopt to reach the stars, it would be that of letting go. We know that it is easy to say but often difficult to execute.
The real question when it comes to a two-person relationship or even a moment of solo pleasure is "Do I really want it?" , because if you are stressed, in a hurry, and just want to please your +1, don't try our method. It's important to want to make love!
Communicate with your partner about your desires, about what you like or take time for yourself and to please yourself.
In addition, it is a small exercise to do at home, but which will allow you to relax:
- Take some time to relax every day, even 10 minutes is enough in a calm environment.
- Put down your phone.
- Then start by learning to breathe well in a calm and deep way. Inhale for 3 counts and exhale for 5. Concentrate on lengthening the breath.
- Enjoy yourself and above all, don't impose any rules on yourself.
Sometimes, staying in your comfort zone also allows you to find pleasure without putting pressure on yourself during intercourse. The more comfortable you feel in a position, the more relaxed you will be and therefore more likely to reach seventh heaven!
And a little scoop, a scientific study conducted in 2017 by the BBC would prove that keeping your socks on during intimate intercourse would make it easier to reach orgasm , so yes it's not the sexiest technique we grant you, but it's worth a try, right?
If you decide to try this trick, please let us know the results!
The Holy Grail of Pleasure: Combining Stimulation
The ultimate secret to achieving the Holy Grail of pleasure lies in the subtle art of combining different stimulations.
It is true that penetration alone is often not enough to trigger orgasm for most women. That is where all the magic lies: in exploring and combining the sensations offered by the different erogenous zones of our body. Imagine: a gentle caress on the clitoris, combined with sensual kisses on the neck and delicate touches on the breasts. Or, naughty games with hands and tongue, exploring the most sensitive corners of the body.
By skillfully blending these different forms of stimulation, you open the door to an even more intense and rewarding ocean of pleasure. Take the time to discover what makes you tick, and don't hesitate to communicate openly with your partner to create a symphony of sensations together that will transport you to seventh heaven. After all, it is by exploring these different paths to pleasure that you can truly reach unforgettable orgasmic heights.
I don't enjoy penetration, is that serious?
Fed by the media and mainstream pornography, we might believe that the only real pleasure comes from penetration. That in a few thrusts, we should reach a mind-blowing orgasm.
Yet, this is all just cinema. Yes, vaginal orgasm exists, but it is not the core of women's sex lives.
In 2019, a large survey revealed that only 18% of women achieve orgasm during penetrative sex.
This figure highlights a key piece of information in understanding female pleasure: stimulation of the external part of the clitoris plays a central role in achieving orgasm.
Chances are, most of your loved ones don't get orgasms from penetration alone either.
There are a myriad of other ways to experience pleasure and orgasm. There are your hands, your partner's hands, their mouth, their hands and their mouth at the same time.
