Long remained a taboo subject and considered obscene, pornography for several decades has taken on an enormous dimension, especially with the advent of the web. Its consumption is on the rise. Porn is becoming more and more central to couples.
How is porn perceived in the sexuality of a couple ? What are the effects of pornography consumption on the life of a couple?
- What is the behavior of couples vis-à-vis pornography?
- The benefits of couple pornography
- The risks of porn consumption
- Combine porn and vibrator
- alternatives to porn
- Podcasts
- The lectures
- ethical porn
What is the behavior of today's couples vis-à-vis pornography?
The advent of playboy magazine in 1950 caused much more of a certain predisposition of society to pornography. Related to masturbation , viewing pornography for men or women in a relationship was long seen as a shameful and lonely practice.
The 2014 IFOP survey report shows that women minimize their spouse's porn consumption. Among the games likely to awaken the couple's libido, porn figures prominently in the sex repertoire of the French. 43% of them say they have already made love in front of this type of film.
According to a survey carried out by Ifop for Elle on "the sex life of French women in 2019", one in two women (47%) admits having already been on an X site, i.e. a proportion more than ten times higher than that observed in France. 2006.
Sometimes pornography serves as a source of inspiration for some of us. Thus, nearly 47% admit to having already tried to redo the positions or scenes of these videos (40% in 2009).
Pornography for two, what are the benefits?
According to Andrea Waling , a researcher on sexuality at La Trobe University, pornography can be very positive if it is "consumed" well. In particular, it would strengthen the intimacy of couples wishing to explore their erotic fantasies together, by creating a more open and tolerant environment.
Pornography in the life of a couple has several positive impacts. Porn mainly serves as a stimulant for sex in a relationship. Other times, it serves as a means of enjoyment alone or with several in a couple.
On rare occasions, pornography is used to alleviate problems affecting the couple's sexuality. Couple pornography helps break the routine and relaunch the libido when the attraction in the couple tends to disappear.
Watching porn as a couple can liberate partners' erotic imaginations, boost couples' sexuality. It allows the man as well as the woman to reveal themselves to each other, to appropriate the scenarios, to share their fantasies.
In 2011, a Bridge et al study demonstrates the positive impact of pornography on women's sexual satisfaction. Unlike the male gender, women integrate porn into their life as a couple and indulge in it alone infrequently.
Pornographic films and videos serve as sex educators in learning sex practices, especially for the shyest. A survey shows that by allowing the release and fulfillment of fantasies , pornography decreases sexual aggression.
Watching erotic films as a couple, what can be the risks?
Couples need to realize that pornography does not reflect the reality of a couple's sexuality. This can cause complexes in men or women, especially if they are unable to tell the difference. Another not insignificant point, in pornographic content, the participants necessarily reach orgasm. An idea that is far from being the reality in the life of a couple .
More than a third of men under 25 admit to having already been complexed by the size of their penis while watching a porn film, reveals an Ifop survey. X films can generate complexes in men and also spread sexual codes, such as full hair removal.
Other forms of enjoyment can satisfy both parties. Which in no way detracts from the successful nature of sex. Often in porn videos, not much space is given to foreplay, so there is often no prior arousal.
Normally, the sexuality of the couple depends on the character of each partner depending on whether he is dominant or dominated. Most often in a virtual sex video, the woman is used as a sexual object dedicated to satisfying the fantasies of the other. This is a very pejorative view of reality.
By its easy side and so enjoyable alone or in couple, pornography can become an addiction thus endangering the relationship. The partner consuming porn can no longer be satisfied with the sexuality of his couple. This risks creating an emotional detachment vis-à-vis the other.
Some women/men experience distrust, betrayal or anger towards this consumption by their partner. They view it as infidelity and feel less attractive and untrustworthy. This creates problems and tensions in couples.
Although the evidence for possible health benefits of pornography viewing is thin, sexologists agree that it all depends on how long you spend consuming porn and what type of videos you watch.
Combine erotic film & vibrator
According to the Tenga 2020 survey, 45% of French people have already used vibrators. Thus, many are those who seek excitement and pleasure from the combined use of porn and vibrator .
Pornography is the stimulant most used as a method of stimulation. Its consumption serves as a conditioning for many before masturbation with the vibrator.
Once the excitement has been triggered by the video, your vibrator can come into play. However, the choice of vibrator matters and must be meticulous! We obviously recommend our two Coco and spinning top vibrators 😌 .
You can use the vibrating part of the Coco vibrator to stimulate the outside of the clit or other erogenous parts (lips, breasts). You can also use it in penetration to caress the bottom of the vagina, especially the G-spot !
The suction part is purely non-penetrating. Because of its pressure waves, it is used for sucking the clitoris or the breasts . You can chain all this while continuing to consume porn, this ensures you several varieties of pleasant sensations related to visual, physical and sound arousal. 🤩
In addition, the stem separating the two parts of the Coco vibrator is flexible. As a result, you can use both parts simultaneously for separate caresses. The shape of the Top vibrator is ideal for allowing you to explore all the erogenous zones of your body!
You can combine the Toupie, Coco vibrators and porn content for unprecedented orgasms throughout your body. Combining vibrator and erotic videos can be an intense and unique experience for a couple .
Alternatives to porn:
After trying, you still don't like porn? Do not panic !
Many alternatives exist, we reveal some of them to you:
1. Podcasts:
breaking wave
In perpetual search for new experiences, at Puissante we love to share our new tips with you! Erotic audio fictions are part of our favorites 🥰
Among our favourites: Déferlante. Self-proclaimed " provocative pleasure podcast ", the Belgian program will introduce you to an erotic audio story every Sunday at 8 p.m., for your greatest pleasure.
With more than 70,000 plays, Déferlante 's numerous archives can be found on most listening platforms and also on their website . Whatever your current mood, you should find something to please you!
VOXXX
VOXXX , created by Olympe de G., caused a real revolution in the world of sex podcasts. ASMR atmosphere, VOXXX plunges you into different pornographic scenarios, well accompanied by characters with sometimes sensual, sulphurous or transgressive voices.
The episodes for audiophile libido are archived and easily found via a search engine . Simply register on VOXXX+ to access it.
And don't worry, the last 10 episodes are available on your favorite listening platform. 🙌
Charlie's Erotic Readings
The idea of this awesome podcast is to restore the image of “prank” stories . Challenge met hands down thanks to immersive and enjoyable readings .
We find there modern works of authors and autrices, whose pen was considered ungrateful and who did not have access to the literary recognition they deserve.
In the same spirit, we highly recommend CtrlX , created by a group of journalists, artists and digital profiles. 🎧
2. Books 📚
Venus Erotica by Anais Nin
THE great classic of women's erotic literature. Venus Erotica is often cited as the only author in pleasure literature rankings alongside the Marquis de Sade, DH Lawrence and Henry Miller.
The text becomes master of our pleasure , keeps us spellbound as we approach bliss, our beats per minute race in synchronization with the protagonists and enjoyment overwhelms us . 🔥
Story of O by Pauline Réage
Pauline Réage, whose real name is Dominique Aury, gives us an iconic sadomasochistic story .
It is the story of a young girl, her beginnings in sexuality and her exploration of total abandonment to the other . Dating from the 1950s, this work is still controversial to this day, but is one of the classics of erotic writings. 🥇
Love it or hate it, the Story of O has its place in a list of resources for self-indulgence .
The Scarlet Notebook and Losing Breath by Anne Rachet
Subtitled Lesbian Erotic Fragments, the Scarlet Notebook is not fiction . It is a set of texts and illustrations testifying to the intimate journey of the writer. 📕
Perdre Haleine completes the first story by giving us moments of auto-erotism . A true ode to female masturbation , Perdre Haleine gives us a taste for reflection and words as a preamble to sensual pleasure.
3. Ethical porn 😇
Pornography is now an integral part of self-taught sex education for many of us. Feminist, inclusive, respectful and diverse, The Ethical Porn Movement offers other types of videos, far from the harmful clichés of mainstream porn. 💦
The framing is positioned on all the extras , whether they are men, women or non-binary. And it's the same for the way of giving pleasure, the time spent giving and receiving it. Exit the stereotypes, in these videos the man gives as much as he receives.
Distancing itself from the dominant male gauze (masculine gender shot, present in most erotic films and films in general), ethical porn offers a variety of sensitivities, sexualities and experiences. Straight queer couples, free relationships, transgender people, non-binary profiles and also a great diversity of practices. ⚧️
Some references of ethical porn that we have selected for you:
- XConfessions of Erika Lust
- Carmina Pink Square
- Bellesa
