Today, we are going to talk about a subject that is sometimes taboo: non-penetrative sex . You may have heard of this practice before, but perhaps you have never really explored it. Well, now is the time to change that!
In this article, we'll tell you all about non-penetrative sex, its benefits, its different forms, and how you can explore it in your own sex life .
According to all the surveys on women's sexuality and pleasure , it seems that women give more importance to what happens outside of penetration than to the act itself. Penetration is not guaranteed to provide more pleasure, while the variety of sexual practices seems to play a major role in pleasure and achieving orgasm in women.
🤔 First of all, what is sexuality without penetration?
As the name suggests, it is any form of sexuality that does not require penetration. This can include caressing, kissing, massage, oral sex, mutual masturbation, role-playing, and much more. There are no limits to what you can explore!
Why is it important to talk about non-penetrative sex?
Simply because it can help you discover new forms of pleasure and strengthen intimacy in your relationship. It can also be a safer alternative to penetration, as it reduces the risk of transmitting sexually transmitted infections.
When practicing sex without penetration, the ability to adapt and spontaneity are assets that allow you to explore and discover new things sexually. This quality is also relevant outside the sexual context.
What are the advantages of non-penetrative sex? 👍
You can explore new erogenous zones, try different positions, and get to know your body and that of your partner better. It can also help build intimacy in your relationship. By taking the time to explore new forms of pleasure, you can connect more deeply with your partner and strengthen communication in your relationship. Isn't that great?
But unfortunately, there are often misconceptions about non-penetrative sex. Some people think that penetration is necessary to achieve orgasm, but that's not true!
There are many ways to experience pleasure, and everyone has their own preferences.
Other people may stigmatize certain forms of non-penetrative sex, such as oral sex, but there's nothing wrong with that. Sexuality is personal, and everyone should explore what works for them.
Also to know: Sexologists can't help but clash when it comes to clarifying the notions of vaginal and clitoral orgasms . There is a group of scientists who believe that vaginal orgasms are indistinguishable from clitoral orgasms.
In conclusion, the myth of the existence of the vaginal orgasm is unfounded and female sexual pleasure comes exclusively from the stimulation of the clitoris . The only acceptable variation is in the source of excitement, whether vaginal or clitoral.
What are the different forms non-penetrative sex can take?
Cunnilingus or fellatio . It can be an incredible source of pleasure for both partners, and it can also help build intimacy in your relationship.
But there are also simpler ways such as:
sensual massages, and more.
By exploring different erogenous zones on your partner's body, you can discover new forms of pleasure and build intimacy in your relationship.
Mutual masturbation is another form of non-penetrative sex, it involves both partners masturbating together and watching each other. 👀
Indeed, it can be an incredibly erotic and intimate experience that can also help both partners better understand what works for the other.
Role-playing and domination/submission are also a form of non-penetrative sex with the staging of scenarios where one partner is dominant and the other is submissive, or even erotic fantasy scenarios. Make room for your imagination!
Vibrators can be a fantastic tool to explore your sexuality without penetration, they can be used to stimulate the clitoris, nipples, perineum or any other erogenous zone of the body.
Vibrators are often used to help you reach orgasm, but they can also be used for the mutual pleasure of you and your partner, indeed there are a wide variety of models available to suit all your preferences and needs.
Vibrating vibrators , for example, can be small in size and can be easily slipped between you and your partner during foreplay. Wand vibrators are larger and can be used for full-body massages.
There are also connected vibrators , which can be controlled remotely via a smartphone app, to add a dimension of fun and surprise to your sexual experience.
Finally, suction vibrators , on the other hand, are specially designed to simulate the sensations of a mouth or tongue on the clitoris.
Kunyaza is a traditional Central African sexual practice that can be an erotic and intimate experience for you and your partner, even without penetration. This practice involves the stimulation of the clitoris through rapid and repetitive movements of the erect penis, called "bamboo stroke". You can adapt this practice to non-penetrative sex by using gentle caresses, vibrators, or fingers to stimulate your clitoris . The quick, repetitive movements are meant to bring you to orgasm.
Communication, patience and respect for the limits of each partner are essential for a successful experience: do not forget to discuss with your partner your desires, limits and preferences so that everyone can fully enjoy this sexual exploration.
Massage can be a great way to explore intimacy with your partner without needing to touch your genitals. By focusing on your partner's upper body, massaging their back and shoulders, you can create a sensual and relaxing experience. Skin-to-skin contact will help release oxytocin, the same chemical released during sex, which can enhance intimacy and connection between you and your partner.
To add an extra dimension, you can introduce temperature play using warming massage oils or using ice cubes for cooler sensations! 🧊
Whichever you choose, remember to communicate with your partner and respect each other's boundaries and preferences for a sensual and pleasurable experience.
How can you approach this practice in your own sex life? 🧐
First of all, communication is essential: talk to your partner about your desires, your limits, and what excites you, indeed, trust and consent are essential in any sexual practice. 🙂
Next, take your time and listen to your body and that of your partner. 👂 Explore new erogenous zones and find out what works for you. Remember that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to experience pleasure, and that everyone is different.
Finally, don't be afraid to try new things! Try different positions , sex toys , role play , and more, you might be surprised to discover new sensations and build intimacy in your relationship.
In conclusion, ladies, non-penetrative sex can be an incredibly erotic and intimate way to explore new forms of pleasure and build intimacy in your relationship. So don't be afraid to explore and find out what works for you and your partner. Take your time, communicate, and have fun! 🎉